All About Autism

[ImMeeMee]

Double E:

Nugget

Tomorrow will be better though I can totally understand how you feel when your son throws up a fuss in the public. I have also grown to be thick skin about it.

Anyway, my son surprised me with two things over the weekend. Firstly is his ability to problem solve. On Sat at my in laws, I asked him to go pee. After finishing his business, he wanted to wash his hands but as the basis was to high for him, he actually put down the cover of the toilet bowl, then climb on it to reach the basin. I was very surprised because during such circumstance, he will ask for help but that day, he thought of a way to handle the situation himself. I am not sure if anyone in the family taught him this but when I asked my husband (thinking he is the one who taught him), he was surprised too.

The second incident was yesterday at a friend's place. My friend's neighbour's 5 year old daughter came over to play with the kids and while all the kids were waiting for the adults to distribute ice-cream to them, my son went to her, tap on her hand and said \"Hey!\". This is the very first time that I see my son approaching his peer without me prompting and doing it very appropriately.

My son is turning 4 in two weeks time, I hope as he matures, his social skills will improve.

Double E, cheers! :celebrate:

My doter's mainstream CC teacher told me end of last week that she is beginning to play with her peers. Guess what, she said my doter played with the boys for two minutes ...

Even though 2 minutes is really nothing substantial, it brought a lot of joy in my heart, cos it means she is settling in well in the CC, she is beginning to show interest in interactive play, and she is not averse to the mainstream environment. So I can try more things now.

I am now teaching her about sharing with friends by letting her bring a short story book to school every day. The teachers are supportive by reading her book in class and making her feel valued with bringing the book and sharing. I am also teaching her about belongings by telling her to keep her book in her bag before she goes home. Not there yet, but one day it may come.

She has learnt the before-meal song in full at school, and has started to sing it at home. This is the first song that she has taught my two elder gals, and that joy is really great.

More good things will come. We just need to believe.

[helplessmum3]

Imeemee,


I always shout at my son he always tear n say "wait wait , angry is it"

[nugget]

ImMeeMee:

nugget, some good days and some bad days.

Yesterday I was coaching my doter on her handwriting. I wanted her to exercise slow and steady strokes to trace big curves properly, but she was only eager to finish off quickly, so naturally a mess. I raised my voice at her to do it properly. Not scolding her, but volume of voice went up. She paused for a while and started to wipe off her tears with her hand quietly. Not crying, not sobbing, no throwing tantrums, just wiping off tears quietly.

It made me feel real bad at that point. I was just consumed with wanting her to do her work properly at the expense of other things - writing is never her strength. But after that I made it a point to finish off the exercise on a positive note for her, and resolved within myself to control my temper next time we do the exercise again.

Look at it as glass half filled - every episode helps us learn to be better parents and we get better each time. I will remember her very sad expression and make sure I dont raise my voice unnecessarily again.

Same here, I had that moment before. But my son didnt just wipe away his tears. His eyes will rim with tear then he will say \"I dun want mummy, I want to be alone all by myself. I do writing by myself\".

I was sooooo guilty. Sigh. I think coaching him is also a way to train myself to be more patience. But now seeing his penmanship getting better and he can copy words makes me feel so proud of him.

[nugget]

ImMeeMee:

BTW, we are going for a short trip this weekend too.


For us, our aim is to relax and spend some time away togther with the kids but away from home. Hubz has booked a nice room and planned a very relaxed itinerary, so that we are not too stressed with trying to cover too many things during the trip.

The gals like to spend a lot of time in the hotel room, watching TV and relaxing on the bed with air con on full blast, so we are likely to spend quite some time doing that. Most probably will go to the hotel pool for long dips as well. May sound a bit silly for a holiday trip, but no harm done if this is what they like.

So my two cents worth to consider having a relaxed trip and have more fun spending time together as a family, if going to too many places of interest may end up being more stressed.

It doesnt sound silly. In fact is even better than going away. But my boys are excited about take the plane, so we dun mind giving it a try.

Now I am so stress about the plane ride and journey to the resort, worry this , worry that. Haha. I also wont be doing any sight seeing. Most likely is also chill out in the resort as well.

[Double E]

Nugget, when I travel with my boy, I print pictures of planes n the things that he need to do in the plane like sleep. That helps for him. U may want to try. I also print screen grabs of the places that we are visiting to prep him.

[helplessmum3]

Double e,


Ur boy will sleep in plane ? How many hrs is the journey ?

How do u teach him by picture ?

[Double E]

We went on two trips, one is a 4.5 hrs flight, the other is 7 hrs. He slept almost through out.


I just print out my instruction n read to him everyday for about 5 days before the trip to let him know that when he boards the plane, he needs to sleep n when he wakes up , we will reach our destination

[mashy]

My son has gone on many holidays with us from 1 year old. When he was much younger, he just followed. Only the night flights then had problems. Other than that was pretty fine. He spent most of his holidays looking at the stroller wheels and the floor when he was younger. Lol. Now that he’s older, he will tell me what he wants to do and looks forward to holidays. He also remembers fine details of the holiday that we don’t really notice. We always bring along the stroller coz that kept him with us instead of running off. For the latest holiday, we got a buggy board so that he could stand behind the stroller.

[sharonkhoo]

My daughter always had problems sleeping unless in total quiet and darkness. We had problems in early years until she was old enough to accept using eye shades to sleep. Now she travels better. For small kids, whether ASD or NT, make sure you have lots of snacks, toys and books, and let them eat or drink during take-off or landing to avoid ear problems.

[helplessmum3]

Wow ! Amazing . Is it one during his nap time flight n nite flight …


We went hk b4 but b4 2yo is fine just when arriving n landing he cry very loud . My fren say is ears pressure