All About Autism

[Double E]

Mashy

No lah, the alternative is along Outram road, cos I stay around there.

Phtthp
thanks for the recommendation, AMK is way too far for me.

Snowyqueen
must be hurtful to hear others calling your girl names. I am sure I will be very upset. So far, I haven’t heard any names for my son except for Mr Confuse, haha! which I thought was quite funny. Cos I think in N2, when he first joined the current kindy, he always look blur and confuse, so the teacher always say, XX is confused again. So I think the classmates started to call him Mr Confuse.

[mashy]

Double E:

Mashy

No lah, the alternative is along Outram road, cos I stay around there.

Phtthp
thanks for the recommendation, AMK is way too far for me.

Snowyqueen
must be hurtful to hear others calling your girl names. I am sure I will be very upset. So far, I haven't heard any names for my son except for Mr Confuse, haha! which I thought was quite funny. Cos I think in N2, when he first joined the current kindy, he always look blur and confuse, so the teacher always say, XX is confused again. So I think the classmates started to call him Mr Confuse.

Oh I see. So I guess now the in thing is to incorporate enrichment classes into the school fees? Hope he adjusts well.

Snowy queen

Happy to see that both you and your dd have overcome obstacles and achieved what u did today. The fruits are sweeter when u have to work for it. I'm sure the things she learnt in her early years will strengthen her further and be more resilient. You are such a great mommy! :salute:

[ImMeeMee]

snowyqueen:

Dear Double E,

I hope all would turn smooth eventually for u. I had to change 2 times kinder for my DD last time n eventually settled in a church kinder as well although we are not Christians. Even that, she had classmates who called her 'loser' and no one really wanted to play with her for her time there. But the environment was still the most conducive for her condition n teachers were caring. I was lucky to be able to put her in an all girls mission school again for MS primary school education which was crucial for her development.
I remember when she was younger I had the phobia of bringing her out because it was hard to handle her emotions in public at times. She needed repetitive assurance for her numerous requests and needed me to hold her very tightly along the journey.
I had to change job when she was P5 so that I could spent more time to prepare for PSLE with her and all the adjustments to accommodate to her. Imagine the nights that I had spent crying secretly because of the issues that popped up which were stressful and taxing. I also believe together with her, both of us built up the resiliency and perseverance along the journey. We are stronger and more determined to pursue what we want to do. Dd is also diligent and knows how to set targets for herself n work towards it. I now can talk opening to her about her condition n she even chose to attend psychology during sabbatical week so that she could understand herself more.
Just a few months back, she told me the classmate who used to call her loser in kinder was in same school as her doing ip. So I asked her, given the drastic gap in intellect in kinder times n comparing now, was she a loser? She replied strongly \" NO of course\". I thanked the classmate for the remarks because it had created such a stir and pain in us that we vowed to overcome whatever difficulties that we would encounter so that we(she) would not be a loser in life. Good luck to all for the journey. I really hope after tasting the bitter, sweet is ahead of us.

snowyqueen, I like your success story, esp what is bitter now will bear sweet in time to come. I abide by this belief and it has done great things for me along this journey. :goodpost:

[fluttershy]

I just want to share that my son (age 2,5yrs) reached another milestones last week.. he's able to complete 25 pcs jigsaw puzzles without help or assistance..it's a good sign, right? :snuggles:


today the therapist gave him another new set of 25 pcs jigsaw puzzles & although it took him quite some time to complete, he managed to finish it without any frustrations..he really loves playing puzzles

he's learning his verbs too (e.g. hugging, eating, swimming, sleeping), he picked all the right picture for each verbs when he was asked to, which his behaviour consultant think it's fantastic! :celebrate:

[ImMeeMee]

fluttershy:

I just want to share that my son (age 2,5yrs) reached another milestones last week.. he's able to complete 25 pcs jigsaw puzzles without help or assistance..it's a good sign, right? :snuggles:


today the therapist gave him another new set of 25 pcs jigsaw puzzles & although it took him quite some time to complete, he managed to finish it without any frustrations..he really loves playing puzzles

he's learning his verbs too (e.g. hugging, eating, swimming, sleeping), he picked all the right picture for each verbs when he was asked to, which his behaviour consultant think it's fantastic! :celebrate:

Good for you and your DS, fluttershy. :celebrate:

Hang in there, more good things will come if we keep to it persistently. My doter is now 7 yo, and though there are good and bad days, she is making consistent improvements. Now things are more normalized as compared to her pre-school years, the pain is less poignant, the sadness less frequent ... in fact, she is a blessing to us, and brings with her great joy.

So take time to savour the good moments, and grit through the not-so-good ones. Overall you will eventually find that this is a worthwhile journey.

[fluttershy]

thanks ImMeeMee,


yes, he's been a having a good week this past 2 weeks. The other time I was so frustrated that he kept throwing tantrum before bed, it made me so so sad and i ended up fell asleep in tears

bad days aside, i'm so grateful that he's able to wave bye bye consistently now. Also the cutest thing that he do is that when i said \"kiss, mama\" he will pucker up his lip (like an octopus mouth) and pull me close for me to kiss him :snuggles: i always end up laughing so hard, he looked so cute when his lip is all puckered up waiting for me to kiss him back :love: hope as the time goes by, he will keep improving :xedfingers:

[Liyuan]

I just want to share that my son (age 2,5yrs) reached another milestones last week.. he's able to complete 25 pcs jigsaw puzzles without help or assistance..it's a good sign, right? :snuggles:


today the therapist gave him another new set of 25 pcs jigsaw puzzles & although it took him quite some time to complete, he managed to finish it without any frustrations..he really loves playing puzzles

he's learning his verbs too (e.g. hugging, eating, swimming, sleeping), he picked all the right picture for each verbs when he was asked to, which his behaviour consultant think it's fantastic! :celebrate:

Hi Fluttershy,

Yes indeed =). I supposed you are talking about wooden puzzles. Those are good for visuo spatial and fine motor skills. You can try some part whole puzzles. It is where a picture that is cut up with straight cuts. An example is where you get a picture of an apple with a white background and cut it into 2 parts with a straight line. Then get your son to piece them together. Do use pictures that is relevant in his life (eg. a golf club probably wont make too much sense to him at this point of time). This is a drill to improve on the child cognitive skills and thus it is very important that he piece the pictures in a upright manner and this will give you a hint if he has some form of representational skills as well. But do check with your case manager or therapists if he is ready for this stage as they will know him much better.

Hope it helps

Liyuan
http://www.autismSTEP.com

[Couragemom]

Hi fluttershy,


Woah! That is great! My boy who is turning 3 at the end of the month is still stuck at the 25 pcs puzzle level. He used to love doing them but nowadays he is not so ‘on’ already. Hee… Hee…

Just like what ImMeeMee had said so eloquently, the fear and pain in us will subside (or at least reside in a less prominent part of our heart!!!) as we see the improvements in our very special darlings as the days go by.

[Couragemom]

Hi parents,


I like to ask a silly question (please don’t laugh at my ignorance!). Do our special darlings know how to lie? I read or heard from somewhere that due to their literal or black-&-white perspective, they are poor liars.

Recently I realized that my son (he turns 3 this month, hurray!!!) will tell a lie to save his skin. For example, he is playing toys together with his sister and he accidentally broke a toy and I will ask ‘who break the toy? Is it xxxx?’ He will then answer ‘No, jie jie spoilt toy’ but the actual fact was that he was the culprit. Then I will get angry and say ‘mommy saw xxx break the toy, not jie jie. Xxxx is a naughty boy’. My darling son will get upset and rushed up to me to hug me and say ‘xxxx is a good boy’.

Now that he turns 3 in a week’s time, I am starting to think of the assessment issue, and whether to go for it soon or to wait. If any parents have any good psychologist to recommend, please PM me. Thanks!

[humpty]

Hi


I am new to this forum and would like to say Hi! to all the mummies and daddies here!

I’ve got a boy who is 4yo and seems to be possible ASD. I’m now trying to teach him to sit still in class. He is now in full day child care and they have lessons that require the children to sit within a pre-defined square on the floor. My boy has trouble respecting this rule when the lesson doesn’t appeal to him (e.g. chinese class). And he will start to wander around the room and play with the books/toys. The teachers have tried all means and ways to get him to join the class or at least just sit within the box…but he won’t comply. None of the other children have this issue. And they are saying that by this age, they should be able to understand the class rules and the consequences of not doing so… My son is constantly in a "war" with the teachers about this. They think they he is not obeying authority and is disruptive to the class which often results in lose-lose outcomes on for both the teachers and my son…

I’m wondering how to teach him to do so… any ideas? It’s causing him to be cast as a "misfit" even by the other children. So it’s quite a serious problem when he doesn’t follow the social norms of the classroom…

Is there OT that can teach this to children? And if so, what do they do? What are strategies that we can use to get him to sit still even when he is not engaged in the activity? He does really well for his favourite classes/teachers and can complete tasks and sit with full attention… only when he is bored (e.g. chinese…)