All About Autism

[helplessmum3]

At the Facebook "the new age parent "


Some one post offensive remark on autism …

[specialboymum]

helplessmum3:

At the Facebook \"the new age parent \"


Some one post offensive remark on autism ..

This is not unusual. I saw similar insensitive remarks in some other threads in this forum too. It only shows the lack of awareness on autism among the general public.

I admit I often feel hurt when people say not so nice things about our kids, even if it is from young children. There are couple of occasions when I heard other kids pointed at my son and said \"he got mental problem\"- I was crying in my heart already, but what can we do? confront them, tell them to apologize, accept that their thinking is wrong and in future, they are only allow to use nice words even when they see kids behaving the way they don't agree on?

As much as I wish the NT world can understand and accept our kids, I gathered that we can't really expect people to make the effort to understand autism, especially when they didn't have the chance to get involved with any person with autism throughout their life. Take for ourselves? How many of us make the effort to read up on autism before our child is diagnosed or suspected with the condition?

So now, I'm trying to tell myself, not to get upset with unpleasant comments and don't have the expectation that people will be kind to our kids. I will just focus on doing my part to bring him up properly, help him to learn integrating with the NT so that people are more willing to accept him

[ImMeeMee]

Double E:

My son is going for his formal ASD assessment tomorrow. But I am feeling calm, not nervous at all.

Double E, I salute your peace of mind. My doter is due for her psy assessment by end Feb, and although I know it is not judgement day, I still feel jittery about it. There're still a lot of 'if only...' and 'what if ...' in my mind, and I cant chase those thoughts away.

[ImMeeMee]

specialboymum:

This is not unusual. I saw similar insensitive remarks in some other threads in this forum too. It only shows the lack of awareness on autism among the general public.


I admit I often feel hurt when people say not so nice things about our kids, even if it is from young children. There are couple of occasions when I heard other kids pointed at my son and said \"he got mental problem\"- I was crying in my heart already, but what can we do? confront them, tell them to apologize, accept that their thinking is wrong and in future, they are only allow to use nice words even when they see kids behaving the way they don't agree on?

As much as I wish the NT world can understand and accept our kids, I gathered that we can't really expect people to make the effort to understand autism, especially when they didn't have the chance to get involved with any person with autism throughout their life. Take for ourselves? How many of us make the effort to read up on autism before our child is diagnosed or suspected with the condition?

So now, I'm trying to tell myself, not to get upset with unpleasant comments and don't have the expectation that people will be kind to our kids. I will just focus on doing my part to bring him up properly, help him to learn integrating with the NT so that people are more willing to accept him

Specialboymum, its true that if not for having a special needs child myself I would still not understand this community to show sufficient tolerance and patience towards individuals who behave differently from the norms.

I like to look at things this way - life is a package. What each gains and what each loses is a net balance at the end of the day. While we may find that we have lost certain things, we have also gained in other ways. Conversely, what others gain in certain ways, they would have lost certain things too. Thats not to put other people down because they do not understand our special needs children. It's just putting things into perspective. Other people would have their fair share of problems to deal with. They would have their fair share of hard knocks to deal with.

So are we better off? No. Are we worse off? No. We just have to deal with things as they come. Hope for the best, but always be prepared for the worst.

[specialboymum]

jme:

Specialboymum,


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[nugget]

slmkhoo:

Whatever the outcome, nothing actually changes. You child will be the same, and your responsibilities as a parent will be the same. Look at it from that perspective, and the stress will be less.

:goodpost: :goodpost: :goodpost:
Nicely said Slmkhoo!

I also starting to feel a bit stress. The EIPIC teachers are telling me \"In mainstream, son will need to be able to do this.. \", \"In mainstream environment, son will be ask to do that....which he currently cant do now...\"

Now I am starting to question if I am doing the right thing or not.

[ImMeeMee]

slmkhoo:

ImMeeMee:

[quote=\"Double E\"]My son is going for his formal ASD assessment tomorrow. But I am feeling calm, not nervous at all.

Double E, I salute your peace of mind. My doter is due for her psy assessment by end Feb, and although I know it is not judgement day, I still feel jittery about it. There're still a lot of 'if only...' and 'what if ...' in my mind, and I cant chase those thoughts away.

Whatever the outcome, nothing actually changes. You child will be the same, and your responsibilities as a parent will be the same. Look at it from that perspective, and the stress will be less.[/quote]Thanks slmkhoo. Yes, whatever the outcome, she will always be the doter that I love. My support for her will remain and continue. Just that, sometimes the weakness in me does get the better and my thoughts start to stray.

Must stay firmly grounded ...

[nugget]

ImMeeMee:

Thanks slmkhoo. Yes, whatever the outcome, she will always be the doter that I love. My support for her will remain and continue. Just that, sometimes the weakness in me does get the better and my thoughts start to stray.

Must stay firmly grounded ...

ImMeeMee,
No doubt about it. We love our ASD kids so much that's why we worry so much in the first place. I think its normal to get jitters. For me, my turn will be in May/June. But no matter what outcome, I still want him to lead a normal educational life. Go P1, if he cannot make it, then we will queue up to go pathlight.

[mashy]

nugget:

slmkhoo:

Whatever the outcome, nothing actually changes. You child will be the same, and your responsibilities as a parent will be the same. Look at it from that perspective, and the stress will be less.

:goodpost: :goodpost: :goodpost:
Nicely said Slmkhoo!

I also starting to feel a bit stress. The EIPIC teachers are telling me \"In mainstream, son will need to be able to do this.. \", \"In mainstream environment, son will be ask to do that....which he currently cant do now...\"

Now I am starting to question if I am doing the right thing or not.

Do what in mainstream?

[helplessmum3]

I will withdraw my son from rainbow n transfer to other eipic …