All About Autism

[af7680]

Double e


I got the same dilemma recently.
but have decided to stay put in current job ( got offered better paying job)
In fact I am in the midst of asking current company to work sort of part time so that I can take care of my son.

[helplessmum3]

Double e,

When u are not working late n not traveling .
What will u do w yr son ?

I guess most of yr son time now are w therapist n tuitor correct ?

Do u sleep w ur son ? Or make him sleep ?

Yr maid help what on him ?

[Double E]

Helplessmum


I don’t have a maid. I wish I have but when I think of the money I have to pay the maid, I rather spend it on my kids.

And no, he doesn’t spend most of the time with his therapists, he only goes for therapy on 2 days each week, each day about half a day. And his tuition is only 1 hour each week.

My son’s routine is this. For 3 days in a week, he will go to a kindy in the morning and afternoon he will be at my mum’s. He will take his nap there. My mum will help me to bring him to play at the playground or teach him to write. They are writing chinese words now. If not writing, my mum will help me to teach him life skills like wearing socks.

And at night after I come back from work, I will bring him home. Depending on the time, if is still early, I will do work with him like Maths and English. He will go to bed around 10pm. He will request to read before going to bed. Sometimes I will read to him or he will read by himself. I try not to pat him to sleep, want to train him to be independent. Most of the time, he can sleep by himself. I will ignore his cries for us but if it gets too much, I will go into the room again and tell him to sleep, stop talking and kiss him good night again. I usually have to do this 2 to 3 times before he eventually falls asleep by himself.

af7680
Yah, actually it is also my plan to work part-time when my son starts his primary school education. So I guess, I have no choice to stay put at my current workplace.

[Double E]

Mummies

I have an issue here. Not sure if any of your kids have similar problem.
As I mentioned, my son is now in a church kindy and he is very fond of this girl in his class and likes to sit with her. While I am glad that he is getting sociable, I can't help but worry too as he is overly friendly. He will want to touch the girl on her face and sit very close to her so much so that it made the girl very uncomfortable. I hope I won't get a complaint from the girl's mum

Does such situation happen to any of your kid? What should I do to teach my son that while is good that he likes to have a friend, he must know how to give personal space too, like cannot sit so close to the girl or touch her face. I had showed him once (with the girl around) that if he wants to be friendly with the girl, he can only touch her shoulder and say \"Hi\", he is not to touch her face because the girl will be angry. When I ask him questions to test if he understands me, he can answer me correctly but the next morning when he sees the girl in class, he did it again. He will touch her face and sit very close to her. Will be grateful if anyone has tips to share. Thanks

[sharonkhoo]

Double E:

Mummies

I have an issue here. Not sure if any of your kids have similar problem.
As I mentioned, my son is now in a church kindy and he is very fond of this girl in his class and likes to sit with her. While I am glad that he is getting sociable, I can't help but worry too as he is overly friendly. He will want to touch the girl on her face and sit very close to her so much so that it made the girl very uncomfortable. I hope I won't get a complaint from the girl's mum

Does such situation happen to any of your kid? What should I do to teach my son that while is good that he likes to have a friend, he must know how to give personal space too, like cannot sit so close to the girl or touch her face. I had showed him once (with the girl around) that if he wants to be friendly with the girl, he can only touch her shoulder and say \"Hi\", he is not to touch her face because the girl will be angry. When I ask him questions to test if he understands me, he can answer me correctly but the next morning when he sees the girl in class, he did it again. He will touch her face and sit very close to her. Will be grateful if anyone has tips to share. Thanks

This is quite normal in the sense that inappropriate behaviour is normal in ASD kids until they learn otherwise. They don't pick up on other people's discomfort as easily as NT kids. I think you should role play what he should and shouldn't do at home daily until he internalises the 'rules'. Telling and asking him to respond verbally doesn't translate into actions well, as you have discovered. You can alsoback it up with a social story with pictures.

[ImMeeMee]

Double E:

Mummies

I have an issue here. Not sure if any of your kids have similar problem.
As I mentioned, my son is now in a church kindy and he is very fond of this girl in his class and likes to sit with her. While I am glad that he is getting sociable, I can't help but worry too as he is overly friendly. He will want to touch the girl on her face and sit very close to her so much so that it made the girl very uncomfortable. I hope I won't get a complaint from the girl's mum

Does such situation happen to any of your kid? What should I do to teach my son that while is good that he likes to have a friend, he must know how to give personal space too, like cannot sit so close to the girl or touch her face. I had showed him once (with the girl around) that if he wants to be friendly with the girl, he can only touch her shoulder and say \"Hi\", he is not to touch her face because the girl will be angry. When I ask him questions to test if he understands me, he can answer me correctly but the next morning when he sees the girl in class, he did it again. He will touch her face and sit very close to her. Will be grateful if anyone has tips to share. Thanks

Double E, you can try teaching your child about maintaining an arm's length as a good social distance with friends. My doter's OT also taught her about different social circles, eg. with family we can hug and kiss, with friends we can shake hands (but not hug and kiss), and with strangers we should maintain an arm's length.

I think it may also help if you were to list down what can be done and what cannot be done with friends and put up the list in a visible place so as to remind your child. It will probably take some time but with practice, it may eventually sink in.

Hope this helps.

[ArielMermaid]

jme:

Hi arielmermaid,


R u still doing biomed? Does your son have high copper in the hair test?

Hi Jme,
Yes, still on it. Nope, he had no problem with high copper.

Best

[helplessmum3]

double e, your son is just 4yo…


is it it a kids way to social?

double e, u are so lucky to have your mother.

[helplessmum3]

www


check this out

http://www.asha.org/public/speech/disorders/Autism.htm#one

[jme]

Arielmermaid,

Is yours trace element Inc?

I just did another round of test for my kids n myself. Copper went up quite a bit for all of us. Mercury too. My copper hit 7.8, really high ya. so had to get my husband to do the hair test to confirm toxic exposure is from our house. His copper went up too based on 6 months ago. I thought of testing our water supply for copper with either HSA or GSG but Gi didn’t think it is a good idea leh. Apart from water source, I really cannot think of what causes all family’s copper to increase so much. So just wondering whether u would know about copper issue.

I also been contemplating to see your DAN for QnA session. But I don’t think he will be pleased if I just pay him consultation fee n ask him thousand n one questions without doing any test or buying supp from him. If only there is a school to teach us on biomed.

Apart from taking high doses of vit C to reduce copper, slowly change all cleaning agents to non toxic type, I really have no idea what I should do le.