All About Life Without Maids
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slmkhoo:
A lot depends on the man, I think? My husband had a SAHM who did everything also. When we got married and I was working full-time, we had a PT maid to do the cleaning and we hardly cooked. But once we had kids and I was a SAHM, he helped a lot. I know there are things he doesn't like/know how to do like cooking and cleaning toilets, but he's always willing to buy groceries, run errands, buy back food etc. And he takes care of the things I don't like/know how to do, like finances, a lot of DIY, car maintenance, mopping floors etc. So we find we have a good balance. Another thing I appreciate is that he makes sure I have less to do by insisting that the kids are well-disciplined and sleep early at night, everyone keeps the house neat, the kids do some chores, no-one complains about the food I prepare (or the food that we buy back!) and when the kids were small, he would insist that I leave him to babysit regularly so I got to go out.
Actually I think a lot depend on the mum. I am not saying you are wrong or something along the line though. Your posts have always been very sensible.
I used to complain a lot about my hubby to anyone. Until one day, my own father said,\" 是妈妈没教好。＂ I was stunned because my father was hardly one of the kaypo uncles, you know.
I roped in my son to help, even though he's still very little because I saw th educational value, bonding opportunity in getting him to help me with house chores. Of cos, part of me was selfish - I just wanted to do less. When my mil knew how my son could peg the socks, hang the tees on hangers, folds the Laundry, she was more than impressed (with who - my son or me- I don't know but it doesn't matter). She just dropped me a,\"all my children can't do housework. W (my son's cousin who is a few months older than my son) doesnt even know how to keep his toys...\"
So I think it's the mum, who makes the diff. I am not saying I do a wonderful job though. -
peapot:
:rotflmao: :rotflmao: same here - he concentrate on earning money. I will take care of the home, the son, his family, the car etc. He earn, I help him spend! :rotflmao: but he knows, I am the thirfty type, I won't squander his $$$.
Yr husband is very \"auto\". That's good! If my husband helps out, he will ask me where I put the detergent, where is the sponge? Make me more busy! When he wash his car, he uses 6 cloth !! When I wash my car, I only use 2 cloth. When he cook he use 3pots and 4 pans. When I cook I only use 1 pot and 1 pan. So I think I prefer he just stick to what he do best. Earn money! -
peapot:
Now u need to pay $5000 upfront before maid starts working. Think better to go maidless and save yourself the trouble and problem. It's amazing the young boy says he doesn't blame the maid. As a third party, I feel so mad for the kid. The maid was only jailed for 8 years but the boy had to face his injuries for the rest of his life.
Another example of how young children are so magnanimous and kind.... 人之初，性本善。
Young children.... They have so much more that we adults can learn from. -
Imami:
Wa piangz! You must spend his money lah. You also need 13 month bonus right? No variable bonus never mind. 13 month is a entitlement.
:rotflmao: :rotflmao: same here - he concentrate on earning money. I will take care of the home, the son, his family, the car etc. He earn, I help him spend! :rotflmao: but he knows, I am the thirfty type, I won't squander his $$$.peapot:
Yr husband is very \"auto\". That's good! If my husband helps out, he will ask me where I put the detergent, where is the sponge? Make me more busy! When he wash his car, he uses 6 cloth !! When I wash my car, I only use 2 cloth. When he cook he use 3pots and 4 pans. When I cook I only use 1 pot and 1 pan. So I think I prefer he just stick to what he do best. Earn money! -
Fortunately my hubby is one who appreciates...this maid :evil: here doesn't go for 13th month bonus but she loves handbags and mobile.
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janet_lee88:
Fortunately my hubby is one who appreciates...this maid :evil: here doesn't go for 13th month bonus but she loves handbags and mobile.
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My helper is going for her holiday in Dec, so I join in this group for a month:). Have told kids to do some chores. Hope that will work out.
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peapot:
no have leh... Just 12 months of 家用 $. No mc, no annual leave. Years ago, I told hubby - I would help you turn $1 to $2. Some times, when I am angry, I would tell him I would spend his $1 like $2! :rotflmao: :rotflmao:
Wa piangz! You must spend his money lah. You also need 13 month bonus right? No variable bonus never mind. 13 month is a entitlement. -
My daughter helps to fold laundry...she does a better job than hubby, like pulling clothes straight before folding, then she will sort it and put in cupboards. Gave instructions that eraser dust must be vacuumed after they are done with hw. Life is sweeter and happier without a maid...but don't look at my glass windows :razz:
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Imami:
Aiyoooo. Wrong lah.
no have leh... Just 12 months of 家用 $. No mc, no annual leave. Years ago, I told hubby - I would help you turn $1 to $2. Some times, when I am angry, I would tell him I would spend his $1 like $2! :rotflmao: :rotflmao:peapot:
Wa piangz! You must spend his money lah. You also need 13 month bonus right? No variable bonus never mind. 13 month is a entitlement.
When angry, spend $2 like $1. Anyhow
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