All About Bullying
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bullying is very traumatic for kids.
daughter is bullied by her once-very-good-buddy.
to make things worse, she is now terrorised by her home economics teacher (aka food and nutrition).
that teacher always threatens daughter by saying she will call me...I'm like, 'hello, my daughter is 15 going on 16. that's not the way to teach.' last week, daughter had extraction of 2 teeth. I've submitted the MC the same day to her form teacher and she had acknowledged...but this home economics teacher is finding trouble :mad:
the anti-depressant doesn't seem to be kicking in...so my girl is finding excuses not to go to school.
if this nonsense continues, I'm going to escalate the issue to the HOD or principal. -
janet88\" post_id=\"1962027\" time=\"1580827003\" user_id=\"12950:
janet, sorry to hear that..but is anti depressant the best solution at this age/stage? I m concern on the over reliance on medicine and the side effects, if any.
bullying is very traumatic for kids.
daughter is bullied by her once-very-good-buddy.
to make things worse, she is now terrorised by her home economics teacher (aka food and nutrition).
that teacher always threatens daughter by saying she will call me...I'm like, 'hello, my daughter is 15 going on 16. that's not the way to teach.' last week, daughter had extraction of 2 teeth. I've submitted the MC the same day to her form teacher and she had acknowledged...but this home economics teacher is finding trouble :mad:
the anti-depressant doesn't seem to be kicking in...so my girl is finding excuses not to go to school.
if this nonsense continues, I'm going to escalate the issue to the HOD or principal. -
Janet,
Try giving chia seeds for your girl mix with milk or almond milk if she likes. Just learnt that some food helps our body generate more endorphins & keeps depression away. No harm trying as it’s a natural & organic way. -
the anti-depressant will not be for the long term.
for now, her mood is very unstable given the toxic environment.
the medication will be weaned off slowly once the chemical imbalance is settled. -
maybe try to identify the source… hopefully can find ways to reduce her stress/unhappiness?
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janet88\" post_id=\"1962049\" time=\"1580829871\" user_id=\"12950:
maybe speak to the teacher tell her your concerns as cher may not be really aware of it..can we speak to the girl's parents also? I don't know the whole picture/situation but at this very moment from reading yr posts.. if me, I try not to let kid have medicine for issues that look to me not totally uncontrollable lor..just me la..but I guess you know better ... coz very delicate issue if the depression is at serious stage.. :hugs:
the anti-depressant will not be for the long term.
for now, her mood is very unstable given the toxic environment.
the medication will be weaned off slowly once the chemical imbalance is settled. -
MrsKiasu\" post_id=\"1962050\" time=\"1580830011\" user_id=\"43981:
her stress and unhappiness is due to the teacher and classmates.
maybe try to identify the source.. hopefully can find ways to reduce her stress/unhappiness?
the only thing we can do is advise her to ignore...but we all know an unhappy environment can be very stressful and given such a working environment, we would want to quit too. I pity her for having to put up with such mean people. -
MrsKiasu\" post_id=\"1962057\" time=\"1580830443\" user_id=\"43981:
her teacher is giving her problems...speaking to her will only aggravate the situation.
maybe speak to the teacher tell her your concerns as cher may not be really aware of it..can we speak to the girl's parents also? I don't know the whole picture/situation but at this very moment from reading yr posts.. if me, I try not to let kid have medicine for issues that look to me not totally uncontrollable lor..just me la..but I guess you know better ... coz very delicate issue if the depression is at serious stage.. :hugs:janet88\" post_id=\"1962049\" time=\"1580829871\" user_id=\"12950:
the anti-depressant will not be for the long term.
for now, her mood is very unstable given the toxic environment.
the medication will be weaned off slowly once the chemical imbalance is settled.
I don't know how her close buddy can change so drastically over the December holidays and now ganging up with the other girls. it's just unbelievable. -
Contrary to some advise here, I would suggest that if the doctors prescribed anti-depressants for your daughter, let her take according to prescribed dosage. However at the same time, a lifestyle change may be required to help her cope better with the condition so that she does not become fully dependant on the anti-depressant. Find her an avenue for her to release her stress. Be it music, art, dance, exercise.
At the same time, help her to get over being so affected by how her friends behave. I know this is not easy. DD was subject to that too when over a holiday her supposed good friend suddenly ghosted her just before they were both supposed to go to Australia for their Lit trip. Then during the trip, said friend was suddenly all pally with her again and when back in Singapore, she ghosted DD again. I had to tell her that it is very obvious that this friend is a user. When she had no one in Aust, she latched onto DD and when she is back on home ground, she totally ignored and deliberately excluded DD. Told DD that such people want to be the queen bee and likes to surround themselves with people whom they feel are inferior to them to feel superior. The reason why she started excluding DD is because she feels threatened. No need to wonder what she did wrong or what she did that could have offended that friend because it is definitely not her fault. The rest of them who followed that friend’s lead and started excluding her are mindless drones. Told her, it is normal that she feels hurt, and yes, get upset, cry if she must, get angry if she must, thereafter, brush them off. Don’t allow them to affect her to the point that she loses confidence and self worth because she is definitely a much better person than any of them.
As for the teacher, you might want to talk to her directly. The teacher may not be made fully aware of your dd’s state of mind and just ask her to give your DD some breathing space this period as it is crucial for her mental health.
As a mother, it is very painful to see your own child struggling like that. We end up walking on eggshells too as we cannot be sure if what we advise or how we react to their emotions are helping or making matters worse. How to strike a balance between being supportive and being firm with them so that they snap out of their state of self pity.
Hope your DD gets better soon. -
Funz\" post_id=\"1962378\" time=\"1580977380\" user_id=\"6230:
:goodpost:
Contrary to some advise here, I would suggest that if the doctors prescribed anti-depressants for your daughter, let her take according to prescribed dosage. However at the same time, a lifestyle change may be required to help her cope better with the condition so that she does not become fully dependant on the anti-depressant. Find her an avenue for her to release her stress. Be it music, art, dance, exercise.
At the same time, help her to get over being so affected by how her friends behave. I know this is not easy. DD was subject to that too when over a holiday her supposed good friend suddenly ghosted her just before they were both supposed to go to Australia for their Lit trip. Then during the trip, said friend was suddenly all pally with her again and when back in Singapore, she ghosted DD again. I had to tell her that it is very obvious that this friend is a user. When she had no one in Aust, she latched onto DD and when she is back on home ground, she totally ignored and deliberately excluded DD. Told DD that such people want to be the queen bee and likes to surround themselves with people whom they feel are inferior to them to feel superior. The reason why she started excluding DD is because she feels threatened. No need to wonder what she did wrong or what she did that could have offended that friend because it is definitely not her fault. The rest of them who followed that friend's lead and started excluding her are mindless drones. Told her, it is normal that she feels hurt, and yes, get upset, cry if she must, get angry if she must, thereafter, brush them off. Don't allow them to affect her to the point that she loses confidence and self worth because she is definitely a much better person than any of them.
As for the teacher, you might want to talk to her directly. The teacher may not be made fully aware of your dd's state of mind and just ask her to give your DD some breathing space this period as it is crucial for her mental health.
As a mother, it is very painful to see your own child struggling like that. We end up walking on eggshells too as we cannot be sure if what we advise or how we react to their emotions are helping or making matters worse. How to strike a balance between being supportive and being firm with them so that they snap out of their state of self pity.
Hope your DD gets better soon.
Funz,
You said it so well & thorough.
Yes, when we’re bullied, it hurts badly coz we’ve thot that was suppose to be buddy. But we need to stand up for our sake & our own sanity & learn to be strong.
I had a bully in primary school. Worst we were in same CCA. I stood firm not to be affected by her. I continued to be nice & cordial. She was relentless in showing her black face & making monkey faces to me, which hurts, but I asked for super strength fr heaven. Lol
You know what, just before PSLE, she came to make up & asked why wasn’t I angry with her in spite & continue being nice? She said she realized I’m a very nice person. Made my day. Today, she is 名人’s wife. Happy I saw her changed before I met her & her hubby.
Can’t guarantee things will turn out same as my experience, but spare yourself fr internal anger & live life well & 潇洒过日子， otherwise 苦的是自己. But I do u’stand what Janet’s daughter is going thro. It’s teenage period & when she values friendship most.
If she can develop more friends & don’t condone to just one. She’ll feel stronger emotionally if she has plenty to do.
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