All About Autism
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helplessmum3:
Kids no need to go holiday / zoo in order to feel happy like a normal child. Bring them to park / playground is sufficient. Kids are easily satisfied. Even a trip down to NTUC to buy a ice cream will make their day.i have no $ left for vacation all goes to therapies treatments.
zoo seem expensive to me now...
now is work, send him to cc , send him to therapist & home..... nothing else...
no time left already. still need to do house chores works.. cook & wash & do laundry.. no maid..
My point is:
1. Stop viewing your child like he is some nut case and stop comparing him to other normal kids.
2. Dont give excuse of him unable to do this and that , go here and there just because he is ASD. If you don't give him the chance to try, he will never be able to do it.
3. Stop whining blaming god, why so unfair, if you have know you would do this and that... blah blah blah.. You have done this on the forum many times! Time and time again we have comforted you but you are still not getting out of it. Even scientist and doctors don't even know why our kids have ASD. Channel your whining energy to do something positive instead.
I am not saying we cannot grieve. but the way you grieve sounded so self centered. Its more about yourself than your kid. -
i really think of my son…
he is suffering , why make him like tat mah… others kids will see him one kind one day… so poor thing mah… recently in playground… he so happily wanted to join in the take turn to slides with those kids in front of him. one kid beside him push him and he knock his head on pole, he felt sooo sad and he give up going to join in the slides. instead…
this is hurting to see… him this way… other kids will jus push back & carry on…or make complaints … but he jus feeling sad and touch touch his own hurt head and walk away… -
Sigh he is already made like that. So no point thinking why why why.
Teach him how to deal with such situations. Even for normal kids, they will tend to meet bullies. ONe good thing for ASD kids is that they are very programmable.
Teach your kid at playground, when someone push him away, teach your kid to say back to them, "My mummy say we must be nice and take turn". Or if your kid too young, then you just say loudly to your son to teach him say "Son, its okay, but we must always remember to be nice and take turn and its wrong to hurt and push other people".
When he grow up, he will repeat this when someone tries to push him away. Drowning yourself in misery is not going to help him. Must equip him with tactics to deal with everyday life, so when one day we are gone, we know he can look after himself!
I know u are in pain and I really see you putting effort already. But please pick yourself up. YOu have a very bright boy and he does have great potential. -
Ok will keep hamming my head !!
I think I too low IQ to figure out issues…
Hiaz… I wish I hav an apps to manage me. Q n A.
Like in this situation how shd we do or react…
Nugget u are one great high self esteem mother. -
helplessmum3:
What mr potato ah? How to play
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ImMeeMee:
good to see that the writing skills are coming along fine! :celebrate: are the kumon books available over the counter or are they from the Kumon centers?
Hi ImMeeMee,
Yes, these Kumon workbooks are available at Popular and some selected children's bookshops, you got to look out for them! They are not from the Kumon centers as I do not have time to send my boy there. -
nugget:
I think popular also sell Kumon books right? I recall seeing them before. But I bought those normal K1 books. Are Kumon books better?
Hi nugget,
I find the Kumon books are very colourful and very straight-forward, progress in small steps so that the kid can do one page quite fast, then turn and do next page etc....and then he gets quite motivated to continue!
My boy likes the Kumon books so I am very pleased with them. Furthermore, each Kumon books has the ages marked clearly so I just pick up those age appropriate one for him.
I have tried browsing through other K1 books at Popular as well trying to buy alternative ones for him. But I find that most of them have too much content on one page and very cluttered and confusing to me! Even those direct from Disney I find them too much as well so I don't think my boy will like....
You can also just go onto the Kumon website to take a look at the various books available with sample pages see what you think. -
helplessmum3:
No need to go vacation lah!i have no $ left for vacation all goes to therapies treatments. zoo seem expensive to me now...
now is work, send him to cc , send him to therapist & home..... nothing else... no time left already. still need to do house chores works.. cook & wash & do laundry.. no maid..
All your boy wants is to be with his mummy. So just do your house-work and keep your boy by your side I am sure your boy is equally happy and contented just to be around you!
Me too no vacation, only went one-time to Sentosa hotel stay 3 days 2 nights. But we will bring my boy out swimming once a week lesson and/or eat lunch and/or go those indoor playground/gym or just go some shopping centres let him run around he also very happy! -
helplessmum3:
Hi helplessmum,I also love kids........
While normal kids are playing at the pool they are w therapist
$ goes to vacation w normal kids but our $ spend on to let them go therapist. Y they can't derserve the same as normal kid to vacation enjoy the horses , donkeys ,sheep , nice scenic and ocean . And they have to face in a square room w therapist ..
I was given the following advice by a KKH OT as well as from the lecturer at the ARC:
(a) Don't overdo the therapy bit. Some parents don't do anything to help their kids but some parents overdo it, send their kid for every type of therapy they an find! The point is - BALANCE. Do the most necessary therapy first.
(b) Naturalize all the therapies! For eg. in OT, they often mention gross motor skills like running, climbing, jumping etc. Instead of sending them to OT in a room with 4 walls, just go to a park/playground with good children's play stuff and let them do all these in a natural environment! Swimming is also part of OT!
I have personally decided that in everything my kid do, he must be HAPPY! And that includes the therapy bit. If he is not happy to go to a particular speech therapy, I won't sent him. Nevermind how reputable and popular that ST is! Even his tuition with a therapist, he enjoys it and he readily goes weekly. There was an OT which we engaged to come to teach him previously but he kicked up so much fuss we had to stop.....
Don't think so far ahead and get yourself so sad ya? Just take and handle one day at a time. -
helplessmum3:
i really think of my son...
he is suffering , why make him like tat mah... others kids will see him one kind one day.. so poor thing mah... recently in playground... he so happily wanted to join in the take turn to slides with those kids in front of him. one kid beside him push him and he knock his head on pole, he felt sooo sad and he give up going to join in the slides. instead...
this is hurting to see.. him this way.. other kids will jus push back & carry on..or make complaints .. but he jus feeling sad and touch touch his own hurt head and walk away...
aiyoh, helplessmum, sounds like quite a normal playground scene to me leh...except your poor boy kerna knocked his head I hope he is not badly hurt. Did you sayang him? Some kids are just mean but some kids are very nice. Some kids are just too boisterous endangering other kids around them! So you just need to be careful to jagar your boy at the playground.
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