All About Autism
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We all work exceptionally hard, all year round, for our children. We all deserve a big pat on our backs!
God gives his hardest battles to His strongest warriors!
Let’s jiayou for the new year! Happy New Year to all mummies! -
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Anyone kids starting Primary 1 today? All to best :rahrah:
Next year this time will be my turn even though my SLT keep asking us to delay. -
I have never been open about my daughter’s special needs condition to my circle of friends. albeit the very close ones.
It is not that I am ashamed of my daughter. She is a lovely girl, happy by nature and with a cheerful heart. She would laugh several times a day when something amuses her, or when she is doing something that she enjoys. She would try her best in the things that we teach her, and she would love a word of praise when she thinks she has done something well. Of course, being a special needs child, she has her quirkiness - words that sound non-sensical, comments that appear inappropriate, or a wall of silence when spoken to. She has her fair share of being rigid and being literal, and not being adequately self-sufficient in taking care of herself. She has her challenges of not being able to engage her peers in play, and being afraid of things that prove too much for her sensory systems.
Everytime I think of her I would smile to myself, in particular on this quiet morning where she has gone to school to start a new semester. I could almost hear her laughter and see her smile.
It was more of myself dealing with my emotions in not being able to share my story publicly. For a long 2 years, I would break down everytime I spoke about her condition. It was not that I could not accept the truth. It was not that I felt ashamed. It was just me reacting to the situation. My rational self was not able to contain my emotional self and it became a turmoil.
Maybe its age, maybe its the life experience, I find that I am emotionally calmer these days after having gone through something where not many other things could be worse. As mothers we grow more fearless, and as mothers of special needs children we grow to be more accepting, and less judging.
This year, I made a resolution to open doors in my heart. I want to celebrate, and not cower. I want to share, and not hide. I want to tell, and not keep.
There will still be the pressures that corner us, there will still be the mundane that frustrates us. I will still not be perfect, but when the heart and mind become free, it brings peace. And joy.
Open doors, and find open doors. I hope everyone will have a meaningful new year. -
Hugz ImMeeMee… I think u are a very strong woman to come to terms with yourself. Its the right thing to do and its beneficial for your girl.
Like you I dun share my son’s condition with a lot of people. I dun care what other people think nor I am ashamed of my son. But I only share based on "need to know basis".
Somehow I feel that the awareness is not quite there yet and parents with NT kids like my son age wont understand what I am going through even they keep saying "I understand". Hence that’s the reason why I dun share with them.
Like you I get emotional when I talk about my son’s condition. The pain comes more from the heartache that people might think lesser of him. The unfairness in the society and the endless worry about his future.
But he is already what he is… lets be strong together and help them as much as he can. And now I always count my blessings. At least he has a good looking face, 2 hands, 2 feets, 10 fingers and 10 toes. I am proud of my son and I love him for the way he is… He is a gift to me from heaven.
We have a good support of mummies here. We will share all tips and news and help/support each other. Dun pent up inside.
Lets celebrate and rejoice every improvement and believe in our child. They are just different, not less. -
Yay hugssssssssss!!!
My son can speak 4 sentences already total of 12 or more words!!
I love him. Now talk to him he will look n listen even w nomal voice tone. Dun need to speak loudly to him anymore … -
nugget:
They are just different, not less.
Nugget, well said, they are indeed not less.
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ImMeeMee and Nugget
Very well said indeed. I think both of you have hit the bull’s eye for all parents here, describing our emotional turmoil as I have exactly the same feeling as both of you.
That day, my hubby asked me if I ever wonder should I have married a different man, my boy may not ASD. But I told him if I married a different man, then my boy will not exist. Then, I also told him if my boy is my younger child instead of my firstborn, he may not be ASD too. Then again, I wouldn’t want my daughter to take the brother’s place as my ASD firstborn either.
Whatever has happened, we can’t change it. We can only do our best to help our special needs child and have faith in God in whatever plans He has for our children. -
As our child is special. We must be positive and brave in order to let them have more confident in this world.
Every bit we contributed I believe We will have return is just matter of time. -
Last year, the Ministry of Health’s Child Development Programme - with clinics at KK Women’s and Children’s Hospital and National University Hospital - diagnosed 683 preschoolers with autism, a life-long brain- based developmental disorder that affects a person’s ability to communicate and interact with people.
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