All About Full-Time Maids

[mwchua]

hquek:

Methinks if someone has her heart set on going, you should not keep her; afterall this is a free country. I do feel that she has had too easy a life and find it hard to adjust to real work. And if she's not here to work, honestly, I don't see why you should continue to feed her (as in employ her). She doesn't have to cook, look after old folks, look after kids.

Sorry, I cannot understand such mindset. I don't understand why they prefer to change employers/go home on a whim and pay all that money to the middlemen and agencies. I only understand such as like my ex-maid, come to SG to earn money - after 5 years and 5 figure savings later, go home and stay there for good with her OWN land, her OWN house.

My sentiment exactly. My maid of 1 month would rather pay S$3k to the middlemen and go back after 1 month here...and her family has the means to do so, when there is so little work to do at my home....

Finds it rather baffling...maybe it's the new generation of helpers nowadays....just like our generation X, or Y or whatever younger people in our workforce nowadays also. Maybe it's the big culture and mindset that is changing...

Is decent hardwork a virtue of yesterday already???? Or I belong to the old school of thought already :?

[pinkycheeks]

:x :x :x

This is my 3rd maid within a spread of 4 months. My first two maids were equally problematic, hence the send back.

After working with me for 1 mth and 2 weeks, she told me yesterday to send her back to the agent. She told me this early in the morning when I was getting ready to work. Can you imagine my anger, my disappointment??? :x When asked her why, she said 'tak de apa2' (nothing) repeatedly. When we were at the agency and they asked her why, she gave excuse that my 3year old son doesn't want her. I felt that excuse was so lame. So I told my agent to find out more from her, after we left.

True enough, she claimed that she has to worked in 2 homes :stupid: . I put her at my MIL's place in the morning as she is a freshie and there's no one to guide her at home and also I have no confidence with her being alone with my son. She is supposed to learn cooking and general house cleaning. My MIL taught her how to cook dishes, how to use the mop, wash the toilet, fold and iron clothes (which all these she doesn't know how to do). By the time she reach my place at 8.30pm (we go back after dinner), I do not insist that she complete the housework. Yet at times, I saw her sleeping late because she read the Quran. She even woke up at 2am to do prayers. She's giving so much excuses and claim that she's 'tired because she work in 2 homes'. That's so ridiculous!!!

What I don't understand is why are maids nowadays so choosy. Are they here to choose the employer, come here for holiday, dun want heavy-duty job, want luxury life? Is that what they want? While we employers are being reasonable and understanding, they step on our heads!!! Why isn't our govt protecting us, the employers??? These maids are causing us all the problems, yet we have to bear everything for them!!! I'm just so fed up with the maids. I am trying to convince hubby NOT TO HAVE MAIDS AGAIN!!! But hubby feels that we need one as our children will start schooling next year. We just have no luck with them around. :x :x :x

I just dun understand why these maids have such attitude problem. I have bought for her a nice baju kurung from JB last week. My MIL bought for her a comfortable pair of shoes and 3 pairs of pants for home wear. She's sooooo ungrateful!!!

[cher_06]

hi cher_06,


Methinks if someone has her heart set on going, you should not keep her; afterall this is a free country. I do feel that she has had too easy a life and find it hard to adjust to real work. And if she’s not here to work, honestly, I don’t see why you should continue to feed her (as in employ her). She doesn’t have to cook, look after old folks, look after kids.

Sorry, I cannot understand such mindset. I don’t understand why they prefer to change employers/go home on a whim and pay all that money to the middlemen and agencies. I only understand such as like my ex-maid, come to SG to earn money - after 5 years and 5 figure savings later, go home and stay there for good with her OWN land, her OWN house.[/quote]


Yes, I am going to send her home. And I am not interested to keep her anyway. huge disappointment because we never had this problem with maids and previously I took her in because i pitied her and feel maybe she can look after my dog. My mom has told her that if she continues with such mindset, she will never have enough money and the vicious cycle will continue.

Now I am thinking if I should inform her beforehand that I am sending her back once i get my new maid. I am definitely not allowing her to transfer as I feel she is doing a disservice to whoever that employs her.

[ANON001]

pinkycheeks:

:x :x :x

This is my 3rd maid within a spread of 4 months. My first two maids were equally problematic, hence the send back.

After working with me for 1 mth and 2 weeks, she told me yesterday to send her back to the agent. She told me this early in the morning when I was getting ready to work. Can you imagine my anger, my disappointment??? :x When asked her why, she said 'tak de apa2' (nothing) repeatedly. When we were at the agency and they asked her why, she gave excuse that my 3year old son doesn't want her. I felt that excuse was so lame. So I told my agent to find out more from her, after we left.

True enough, she claimed that she has to worked in 2 homes :stupid: . I put her at my MIL's place in the morning as she is a freshie and there's no one to guide her at home and also I have no confidence with her being alone with my son. She is supposed to learn cooking and general house cleaning. My MIL taught her how to cook dishes, how to use the mop, wash the toilet, fold and iron clothes (which all these she doesn't know how to do). By the time she reach my place at 8.30pm (we go back after dinner), I do not insist that she complete the housework. Yet at times, I saw her sleeping late because she read the Quran. She even woke up at 2am to do prayers. She's giving so much excuses and claim that she's 'tired because she work in 2 homes'. That's so ridiculous!!!

What I don't understand is why are maids nowadays so choosy. Are they here to choose the employer, come here for holiday, dun want heavy-duty job, want luxury life? Is that what they want? While we employers are being reasonable and understanding, they step on our heads!!! Why isn't our govt protecting us, the employers??? These maids are causing us all the problems, yet we have to bear everything for them!!! I'm just so fed up with the maids. I am trying to convince hubby NOT TO HAVE MAIDS AGAIN!!! But hubby feels that we need one as our children will start schooling next year. We just have no luck with them around. :x :x :x

I just dun understand why these maids have such attitude problem. I have bought for her a nice baju kurung from JB last week. My MIL bought for her a comfortable pair of shoes and 3 pairs of pants for home wear. She's sooooo ungrateful!!!

i totally agree with what you say. my maid also wanting to go bk after working for me for a wk, after agt tok to her, she cont'd to work but 3 wks later, which is last wk, she insists she wants to go bk agt... then we ask the agt to tell her she can't just leave like tat, got to wait for us to hv new maid cming in then she can go bk agt, so she kuai kuai work while meanwhile we sourcing for new maid....

Have few Indon maid so far, so nw we thot switching to Myanmar maid and give it a try... looks like Indon maids are troublemakers to us. We do heard frm agts say nowadays these Indon maids prefer to go to taiwan or Hk to work... may i knw ur maid is frm which country?

[pinkycheeks]

Hi Taurus


Looks like we are in the same boat. My maid is from Sragen, Jawa Tengah.

[ANON001]

pinkycheeks:

Hi Taurus


Looks like we are in the same boat. My maid is from Sragen, Jawa Tengah.

ya lor so now u waiting to get new maid? u got any feedback frm pple who use Myanmar maid? my agt told me for time being dun get Filipino cos recently there are some changes in their country so may hv difficulty cming in...

[jacsplace]

Hi cherie,


You may want to check your contract to see what it says about early termination. If I’m not mistaken, there’s a notice period.

[hquek]

cher_06:

Now I am thinking if I should inform her beforehand that I am sending her back once i get my new maid. I am definitely not allowing her to transfer as I feel she is doing a disservice to whoever that employs her.

NOOOO. Although MOM says otherwise, but I think it not wise to inform the maid in advance. Your niece may be alone with her? Think of her safety! And the safety of your dog!

At most give her a couple hours notice so she can call home to make arrangements for someone to pick her up; and make sure she's escorted at all times so she can't get up to any hanky panky.

Remember those news stories about a maid who poured bleach in the employer's shampoo? or wawt that contact lense solution? Better to be safe than sorry.

[pinkycheeks]

:? I have no idea. I am giving up on them actually, but my husband disagrees and wld like to continue having a maid. He said that it'll ease the household chores a lot and I get to spend more time coaching my children in their studies. Right now, I just dun want to have any. I am angry over what happen; it just doesn't pay - how I treat them, and how I ended up now.


Niway, if husband decides to have a maid, I still have to stick with Indonesian. Sorry, I do not have any friends who employ Myanmar maids. Perhaps you can read this forum and see any feedback. Not sure if there are any Myanmar or Filipino maids who are Muslim right? A friend of mine switch to employing Filipino maid after similar incident like mine. So far she said her maid is good. Well, all this is luck.

All the best to you.

TAURUS:

pinkycheeks:

Hi Taurus

Looks like we are in the same boat. My maid is from Sragen, Jawa Tengah.

ya lor so now u waiting to get new maid? u got any feedback frm pple who use Myanmar maid? my agt told me for time being dun get Filipino cos recently there are some changes in their country so may hv difficulty cming in...

[hquek]

pinkycheeks:

:? I have no idea. I am giving up on them actually, but my husband disagrees and wld like to continue having a maid. He said that it'll ease the household chores a lot and I get to spend more time coaching my children in their studies. Right now, I just dun want to have any. I am angry over what happen; it just doesn't pay - how I treat them, and how I ended up now.

If you have familial support, you can consider to go without maid for a short time and then evaluate if that's the way to go. In a sense, having a maid helps when you don't have to get the 101 household things done and can just concentrate on your kids - education and all.

But of course when a maid acts up, then you may find more energy sucked into managing that one individual instead.

Good luck with whatever choice you make!