All About Autism

[Niu2009]

Double E:

I looked throught his past worksheets and realised he waste alot of time doing extra work. Eg. for MCQ qns, instead of just writing the number in the bracket, he will write the answer on the blank and in the bracket. So instead of spending 5mins on the MCQ, he could be spending x2 more. Or when instruction asks him to circle his answer, he will purposely draw a square instead.

If like this case, you need to train the skill. My one is different, finish very fast. So I am training him
self - checking. If he cares marks then is easier.

[jme]

Hi mummies


Just to share.. There is a fb group.. Hmm goodness probiotics.. They r nice n generous people willing to share with their water kefir grains n milk kefir grains n info.. If u wanna look for alternatives to heal our kids' guts.. U can join them to find out more...

Btw I have extra wk grains.. Am ok if anyone wants it.. Still trying to \"grow\" my mk grains.. Can only share when I have more.. Don't pm me ya.. I hardly login.. Couldn't change my pm email add too.. Just post here will do

[tyeogh]

Hi all,

LTNS. Hope everyone is doing good

[Niu2009]

Hi all,

Time flies. Term 2 ending soon. Will go 2nd PTM. So far my DS is good, not hear anything from teachers. No fixed closed friend, but start to mix with classmates sometimes. Overall, he learned many things from his peers. Maybe the big changllening ahead.

[jme]

tyeogh:

Hi all,

LTNS. Hope everyone is doing good

Thought LTNS a very chim chim acronym.. Went Google then realized it is long time no see :rotflmao:

[sharonkhoo]

Someone sent me this link to an article about autism. Quite a good read.

http://www.economist.com/news/briefing/ ... m-past-why

[ImMeeMee]

Hi everyone


Haven’t checked in here for quite some time. Trust that we are all keeping in line with our best in caring for our loved ones.

Feeling a bit pensive these days. Last night had a chat with DH on DD3 and her future. He said that she will be partially independent but may not be fully independent. But in any case, he highlighted that he is one proud daddy of her achievements and progress.

I pondered over the point on adulthood dependency, and it brought me down a few notches. Although I knew DH was speaking the reality, it still hit me hard in the face. The eventual seems to get a bit closer as DD3 grows older by the day, and while I try my utmost to stay positive, the eventual does not seem all bright and sunny. I am only hoping that she is independent into adulthood and even this seems not as near-reaching as I have hoped.

There seems to be so many things to do and so little time. And what with us ageing, our physical and mental being seems to start to lag behind and not catching up. That fear becomes real and poignant. I ask for a solution but there seems none.

The feeling of helplessness sets in, as I seem to watch things slide by so quickly and fluidly but not able to catch hold of any of them. I want to make things stop for a while, take a breather, collect myself and move forward, but I seemed consumed by the never-endedness.

We are who we think, and right now I am not the best of any positive being. This is one of those days where we just have to let go to bring us back up again. While I trust that I will see some silver lining somewhere, as of now I am still looking. Life has it all planned out, I just have to wait for the right moment.

[sharonkhoo]

Always look back to see how far you’ve come. It seems slow when you are in the midst of things, especially if you compare to NT kids of the same age, but if you look back 2 yrs, 5 yrs etc, you will see the improvements.


As for adult independence, just remember not to expect it on the same timeline as NT kids. We have come to terms with that with our daughter - at 19, she’s more like 15, and we expect that she will not be like an NT 21yo until she’s 30 or 35! Still, that’s something to look forward to. And maybe total independence may be difficult to achieve, but if she can be independent for 80-90% of things, and she has a social support of sibling/cousins/friends to ask about the 10-20%, she can probably cope even when we are no longer around. That will be the case for your daughter too, so don’t be too down.

[tyeogh]

I never did look too far into the crystal ball. It makes me worry for nothing and most of the time, it turns out different from what I imagine it to be. Just go back to first principle. Enjoy our kids for what they are. Enjoy the family time and bonds. Our time together may be short. I have peers who have already gone to the other world. So I cherish the current with my kids, not waste energy figuring out the future. There are aspies before them who survived and there will be aspies after them who will survive. If you don't expect the condo and car lifestyle, our kids are far more resilient than what we make them out to be. Jmho.


It's probably one of those moments when you feel defeated. You'd bounce back. Who'd we kidding. You're an aspie mom. Tough as my wife's cookie

[mashy]

I'm also feeling kind of defeated now. Taking one step forward and two steps back. Working very hard now to move against the tide.


Gotta cheer ourselves up this period. Getting kind of depressed lately.

:rahrah: :rahrah: :rahrah:

Sale is coming. Gotta do some retail therapy.