Wow.. thanks for all the support and great ideas. I am glad to have this online conversation with you and yes.. will do all I can to motivate my son and give him the time he needs. :grphug: :thankyou:

Thanks parents.. I feel more relieved. Last night, I took some personal time (in the toilet - bleargghh!) just to think and reflect. I felt that if I don't start giving more attention now, it may too late later. Once they reach teens, it'll be another set of issues. I agree that English foundation is important. My children mean so much to me and yes I'll sacrifice for them.

Thanks all for your opinion and guidance.


My supervisor has been telling me to further my studies because she finds that I have the potential to go further and by upgrading I can help to lift up the financial income. If I do not further my studies now, I will never be able to do so in future (by the time I hit mid 40s if I were to wait for my 2nd son to pull through PSLE).

I'm working full time and my elder son is taken care by an Indonesian helper. Though I emphasised to my son that it is better for him to do his homework in the afternoon so that I can focus on revision at night, he will still wait for me to come back. I guess he's still not so independent yet. I asked him yesterday if he is agreeable for me to study at night, and he doesn't want me to do so. I guess this shows he needs my attention more since I couldn't be with him during day time. Sigh..

Hi Parents


I feel helpless at this moment because I lacked support.

I received a call from my son's teacher (he's in P2) and was told that he did badly for his 1st grammar test. I was very disappointed with my son and had a good talk with him last night. I felt very emotional about how he had performed (as if I was the one taking the test). My son got average results in P1 and when he failed his grammar test recently, I felt like the world tumbled down.

My son is the type of boy who would wait for me to come back from work and sit down to do his homework only at night. I have put in so much effort to talk to him to try doing his homework after school (he is in morning session), he tried initially, but gave up when he couldn't do most of the homework himself.

I had earlier submitted my application to take up part time diploma (will take up 4 nights weekly). In this case, my time spent with my son will be very limited. So I'm not sure if I should withdrew my application in order to help my son.

I am now thinking hard - if I should sacrifice my time to help my son or should I still pursue my goal to further my studies?

May I seek the advice of parents here? Thanks.

For the past 2 months eversince I returned my maid back to the agent (upon her request), my mind was in peace. Of course, my concern is just the housework but I did what I can. I leave the ironing for a part time helper to do (so you can imagine the 'mountain' after 1 week.. hehehe).


But the most important thing is no stress thinking of these maids. My mind was peaceful. However, hubby told me to give another try coz eldest son is going to P1 next year, 2nd son going to Nursery. Need a maid to fetch them to n from school coz we r both working. I told him we could put them in student/child care, but he said to give another try. Sometimes, we can go into arguments because of maids. Even my 2 children dislike having maids and I can see how happy they are when there's no maid at home. Now, I am praying that we get a good maid.

Thanks hquek. Felt so relieved after speaking up.

hquek:

pinkycheeks:

:? I have no idea. I am giving up on them actually, but my husband disagrees and wld like to continue having a maid. He said that it'll ease the household chores a lot and I get to spend more time coaching my children in their studies. Right now, I just dun want to have any. I am angry over what happen; it just doesn't pay - how I treat them, and how I ended up now.

If you have familial support, you can consider to go without maid for a short time and then evaluate if that's the way to go. In a sense, having a maid helps when you don't have to get the 101 household things done and can just concentrate on your kids - education and all.

But of course when a maid acts up, then you may find more energy sucked into managing that one individual instead.

Good luck with whatever choice you make!

:? I have no idea. I am giving up on them actually, but my husband disagrees and wld like to continue having a maid. He said that it'll ease the household chores a lot and I get to spend more time coaching my children in their studies. Right now, I just dun want to have any. I am angry over what happen; it just doesn't pay - how I treat them, and how I ended up now.


Niway, if husband decides to have a maid, I still have to stick with Indonesian. Sorry, I do not have any friends who employ Myanmar maids. Perhaps you can read this forum and see any feedback. Not sure if there are any Myanmar or Filipino maids who are Muslim right? A friend of mine switch to employing Filipino maid after similar incident like mine. So far she said her maid is good. Well, all this is luck.

All the best to you.

TAURUS:

pinkycheeks:

Hi Taurus

Looks like we are in the same boat. My maid is from Sragen, Jawa Tengah.

ya lor so now u waiting to get new maid? u got any feedback frm pple who use Myanmar maid? my agt told me for time being dun get Filipino cos recently there are some changes in their country so may hv difficulty cming in...

Hi Taurus


Looks like we are in the same boat. My maid is from Sragen, Jawa Tengah.

:x :x :x

This is my 3rd maid within a spread of 4 months. My first two maids were equally problematic, hence the send back.

After working with me for 1 mth and 2 weeks, she told me yesterday to send her back to the agent. She told me this early in the morning when I was getting ready to work. Can you imagine my anger, my disappointment??? :x When asked her why, she said 'tak de apa2' (nothing) repeatedly. When we were at the agency and they asked her why, she gave excuse that my 3year old son doesn't want her. I felt that excuse was so lame. So I told my agent to find out more from her, after we left.

True enough, she claimed that she has to worked in 2 homes :stupid: . I put her at my MIL's place in the morning as she is a freshie and there's no one to guide her at home and also I have no confidence with her being alone with my son. She is supposed to learn cooking and general house cleaning. My MIL taught her how to cook dishes, how to use the mop, wash the toilet, fold and iron clothes (which all these she doesn't know how to do). By the time she reach my place at 8.30pm (we go back after dinner), I do not insist that she complete the housework. Yet at times, I saw her sleeping late because she read the Quran. She even woke up at 2am to do prayers. She's giving so much excuses and claim that she's 'tired because she work in 2 homes'. That's so ridiculous!!!

What I don't understand is why are maids nowadays so choosy. Are they here to choose the employer, come here for holiday, dun want heavy-duty job, want luxury life? Is that what they want? While we employers are being reasonable and understanding, they step on our heads!!! Why isn't our govt protecting us, the employers??? These maids are causing us all the problems, yet we have to bear everything for them!!! I'm just so fed up with the maids. I am trying to convince hubby NOT TO HAVE MAIDS AGAIN!!! But hubby feels that we need one as our children will start schooling next year. We just have no luck with them around. :x :x :x

I just dun understand why these maids have such attitude problem. I have bought for her a nice baju kurung from JB last week. My MIL bought for her a comfortable pair of shoes and 3 pairs of pants for home wear. She's sooooo ungrateful!!!

Dear Parents


My son has refused going to school these days. When I asked him why, he told me he was always being scolded by his teachers and he hated school. He also said that he doesn’t want to go to school anymore. Just today, he reasoned that he’s tired and refused to budge out of bed.

I did have a talk with his teacher and was told that he has been misbehaving in class. He will not listen to his teacher, play with his friends during lesson time, follow what his friends did (even the wrong ones), did not do his work properly.

My son has also started to be more aggressive - demanding attention, getting angry at everyone, at times scold me (his own mother), hitting his younger brother. He is also more playful now.

He was not like this before. He used to be very quiet boy. Even though he is not so good academically, his teachers used to praise him for being able to be attentive and follow instructions accordingly.

I don’t really know what happen to him and why he suddenly change. He doesn’t want to speak with me and just keep telling me he doesn’t like school. He worries me a lot coz he’s going to P1 next year and the expectations might be even more challenging later on.