All About Autism

[ImMeeMee]

Karkar:

ImMeeMee, thank you so much.

All mummies, thanks for all your comments. no worries no criticism. each post gets me to think. it's good to hear different perspectives.

I learn that fighting with autism is a long battle, every mummy/daddy needs to be consistent in caring for their lovely child. i will take care of myself. In the past 2 months, i have not been wearing makeup to work, i have not been going to facial, i have not been using skin products and doing masks, i have not been going out for a drink except to welcome my london gf. my active life style has been changed, and i am happy that i can make that sacrifice for my dear son and i am not sad about losing those vibrant life.. (I couldn't even imagine myself baby sit a child before pregnancy)..i grew up to be a responsible mother, i am proud of myself and i am proud of the gift god sent - my son. He's a lovely and happy kid. mum here needs extra kick to get to his heart and touch his soul i wont give up

kar kar, I was (and still am) never good with kids. So there are times when I think that maybe there is a reason that life has sent me a very tough nut to crack. If I dont learn it, it will just return in different forms until I master it. Its a learning process for us mummies as well.

You know, I used to think of autism as my enemy, but now I am beginning to think of it as my partner. Rather than to fight it, lets engage and live along side with it.

Good to see that you are taking it in stride. Its a marathon, not a sprint, so do conserve energy.

[mashy]

ImMeeMee:

Karkar:

ImMeeMee, thank you so much.

All mummies, thanks for all your comments. no worries no criticism. each post gets me to think. it's good to hear different perspectives.

I learn that fighting with autism is a long battle, every mummy/daddy needs to be consistent in caring for their lovely child. i will take care of myself. In the past 2 months, i have not been wearing makeup to work, i have not been going to facial, i have not been using skin products and doing masks, i have not been going out for a drink except to welcome my london gf. my active life style has been changed, and i am happy that i can make that sacrifice for my dear son and i am not sad about losing those vibrant life.. (I couldn't even imagine myself baby sit a child before pregnancy)..i grew up to be a responsible mother, i am proud of myself and i am proud of the gift god sent - my son. He's a lovely and happy kid. mum here needs extra kick to get to his heart and touch his soul i wont give up

kar kar, I was (and still am) never good with kids. So there are times when I think that maybe there is a reason that life has sent me a very tough nut to crack. If I dont learn it, it will just return in different forms until I master it. Its a learning process for us mummies as well.

You know, I used to think of autism as my enemy, but now I am beginning to think of it as my partner. Rather than to fight it, lets engage and live along side with it.


Good to see that you are taking it in stride. Its a marathon, not a sprint, so do conserve energy.

There are advantages to being an autistic actually. They are innocent, no hidden agenda, not manipulative. I've seen so many manipulative kids around it scares me. They are also very polite children if you just teach them the words to say. The easiest way to manage them is just to adhere to a routine. No need to guess what's next. They have great memory and can tell you exactly what you have said long ago. They are easy to please and demand nothing from you. They don't bother you when you are busy doing something else. The bad thing of course is that you may forget about him.

[Blokus]

mashy:

There are advantages to being an autistic actually. They are innocent, no hidden agenda, not manipulative. I've seen so many manipulative kids around it scares me. They are also very polite children if you just teach them the words to say. The easiest way to manage them is just to adhere to a routine. No need to guess what's next. They have great memory and can tell you exactly what you have said long ago. They are easy to please and demand nothing from you. They don't bother you when you are busy doing something else. The bad thing of course is that you may forget about him.

Agree. My son is quite an angel. Say he wants to go a playground, we say no. He rarely gets upsets even so he never throws up a tantrum. He just cries & get over it in a few minutes. Yet he's 1 year old sister is already throwing her temper around! The other day I showed him a photo of a disabled child, I asked what's wrong with the child. He couldn't tell at all. He doesn't discriminate or give a weird gaze at anyone who looks different. Everyone's the same to him! :imanangel:

[specialboymum]

Hey mummies,


thanks for all the motivational posts I think all of us need them at times.

Just want to find out from mummies here, do you know of any organization that conduct holiday social skill classes for special kids like ours?

[helplessmum3]

mummies,


pls pray for me, i manage to find a cc for my son, they have trails for two weeks, hope goes well. wish me luck mUmmies

[mashy]

specialboymum:

Hey mummies,


thanks for all the motivational posts I think all of us need them at times.

Just want to find out from mummies here, do you know of any organization that conduct holiday social skill classes for special kids like ours?

KKH rehab is conducting a social skills class in dec. u may wanna call and ask. My son is attending so not sure what's the age group that will be. Another one I know is Kids In Flow is also starting a social skills group.

[specialboymum]

mashy:

specialboymum:

Hey mummies,


thanks for all the motivational posts I think all of us need them at times.

Just want to find out from mummies here, do you know of any organization that conduct holiday social skill classes for special kids like ours?

KKH rehab is conducting a social skills class in dec. u may wanna call and ask. My son is attending so not sure what's the age group that will be. Another one I know is Kids In Flow is also starting a social skills group.

Thanks Mashy, do you know if KKH rehab's class is opened to kids who are not attending therapy there?

[mashy]

specialboymum:

mashy:

[quote=\"specialboymum\"]Hey mummies,


thanks for all the motivational posts I think all of us need them at times.

Just want to find out from mummies here, do you know of any organization that conduct holiday social skill classes for special kids like ours?

KKH rehab is conducting a social skills class in dec. u may wanna call and ask. My son is attending so not sure what's the age group that will be. Another one I know is Kids In Flow is also starting a social skills group.

Thanks Mashy, do you know if KKH rehab's class is opened to kids who are not attending therapy there?[/quote]I'm not sure. U will have to call them to ask.

[ImMeeMee]

helplessmum3:

mummies,


pls pray for me, i manage to find a cc for my son, they have trails for two weeks, hope goes well. wish me luck mUmmies

helplessmum

Thought to share about my current quest for a mainstream childcare centre for my daughter, which I have not posted much about.

Since my daughter was diagnosed about 2 years ago, I have always placed her at a EIPIC school. Because she didnt seem ready to go to mainstream childcare, I have put that off for a while. But along the way I have come to realize that she needs to build her social awareness and social interaction skills, and she needs to be more familiar with crowds (and chaos) to eventually prepare her for primary school education. Since sometime last year I have been looking for a mainstream cc for her. You know, up to today I am still looking.

The things that I tried along the way:

1. one montessori cc who had vacancies, and was willing to let her try. I brough my daughter to 2 paid trial classes, but realized that it was not suitable - the kids could climb ladders at their own will and play with glass things.

2. then spoke to a cc and the centre was understanding to special needs children. was about to enrol when EIPIC informed that we needed to make changes to her program including timing and location. had to put the cc on hold, since I didnt want my daughter to have to adapt to too many new things at one time.

3. after settling down at EIPIC, spoke to the cc again, ding dong for a few times and finally was informed that there were no vacancies.

4. called up a cc near the EIPIC school, and it had vacancies. Went for viewing and the P was empathetic. But realized that it was not suitable cos the school was ethnically not the right fit.

5. called up a cc near home and was informed that the school had vacancies. Was happy and informed the school about my daughter's condition. School promised to follow up with P, but next day when I called, the cc informed that there were no vacancies. Left a message for P to return my call but dead silence eventually (this one, I really felt bitter).

6. along the way called up all the kindergartens around my area only to be told that there are no vacancies and had to be placed on wait list. Some of them had vacancies but could not fit in terms of timing.

7. Just viewed a cc that is newly opened last weekend, and now waiting for the school's response on my daughter.

Truth be told, I feel totally frustrated and exasperated just clearing this hurdle. And I have not even reached the stage of dealing with challenges when she enters the cc, which is a differnt hurdle altogether.

Just want to share with you that it can be a tough process, but I have not given up yet cos giving up is not an option. And every time I interface with a cc I will be upfront with them on my daughter's condition, cos I feel it has to be fair both ends. The school must be willing to embrace my child before we can proceed further.

Hope this helps and best wishes on the new cc.

[specialboymum]

Thanks Mashy, will try to find out. Just realise my boy had a opened date appointment with Rehab centre- way long before he was officially diagnose Maybe it helps


Jia you to all the mummies. I think I was lucky that the cc I send my boy to are very accommodating. I think part of the reason is the cc I send my boy to is rather small (it was in a mature HDB estate, so they don't have that many kids). Another option you can consider with the cc is offering help to shadow your child- can ask your helper or other family members if you are working. Professional shadow can be rather ex

I'm not sure how rest of you think, but I felt that many people from the public didn't understand why we are fighting so hard to let our kids be at mainstream, while they should be 'better of' at a special school, some even conclude that we are in denial of our kids condition. They don't understand we are just trying to help our kid to learn to interact with the \"normal people\", just as much as we hope the rest of the world can accept them for who they are.