Thanks for the replies. My ex and I are not on talking terms cos I feel that he doesn’t really care much about the well being of my kids. Like I’ve said, he only ask to see them once every 2-3 months or even longer. Like in 2013, he have not contacted my elder kid or reply any of her smses when my child wishes him Happy New Year till now. Neither did he mentioned anything about bringing them out.


I don’t speak anything badly of my ex in fact, or rather I should say I dont even mentioned anything about him. The kids never bother either. We have been divorced for coming 4 years till date. During these few years, he did not bother about them or care for their well being. He doesn’t even know which sec sch my elder one is in or ever attended a parents teacher meeting since the kids were born. When my kid was hospitalised a few years back due to fever, he didn’t even pay a visit or reply my what’s app to at least acknowledge the matter.

I understand that having both parents identity are important for the children, but I can’t help questioning- if a father is not concerned or doesn’t care much about the children, then what’s the point of carrying on a surname that belongs to him ?

My fiance is ready to legally adopt them as his own and he doesn’t want the kids to feel awkward when people start to question how come their surname is different from their daddy. My younger one keep asking if he can call him papa, can he be his papa every other day. I believe that he can feel the effort being put in, cos he will tuck my younger one to bed every night, bring him for enrichment lessons, coach him homework, prepare breakfast and play sports with him etc, something that his natural father never done for him before.

In fact, I felt very sad for my younger one sometimes… I know deep inside him, he yearns for a daddy figure and that’s why he is very close to my fiancé. He will hold his hands (instead of mine) and kiss him, and call him papa… I am at a loss, not sure what I should do.

Yep, I agree on the part that divorce shouldn’t affect the relationship with the parent and child. But somehow I just feel that since their father is so non-existant, then what’s the point of still holding on the surname ? For e.g, they only see him less than 5 times a year, never get involved in their upbringing, dont even know which sec sch my elder one goes to etc…


Sigh…

Thank for the kind replies Yup, my concern is also like most of you here-whether it will confuse my kids or not. Now that they are both in pri & sec sch respectively. They are ok with the idea, but I highly doubt that my ex will agree. :roll:


My spouse-to-be is rather serious on the idea of them following his surname and is also willing to legally adopt them, and suggesting sole custody, even though it means lost of child maintenance. But my worry is still the same, it still need my ex consent right ? We are not in talking terms, only my kids does that occasionally. He sees them once every 3 months on average for dinner. He is never interested in their life and well being at all.

I am keen in the above, but both my kids are under joint custody. I am considering changing their surname to my future spouse. What happens if my ex do not agree ? I believe consent on his part is mandatory…


Anyone had experience before ?

Hi. Can someone recommend me a Maths tutor for my Sec 2 gal ? Around Woodlands area (near Marsiling mrt station)


Thank you very much

I need referral too, can anyone pm me please ?

I would also think that class allocation is by phases. I remembered my elder kid going to the same class with those kids I did PV with. Quite a couple of them. This time, my ds is registered under Phase 1. My friend's dd registered same phase as mine, going to 1 Youthful

Hi…


My Ds is going Chongfu next year too…! He will be in 1 Loyal