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I totally agree with Chief! It’s a good learning experience which you can turn into learning points for your child.
Years back when DS was in P1, I was an active parent & always mingling with the boys in school.
It pains me to hear fr a fellow aren’t, her innocent, fun-loving boy became unhappy for a series of theft of almost similar items of cards, money fr wallet, country erasers, etc. It’s very hard to track or find the culprit if the thief is able to avoid detections. In the same year, as we chatted in our parent grpchat, and each of us regularly sit our kids to ask a few questions, we later discovered the habitual culprit. Part of it was fr DS who always enjoy bringing his frds for organized learning games at the library & he spotted his classmate stealing fr under the parents volunteers prizes that the boy cldn’t win/earn. We then highlight to the FT but tho the FT feedback to the parents (who nvr turn up for PTM & not in our chtgrp), it was still a difficult journey to hold it up as a learning point for the class to learn together, as it wld be probably more effective if caught red-handed or with evidence.
Over time as I interact with this boy, I found out his bkgrd as a big family and he’s always been neglected by his parents. It’s sad but despite my boy being affected (somehow this boy took DS as his best frd & kept giving him all his spoils when I discovered & insisted DS return, was kept pushing things to DS bcoz he told DS he didn’t want his parents to find them), I continue to engage him in positive discourse like my own son. By upper primary years, I noticed he mature a lot more & always cheerful greeting me spontaneously & I hear less of his theft episodes. It came to my knowledge that he had received counselling & I’ve noticed his grandma comes round to bring the 3 boys back after school. So, my guess is having been given attention & gentle coaxing, he feels more loved & given the right condition to grow & mature.
Maybe, take this opportunity to teach your child to be more careful with his belongings & support him by getting one of this wallet holder you can get fr Popular bookstore. I got that for DS & it had helped him to be more organized.
I’ve always taught DS to focus on school & nvr bring other extra games to school except after exams when they’re free to bring on instructions by the teachers. He’s discipline to hv his playtime after homework at home & hv his playmates come together for specific game time. This helps him look fwd & cooperate with my expectations for him to complete the serious work before play.
Maybe in school, let him focus playtime with his peers at the playground, I hope the table tennis tables are still there for their leisure during recess & afterschool. The other place the boys love is the well stocked library, which encourages the boys to read widely & they earn their precious cards of their choice (old school ‘boy’ Uncle Jek & PSG painstaking printed those cards collection of planes, tankers, ships, sports cars, etc & laminated them). These are as good collections will positively drive learning with all the information on origins & power of engines, etc.
For now, try direct yr DS who went thro this disappointing episode in his life, to sth else more positive. Do hope your boy will enjoy many good experiences in his learning years with ACSJ. The best is yet to be!
Thank you so much for this heartfelt sharing! You have such a big heart and made a positive difference to that particular boy's life - that's super amazing! Actually, the pokemon cards were a gift from my boy's friend from his previous class and sadly stolen on the very day it was given - but what threw us off was that the School made it seem like the \"not allowed in school\" was bigger than the theft itself - the balance is a bit off there. Whether or not the culprit is found, the School needs to state and reinforce that stealing is wrong - which we didn't see.
But yes, my boy has now learnt from this painful episode and hopefully will throw it off soon.
PS: I think the library has been closed for a while (for renos?) so the boys can't go there during recess anymore. I also don't see the table tennis tables around anymore... the kids are only allowed at the playground during recess once a week cos of Covid (and this was only very recently relaxed, so the boys are frankly very bored and running out of things to talk about, hence I think more boys are bringing 'prohibited' stuff to School to create talking points, haha).
Another solution is for him to get one of those fanny packs which he can wear under his shirt.