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[nugget]

need advise from mummies here.


My son lately showing some bad behavior. When its time to go to school, he will say he wants to stay at home. And when its time to come home, he says he wants to go to school. Not only that, he will throw a big fuss over this.

Lie down on the floor in front of the school, kick at the school door, or when its time to go home, he will refuse to enter the door, if we pull him inside the gate, he will lie on the floor and kick at the gate.

I tried preping, coaxing, rewarding and talking to him everytime. Everytime he say he will be good boy and go to school/go home. But everytime when he reaches the place he will throw a big fuss. This happens like 2-3 times per week.

How this ends is usually I will just cane him and let him cry it out. (if its school, teachers will calm him down). After he calm down, he will say he should not have done that. Daddy and Mummy will be angry with him. He knows he should not be doing this, why he still do that?

I spoke to the teachers in EIPIC, they say sometimes is their impulse. Or they might be seeking attention. Need to keep telling them that is wrong.

I really dunno what to do. Is it really their impulse? We already given him lots of attention. I really dunno what I should do. sigh sigh sigh

[mashy]

Nugget

Was it u who just had #3?

[mashy]

I think he is seeking attention since now there are more kids in the brood. normal behavior for children with new siblings. Just give some time and patience. Your idea of attention may not be the same as him.

[mashy]

Merry Christmas to u too helplessmum!

[nugget]

mashy:

Nugget

Was it u who just had #3?

Yup, I just had my no 3. You think its attention seeking?

[nugget]

slmkhoo,


We did prep him with steps and wrote it down (he is very receptive to words) and paste it on the wall in his room.

Also before we head for school/work, I will always prep him and say "can you say I dun want to go to school/home?". He will say "cannot". Then I say "be a good kid, lets go home/school, okay?". He will say "ok". I say if you are good boy, daddy come home will give u a candy… then we hook our little fingers and promise.

Then when reaches the gate, he pull that trick again. Dunno how long this will last. Really been stressful and angry for me. Esp after the episode, he will say "I cannot say I dun want to go home / school, daddy mummy will be angry with me". Is this a normal child behavior or ASD kid behavior?

I will try the social picture thing too.

[mashy]

Nugget

This is normal child behavior. I’ve heard of many friends’ kids who pull out some stunts when their sibling came along. Suddenly they became very uncooperative and even babyish. So hang on. It will get better.

[nugget]

mashy:

Nugget

This is normal child behavior. I've heard of many friends' kids who pull out some stunts when their sibling came along. Suddenly they became very uncooperative and even babyish. So hang on. It will get better.

Thanks. Sorry I need to let it out here cos I feel so loss over this. Esp now he is getting bigger (about 20kg). I do not have the strength to carry him whenever he pull the \"lie on floor\" stun. I hope he really will stop doing that.

[mashy]

nugget:

mashy:

Nugget

This is normal child behavior. I've heard of many friends' kids who pull out some stunts when their sibling came along. Suddenly they became very uncooperative and even babyish. So hang on. It will get better.

Thanks. Sorry I need to let it out here cos I feel so loss over this. Esp now he is getting bigger (about 20kg). I do not have the strength to carry him whenever he pull the \"lie on floor\" stun. I hope he really will stop doing that.

No prob. Some people advocate ignoring such bad behaviour and rewarding good behaviour. Attn due to bad behaviour is also attn so don't give any.

I wonder if you close the door behind him, what will he do? Coz like my son, he has very high inertia. Simply wouldn't move from place to place. So when we are going out, we close the door when he's simply too involved in his toys or tv. He will suddenly scramble over once we do that.

If he refuses to come home, just close the gate? I did counting before. When I count to 20, I will close. My son was caught outside once or twice I think. Now when I start counting, he quickly dash in. Now he used that on my daughter when she's distracted! Lol.

Actually even my dd has her moments. Just recently, she made a big fuss every time I went to fetch her from school. She will suddenly be 'unable to walk', cannot carry school bag, cannot wear her own shoes etc. it was quite bad for a few days. Coz she likes to wear dresses, so on days when she behaved badly, I made her wear shorts. Also huge fight lah but she stopped her nonsense after that.

[nugget]

Mashy,


I hope its that easy. I also try not to pay him attention if he do the wrong things. But he lie down on floor in front of all the teachers, classmates and parents. I can’t be standing there to do nothing. Sigh. I snapped this morning and I slap him on the legs.

Its not about me losing face (I already grew very thick-skin). But I really feel heartache for him cos I see the looks on his classmates’ faces, some puzzled, some laughing at him and one of them even ask me "why he is crying and lying on the floor?". I dunno how to answer his classmates. When he is in school, these kids might feel that he is a nutcase, and even isolate him further. I seriously dunno what lies ahead for him which gives me endless worry.