All About Autism

[ImMeeMee]

nugget:

I agreed with ImMeeMee,


I also feel my son, even though autistic, also dun like to be reprimanded and also need a lot of praises and assurance. No different from other kids.

He also will feel jealous and wants our attention. And being the oldest, he loves to boss his two younger siblings around.

ASD kids are as sensitive as normal kids.

nugget, its a good sign that he feels jealousy.

My doter recently feels upset at times when she sees her two sisters going to school in the early morning without her. She will say she wants to go to the school too and that she wants to wear the school name tag.

Since our application to school next year is not fixed yet, I cant talk to her about looking forward to new school at this point. :sad:

She's at the stage where she needs some managing of self-esteem now, so I do find it a bit tricky.

[helplessmum3]

Imeemee… Nuget .


My son too will get jealous when I carry other baby

[nugget]

ImMeeMee.


My son feels like he has privilege cos he is oldest. he is quite egoistic and bossy.

Maybe let your doter take care of certain things and give lots of praise. It might help to boost self esteem.

Like my son now likes to help all of us refilled our water and water bottles. He feel very good when he did a good job.

[ImMeeMee]

helplessmum3:

Imeemee.


I'm as guilty as grandmother ...

I shout at my son very often n I also use words like \"shut up\"\"\"

helplessmum, try to control your temper. Your son is a bright child and the last thing you want is to push him the other way.

[ImMeeMee]

nugget:

ImMeeMee.


My son feels like he has privilege cos he is oldest. he is quite egoistic and bossy.

Maybe let your doter take care of certain things and give lots of praise. It might help to boost self esteem.

Like my son now likes to help all of us refilled our water and water bottles. He feel very good when he did a good job.

My doter is not into things like that ... she likes intellectual stimulation and enjoys praises in this area. Now she is telling me she wants to do school work like her two jie jie ... :yikes:

[nugget]

ImMeeMee:

My doter is not into things like that ... she likes intellectual stimulation and enjoys praises in this area. Now she is telling me she wants to do school work like her two jie jie ... :yikes:

ImMeeMee,

Thats very good. My son doesnt like to do homework at all. I stress hahaha. He likes to do housework! :rotflmao:

[helplessmum3]

ImMeeMee:

helplessmum3:

Imeemee.


I'm as guilty as grandmother ...

I shout at my son very often n I also use words like \"shut up\"\"\"

helplessmum, try to control your temper. Your son is a bright child and the last thing you want is to push him the other way.

Imeemee.

How do u control at the spark of moment ...

I feel Sooo guilty after math

[ImMeeMee]

helplessmum3:

Imeemee.

How do u control at the spark of moment ...

I feel Sooo guilty after math

Helplessmum, its true that its difficult to control at the point.

For me, I feel guilty after every flare up, and I will reflect on what I can do better next time round.

At the next instance when there is a trigger, I find that I am able to hold slightly better. But there are times when I slip too. When it gets slightly better every time, after many times, the improvement becomes significant.

It doesn't come overnight, but if you keep at it, it becomes better.

[helplessmum3]

ImMeeMee:

helplessmum3:

Imeemee.

How do u control at the spark of moment ...

I feel Sooo guilty after math

Helplessmum, its true that its difficult to control at the point.

For me, I feel guilty after every flare up, and I will reflect on what I can do better next time round.

At the next instance when there is a trigger, I find that I am able to hold slightly better. But there are times when I slip too. When it gets slightly better every time, after many times, the improvement becomes significant.

It doesn't come overnight, but if you keep at it, it becomes better.

Thanks imeemee I wil definitely try w u can manage I will able to try too

[sharonkhoo]

helplessmum3:

ImMeeMee:

[quote=\"helplessmum3\"]Imeemee.


I'm as guilty as grandmother ...

I shout at my son very often n I also use words like \"shut up\"\"\"

helplessmum, try to control your temper. Your son is a bright child and the last thing you want is to push him the other way.

Imeemee.

How do u control at the spark of moment ...

I feel Sooo guilty after math :([/quote]It's not just controlling yourself, but it's good to find an alternative reaction. Can you identify what triggers you to shout, and then find another way to handle your son? For me, I used to shout a lot, then trained myself to take a couple of deep breaths, look my daughter in the eye and tell her firmly to stop whatever it was she was doing to annoy me. If she didn't, I would then tell her what the penalty would be (mostly time out), give the instruction again, then impose the penalty if she didn't stop. I ran those scenarios over and over again in my mind to 'train' myself (like social stories!) so that I would be able to carry it out the next time. Maybe you can try this.