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[vinegar]

I understand how u feel....I dislike man raises his voice on woman.


My DH does that often.When i chose to ignore his consistent argument,he'll keep following me,shouting n argue.Tell him i would like to be alone n stop discuss anymore,i cry,also no use. :sad: No showing of sympathy :stompfeet: ...If can't talk,will end up cold war.

The longest cold war we've was 6mth.I nearly wanna go to lawyer n file for divorce.

[janet88]

vinegar:

Kids r smart.They know how to make judgment.


Could it be he is stress fr. work? If i sense my DH not happy,I know either his job stress or stress fr his family......

continue to wash his towel everyday without putting a clean one back??No,u shld stop washing his towel.

Even if work stress, he cannot use me as punching bag...no such thing.
That idiot will not be bothered if I do not wash towel. But washing and not putting another one back is fun.
So I stay at home no stress lah?

Stress from his family NOT my prob...his family what.
It's almost weekend...I can live without talking...but he will be very awkward bcos I can show black face.

[KSmom8]

I hate it when man shout at woman. No excuses. Even if stressed.


My DH also lost temper and shouted at me. Also in car with kids, during CNY. Unfortunately, I couldn’t control so it became a shouting match. I think the kids were scared. I regretted it.

3 weeks later, he lost his temper over a trivial thing. This time, he shouted and when he was done. I asked calmly whether it was necessary to shout and lose temper over such a small thing. If he don’t want to do, I can do it. More effective.

I’m still fuming over his outbursts. Cold War really does not affect him and i still talk to him when necessary cos there are kids around. Instead, I don’t bother much about him or what he says. Am thinking of what to buy and charge to his card… … Something expensive that’ll make me happy.

[TheAnswer]

vinegar:

I understand how u feel....I dislike man raises his voice on woman.


My DH does that often.When i chose to ignore his consistent argument,he'll keep following me,shouting n argue.Tell him i would like to be alone n stop discuss anymore,i cry,also no use. :sad: No showing of sympathy :stompfeet: ...If can't talk,will end up cold war.

The longest cold war we've was 6mth.I nearly wanna go to lawyer n file for divorce.

He may have anger management problems.
It's tough on you to put up with his temper. :grphug: I hope everything is fine now.

[TheAnswer]

KSmom8:

I hate it when man shout at woman. No excuses. Even if stressed.


My DH also lost temper and shouted at me. Also in car with kids, during CNY. Unfortunately, I couldn't control so it became a shouting match. I think the kids were scared. I regretted it.

3 weeks later, he lost his temper over a trivial thing. This time, he shouted and when he was done. I asked calmly whether it was necessary to shout and lose temper over such a small thing. If he don't want to do, I can do it. More effective.

I'm still fuming over his outbursts. Cold War really does not affect him and i still talk to him when necessary cos there are kids around. Instead, I don't bother much about him or what he says. Am thinking of what to buy and charge to his card.... .... Something expensive that'll make me happy.

How about a spa package?

[KSmom8]

vinegar:

I understand how u feel....I dislike man raises his voice on woman.


My DH does that often.When i chose to ignore his consistent argument,he'll keep following me,shouting n argue.Tell him i would like to be alone n stop discuss anymore,i cry,also no use. :sad: No showing of sympathy :stompfeet: ...If can't talk,will end up cold war.

The longest cold war we've was 6mth.I nearly wanna go to lawyer n file for divorce.

If this happens to me, I'll shut myself in a room. He can shout at the door.

Sometimes, I think it's the upbringing. My ILs like to shout and scold, over the most trivial stuff. Usually they don't do in front of me. But they did slip up a few times and on those rare occasions, I witnessed it.

I worry that the kids will be like this. So I'm trying not to have a shouting match in front of them. Remaining calm during the shouting, is far more effective, in my opinion. Let him shout like a mad dog, I'm better than that.

[TheAnswer]

KSmom8:

vinegar:

I understand how u feel....I dislike man raises his voice on woman.


My DH does that often.When i chose to ignore his consistent argument,he'll keep following me,shouting n argue.Tell him i would like to be alone n stop discuss anymore,i cry,also no use. :sad: No showing of sympathy :stompfeet: ...If can't talk,will end up cold war.

The longest cold war we've was 6mth.I nearly wanna go to lawyer n file for divorce.

If this happens to me, I'll shut myself in a room. He can shout at the door.

Sometimes, I think it's the upbringing. My ILs like to shout and scold, over the most trivial stuff. Usually they don't do in front of me. But they did slip up a few times and on those rare occasions, I witnessed it.

I worry that the kids will be like this. So I'm trying not to have a shouting match in front of them. Remaining calm during the shouting, is far more effective, in my opinion. Let him shout like a mad dog, I'm better than that.

I agree about remaining calm. I also realized that if DH speaks loudly but I responded softly like usual, he won't remain loud for long (less than 10 mins). Then the fight won't start.
However, different DH need to use different techniques to manage them.

[KSmom8]

TheAnswer:

KSmom8:

I hate it when man shout at woman. No excuses. Even if stressed.


My DH also lost temper and shouted at me. Also in car with kids, during CNY. Unfortunately, I couldn't control so it became a shouting match. I think the kids were scared. I regretted it.

3 weeks later, he lost his temper over a trivial thing. This time, he shouted and when he was done. I asked calmly whether it was necessary to shout and lose temper over such a small thing. If he don't want to do, I can do it. More effective.

I'm still fuming over his outbursts. Cold War really does not affect him and i still talk to him when necessary cos there are kids around. Instead, I don't bother much about him or what he says. Am thinking of what to buy and charge to his card.... .... Something expensive that'll make me happy.

How about a spa package?

Massages don't work on me cos I get ticklish. Unfortunately. But maybe I'll get something when I send my necklace for repair... :evil:

[KSmom8]

TheAnswer:

KSmom8:

[quote=\"vinegar\"]I understand how u feel....I dislike man raises his voice on woman.


My DH does that often.When i chose to ignore his consistent argument,he'll keep following me,shouting n argue.Tell him i would like to be alone n stop discuss anymore,i cry,also no use. :sad: No showing of sympathy :stompfeet: ...If can't talk,will end up cold war.

The longest cold war we've was 6mth.I nearly wanna go to lawyer n file for divorce.

If this happens to me, I'll shut myself in a room. He can shout at the door.

Sometimes, I think it's the upbringing. My ILs like to shout and scold, over the most trivial stuff. Usually they don't do in front of me. But they did slip up a few times and on those rare occasions, I witnessed it.

I worry that the kids will be like this. So I'm trying not to have a shouting match in front of them. Remaining calm during the shouting, is far more effective, in my opinion. Let him shout like a mad dog, I'm better than that.

I agree about remaining calm. I also realized that if DH speaks loudly but I responded softly like usual, he won't remain loud for long (less than 10 mins). Then the fight won't start.
However, different DH need to use different techniques to manage them.[/quote]Agree. Different breed must use different approach.

[TheAnswer]

KSmom8:

TheAnswer:

[quote=\"KSmom8\"]I hate it when man shout at woman. No excuses. Even if stressed.


My DH also lost temper and shouted at me. Also in car with kids, during CNY. Unfortunately, I couldn't control so it became a shouting match. I think the kids were scared. I regretted it.

3 weeks later, he lost his temper over a trivial thing. This time, he shouted and when he was done. I asked calmly whether it was necessary to shout and lose temper over such a small thing. If he don't want to do, I can do it. More effective.

I'm still fuming over his outbursts. Cold War really does not affect him and i still talk to him when necessary cos there are kids around. Instead, I don't bother much about him or what he says. Am thinking of what to buy and charge to his card.... .... Something expensive that'll make me happy.

How about a spa package?

Massages don't work on me cos I get ticklish. Unfortunately. But maybe I'll get something when I send my necklace for repair... :evil:[/quote]Wah.. Diamonds! Great idea! :rahrah: