All About Autism

[helplessmum3]

fizz,


at times when my hub meltdowns he will say "how i wish i could return you back"… he jus poor thing of my son situation in this world…

my hub can’t stand pp shouting…my son sure get it from him once he starts shouting…

at times i also can’t stand my son attitude i too will raise hand on him…

We are diff from this world now… normal pple with NT kids will always say "Not everyday is honeymoon time" for ours statement is " Not everyday is difficult time"…

these days is very struggle whenever bring my son out for meals… he jus simply don’t understand the word "WAIT" , is like having him is enough for 10 NT kids

[verykiasumummy]

helplessmum3:

mashy:

[quote=\"helplessmum3\"]Mashy,

how to you teach you son to communicate with you?

my son only know how to request this & that...

If my son could request this or that when he was three, I would be throwing a party!

U need to accept that he will need time to learn the skills of a conversation. My boy couldn't really request things at 3 yrs old. We had to ask him and predict what he wants. It's always us offering him and that includes even meals. If we don't offer food, he won't eat. He didn't know how to tell us that he is hungry or he simply didn't care. My hb ever forgot to feed him when I was out and he just went hungry the whole afternoon.

U must remember my son is 6 going 7. Don't expect a 3 yr old kid to be able to be like a 6 yr old, esp when he has asd.

There is no short cut to this. Just talk and talk to him, ask him questions. Soon, he will suddenly decide to take part in the conversation. Think we started having a proper conversation towards the end of k2 about 5 yrs old. He has improved a lot since then.

i just hope to start early w him so by 5yo he could overcome. hopefully like yours.[/quote]hi helplessmum3, u can try to ask him who he likes to talk to the best... try having that person talking to him all the time...

i used to place a radio at my working desk in office and my colleague brings her ds to office every sat last time.. her ds has asd too, he was 5yo back then...

i notice he responds and gets attracted to the radio and laughs at the jokes and ads... fyi, i was listening to 933.. heard from colleague that doc also encourage her to avoid having too quiet environment for her ds all the time as this doesnt help in his reaction...

[mashy]

verykiasumummy:

helplessmum3:

[quote=\"mashy\"]

If my son could request this or that when he was three, I would be throwing a party!

U need to accept that he will need time to learn the skills of a conversation. My boy couldn't really request things at 3 yrs old. We had to ask him and predict what he wants. It's always us offering him and that includes even meals. If we don't offer food, he won't eat. He didn't know how to tell us that he is hungry or he simply didn't care. My hb ever forgot to feed him when I was out and he just went hungry the whole afternoon.

U must remember my son is 6 going 7. Don't expect a 3 yr old kid to be able to be like a 6 yr old, esp when he has asd.

There is no short cut to this. Just talk and talk to him, ask him questions. Soon, he will suddenly decide to take part in the conversation. Think we started having a proper conversation towards the end of k2 about 5 yrs old. He has improved a lot since then.

i just hope to start early w him so by 5yo he could overcome. hopefully like yours.

hi helplessmum3, u can try to ask him who he likes to talk to the best... try having that person talking to him all the time...

i used to place a radio at my working desk in office and my colleague brings her ds to office every sat last time.. her ds has asd too, he was 5yo back then...

i notice he responds and gets attracted to the radio and laughs at the jokes and ads... fyi, i was listening to 933.. heard from colleague that doc also encourage her to avoid having too quiet environment for her ds all the time as this doesnt help in his reaction...[/quote]Just talk freq to him. Not just u talk, teach him that we take turns to talk. I think someday when he is ready, he will start the conversation. Find out what he likes. Talk about what he likes and tell him what you like. Like I said, this is a long process. U don't see the outcome in a few days or weeks. It will happen when u least expect it. Just carry on with the good work with your boy. I'm sure u will get to have a decent conversation with him in time to come.

[helplessmum3]

VKSmummy,


recently i notice he like to repeat what puppet talking on tv…

i duno who he like to talk most, as he never has conversation with us except requesting verbally for things/food/drinks & ask us to do things for him…ei mommy carry, on light , off light, open door,close down , fix it, put it back, sit down, stand up…help me.press lift. come here. go out, wear shoe & etc…

but not conversation.

[helplessmum3]

Mashy,


so far he only know how to response to "HOW are you" , he will say "I’m fine". "what is your name" , he will say "HIS NAME"… "Go where eat french fries" he will say "go Macdonald".

but he never ask or talk to me… or initial conversation w me.

[verykiasumummy]

helplessmum3:

VKSmummy,


recently i notice he like to repeat what puppet talking on tv...

i duno who he like to talk most, as he never has conversation with us except requesting verbally for things/food/drinks & ask us to do things for him..ei mommy carry, on light , off light, open door,close down , fix it, put it back, sit down, stand up..help me.press lift. come here. go out, wear shoe & etc..

but not conversation.

those r short requests... let him listen to something that interests him...

i rmb those tv programmes on sat or sun mornings where they teach children some new words or stories?? they are a little interactive actually as they ask questions sometimes.. like : children, do u like strawberry as well? or \"clap together as we sing along\"...

leave him alone to watch the show, but observe him secretly... u may have other ideas after watching how he response..

[helplessmum3]

verykiasumummy:

helplessmum3:

VKSmummy,


recently i notice he like to repeat what puppet talking on tv...

i duno who he like to talk most, as he never has conversation with us except requesting verbally for things/food/drinks & ask us to do things for him..ei mommy carry, on light , off light, open door,close down , fix it, put it back, sit down, stand up..help me.press lift. come here. go out, wear shoe & etc..

but not conversation.

those r short requests... let him listen to something that interests him...

i rmb those tv programmes on sat or sun mornings where they teach children some new words or stories?? they are a little interactive actually as they ask questions sometimes.. like : children, do u like strawberry as well? or \"clap together as we sing along\"...

leave him alone to watch the show, but observe him secretly... u may have other ideas after watching how he response..

any idea which channel,?

[verykiasumummy]

i think both channel 8 and 5 used to have… kids central i’m not sure…

[mashy]

helplessmum3:

VKSmummy,


recently i notice he like to repeat what puppet talking on tv...

i duno who he like to talk most, as he never has conversation with us except requesting verbally for things/food/drinks & ask us to do things for him..ei mommy carry, on light , off light, open door,close down , fix it, put it back, sit down, stand up..help me.press lift. come here. go out, wear shoe & etc..

but not conversation.

That's amazing already! At least for my std coz my boy couldn't do that then. This is a good start. He is talking quite a lot.

[verykiasumummy]

things will get better when u try to observe him hard enough to help him… mothers are great because we give all out to make our kids better ppl…