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    Marriage & Parenthood Package

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    • P Offline
      pupilview
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      In Singapore, we are so calculative that we miss out on the finer aspects of life. Ask the singles in their late forties and fifties - whether they are happy??

      They have missed a lot in life and they will tell you,they wish they had not been stubborn many years back and they wish they had married.Ideally every family should have two kids. If the family wishes to have more kids -that is their choice.An only child tends to be lonely.Siblings may fight over books and toys, but the emotional bond is something unique and at least they have each other to share good and bad times when parents are old.I think the Parenthood package is good for those couples starting their family life.It also encourages those families struggling to have another kid through assisted reproduction.

      dolphinsiah:
      My views on this Parenthood package.....
      It shows that the Government is trying hard.....

      But in Developed Countries like Singapore, Japan ,Korea where Citizens are highly educated , they will think and think , calculate and calculate

      is it worth.....to bring kids to this complex society.

      In Japan , when women married ,give birth , I think 99% will leave their job and stay at home...so Japan Birth rate is also vey low....
      There is a saying that Japan Citizens will one day extinct because they are reproducing enough among themselves and they do not welcome immigrants....

      15 years ago each year New Borns in Singapore was about 50,000 plus plus...

      Now is around 25,000???

      Undeveloped Countries ,life is simple , husband work and wife will stay at home....so bringing kids to the family is adding strength and wealth....

      Now my kids are in the teens , I always tell them :

      a)Do not marry for the sake of marrying
      b)Do not give birth for the sake of giving birth......

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        3Boys
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        What a hoot! Billions of dollars and only brickbats in return!


        Singaporeans are truly complain king.

        I’m grateful for every cent I get, my boys were not conceived with the backdrop of getting government support. Since no one is interested I guess they should just save the money instead.

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          janet88
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          nms1:
          If you look back over the posts here, tuition & PSLE still come up as key issues. We are talking about babies but parents are worrying about the longer term. Why do we have a system where parents are put off having children because they don't have the time to study with them or the money to send them to tuition? That is fundamentally wrong. We shouldn't have to do these things and until the system and mindsets can change, all the money in the world is not going to help.

          Education is a killer factor here, not just in Singapore but Korea, HKG and other Asian developed countries.

          When we have kids, we have to think long term.
          Babies will grow and we the parents have to teach them ABCs and 123 along the way.
          But there comes a time when we the parents are not able to coach even primary school syllabus.

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            3Boys
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            keroppi:
            Am I the only one here who thinks the package is rather comprehensive?

            If I'm a new mum or mum-to-be, I'll be overjoyed.

            Maybe I am looking at it as a mother who hadn't had all these money thrown at me to have kids way back then ...

            Having a child is ultimately one's personal decision.
            For those who are not opposed to the idea of having more kids,
            I personally feel that this is a good impetus.
            Hahahaha! 😆

            You are in the wrong country my dear, it's not fashionable to be grateful.

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              sleepy
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              For those who already had kids, this package is not applicable.

              For those who decided not to have kids or not even married, this package is none of their concern

              Don’t think it will ever be a swaying factor to have more kids.
              Only for those who decided to have kids anyway (with or without package), this is extra bonus.

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                BeContented
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                sleepy:
                For those who already had kids, this package is not applicable.

                For those who decided not to have kids or not even married, this package is none of their concern

                Don't think it will ever be a swaying factor to have more kids.
                Only for those who decided to have kids anyway (with or without package), this is extra bonus.
                :hi5: :hi5:

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                  Funz
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                  3Boys:
                  What a hoot! Billions of dollars and only brickbats in return!


                  Singaporeans are truly complain king.

                  I'm grateful for every cent I get, my boys were not conceived with the backdrop of getting government support. Since no one is interested I guess they should just save the money instead.
                  Haiz. If it is removed, people will realise what kind of difference it makes.

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                    janet88
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                    If hubby and I are swayed to have another cute bundle, the $8K bonus is really red packet…will help to buy diapers and milk powder. We love our 2 kids, but do not have the energy nor can spread our attention at the age of 46 and 41 respectively to have #3.

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                      pirate
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                      3Boys:
                      Since no one is interested I guess they should just save the money instead.

                      Uhmmm... Yesh! Just the tweak on distribution of HDB flats to give priority to families with kids will do.

                      If one places more importance on career than on having kids, no amount of baby bonus is going to make a dent on that decision.

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                        Rational_Parent
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                        winchester:
                        Funz:




                        But at the end of the day, the biggest hurdle will be the people's mindset.

                        yes, i know of close friends, they earn $30k a month combined, they don't want kids as they say raising kids v expensive. ???? i think personally it is mindset and excuse that ppl say raising kids too expensive in singapore. couples want to keep their affluence lifestyle and have time for themselves without children.

                        You may choose to see it as an excuse for those who see raising kids as expensive but you cannot deny that many would love to have more kids if given the right circumstances. And you cannot deny that what is inexpensive to you does not mean it had to be the same for others.

                        More often it has little to do with couples wanting to keep an affluence lifestyle but more of what they can give to their beloved children in terms of education, tuition, attention, love, and quality time to name a few. If couples are kept busy with their careers in their struggle to support their family then some level of sacrifices would have to be made. So to you it might be a mindset thing but to others it is more about deriving an ideal balance. The intangible aspects of having children sometimes outweigh the tangible but pragmatism often prevails.

                        No doubt the government is trying to boost birth rate and one has to give credit when credit is due. Anything that could help a couple to have kids cannot be a bad thing. However, many chose to view this as short-term incentive that will not compensate for the high living cost going forward. So here is it not a mindset thing but a fear for the welfare of their kids, unfounded or otherwise.

                        The tough thing is that the government cannot guarantee or even maintain the same standard of living for each and every citizen. This is understandable. But such incentive is always welcome although it may not or did not draw a loud cheer.

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