Is this behaviour of teacher acceptable?
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janet_lee88:
Don't nag or tell him to read the papers. Engage him in a discussion. Ask him what he thinks about the happenings in Singapore or around the world today. Tell him your views.i am still nagging at him to pick up the newspapers...he only reads 'digital life' :mad: daughter does read oxford tree though.
as for meeting teachers, they are so busy. however, i do email daughter's teachers regularly.
A quick way is to spend 15mins everyday just reading the editorial page (a quarter of a page) and then discuss about it along 4 main areas:
1) What are the explicit points made by the editor?
2) What are the implicit points or assumptions that the editor is trying to put across (must read between the lines, or see the big picture)
3) Which of these points do you agree with the editor?
4) Which of these points do you disagree with?
Do this consistently for a month and you will find he will start getting an interest in reading the rest of the papers because now he has a better understanding of the issues, thanks to your explanation. -
ChiefKiasu:
That's what I'm trying to do with DD1 at a lower level. We read The Little Red Dot together heehee, an article a day LOL
Don't nag or tell him to read the papers. Engage him in a discussion. Ask him what he thinks about the happenings in Singapore or around the world today. Tell him your views.janet_lee88:
i am still nagging at him to pick up the newspapers...he only reads 'digital life' :mad: daughter does read oxford tree though.
as for meeting teachers, they are so busy. however, i do email daughter's teachers regularly.
A quick way is to spend 15mins everyday just reading the editorial page (a quarter of a page) and then discuss about it along 4 main areas:
1) What are the explicit points made by the editor?
2) What are the implicit points or assumptions that the editor is trying to put across (must read between the lines, or see the big picture)
3) Which of these points do you agree with the editor?
4) Which of these points do you disagree with?
Do this consistently for a month and you will find he will start getting an interest in reading the rest of the papers because now he has a better understanding of the issues, thanks to your explanation. -
Got it Chief…thanks.
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SAHM_TAN:
That's what I'm trying to do with DD1 at a lower level. We read The Little Red Dot together heehee, an article a day LOL
How do we get to buy The Little Red Dot? I thought it is only available to school. Any possibility that we can order it directly from ST? My DS school does not subscribe for The Little Red Dot but I'm very interested to get the copy. -
personally, I think there’s a line that can’t be crossed.
Because if this line is crossed, wrong messages/ learning will be transferred to children.
E.g. being violent - children will think that being violent will enable them to win.
Teachers’ hands are really very, very tight.
They have to set the right discipline.
Without good discipline, lessons cannot be conducted, thus knowledge ot transferred = exams… fail = teacher deemed as incapable of maintaining good discipline/ can’t teach well and everyone gets upset and demoralised for different reasons.
Many teachers I know of… sleep very few hours so as to,
- ------- clear work - I call it - The "Wall of China"
A few examples are:
-setting exam papers/ worksheets - class worksheets, remedial worksheets, enrichment worksheets/ topical test papers etc
- type minutes- departmental meetings/ staff meetings/ level meetings etc
-write reports — appraisals, reports or research for projects, CCA reports, awards reports, remarks for students’ report books etc.
- marking ---- English/ Maths/ Science worksheets/ books etc.
This is only about 20% of a teacher’s job scope.
When I asked the primary one kids "Would you like to be a teacher when you grow up?"
Many of them said, "Yes."
In primary 2, many of them changed their answer to "No".
"Because teachers don’t get to rest." They said.
Many teachers really want to teach and bring out the best in the children under their charge.
BUT… hands are tight… they get complained over every little thing…
- voice too loud
- voice too soft
- teach too fast
- teach too slow
- too much homework
- too little homework
and the list goes on.
I have had my share of facing unreasonable parents.
Thankfully, most parents are very reasonable and supportive. -
in primary school, class management is a very tough job.
kids are young and even at upper primary, they are not much better.
it's not easy to be a teacher now, as parents are educated and have expectations. if principal is demanding, poor teachers will suffer even more. for the part that teachers have so much work and non-core teaching stuff, i really salute them... :salute: -
concern2:
Agree. DS happens to like strict teachers - esp if they know how to deal with the bullies :evil: To him, strict is not equivalent to being likeable or not, but whether the teacher is being 'fair' - like \"why can't the teacher just punish those noise makers, why must punish the whole class and make us all stay back?!\"[/quote]One thing I've gathered is that strict teachers are able to 'control' the class, so that he/she does not \"give chance\" for those who misbehave to disrupt the class and lessons could go on properly.slmkhoo:
[quote=\"concern2\"]\"Kids don't learn from people they don't like!\" - Rita Pierson
But kids don't only like people who are nice to them! Some kids (eventually) really love the very strict teachers. Of course, that excludes teachers who are unfair or unreasonable, no matter how nice they may be sometimes.
I notice some teachers are very sharp in picking out the one or two who are misbehaving at an early stage so that the class doesn't go havoc and becomes 'uncontrollable'.
For those who are not as sharp, they eventually lose control of the class (and such a big class too!) and resort to punishing everyone. This becomes a cycle and both teacher and pupils' morale drop, affecting grades (since real teaching/learning get disrupted). Much time would be spent on disciplining the kids that there's lack of time for teaching/learning the subjects.
Kids whose parents can't teach them and those who do not engage in tuition usually suffer most since they rely mostly on classroom time for learning.
Just sharing what I've noticed. -
yeomaylin, your ds’s teacher’s behaviour is unacceptable. Teachers who punish children verbally and/or physically are crossing the line. During my school days, my teachers threw our homework out of the window if we made too many mistakes. Another one would cane our palm with her wooden ruler. Different teachers, different style of punishment. It went on for years. I was educated but it made me fearful of teachers and to a certain extent, people in authority, for many more years after I left.
If your child is naturally confident, fine, he can rise above it. But remember he is barely 8 years old. I have experience both local and international school environment (we lived overseas for a while) and I can tell you how amazing the international school teachers were. There were some terrors in the class but the teachers were always in control, no threats. Always full of praise and words of encouragement. Discussions were encouraged , even for 7 year olds and every child’s idea was a good idea. My very shy child’s confidence soared during those 2 years. He enjoyed school and loved all his teachers! It’s not the same now, I’m afraid.
We parents need to change our thinking that it is fine for teachers to offer corporal punishment to make children behave. That sounds like a frustrated teacher who cannot cope. All teachers are overworked and I know some children are a pain the ***. But first and foremost, their job is to inspire, teach and together with parents, instill a sense of confidence in each child. Threatening, chiding, pulling a child’s ear is a form of bullying, especially when the child is very young.
If you are not comfortable with the way your child is treated, please speak up. If the child’s teacher has had previous complaints from other parents, this is a red flag in my opinion. I would speak to the principal or HOD. -
Actually, the office staffs' or school attendants' support is also very important to assist teachers.
Imagine a Primary One child pee/poop in the classroom.
The teacher will have to stop the lesson immediately and bring the child to change into a set of clean clothes.
WHO takes charge of a whole class of 6/ 7 years old at this time? Next door teacher? Are they free? They might pop by once in a while.
What if .... another child pull away a chair and caused a classmate to fall and injured? Who is to be responsible for this?
Set them to work before leaving the class? Would they \"glue\" their butt to the chair temporary and do the work?
Now, if office staffs or attendants can assist to bring the child to change, then the teacher can continue to teach/ look after the class.
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junetan76:
Agree that teachers need support. These days, the schools are better equipped - like can intercom to cleaners or admin for assistance.Actually, the office staffs' or school attendants' support is also very important to assist teachers.
Imagine a Primary One child pee/poop in the classroom.
The teacher will have to stop the lesson immediately and bring the child to change into a set of clean clothes.
WHO takes charge of a whole class of 6/ 7 years old at this time? Next door teacher? Are they free? They might pop by once in a while.
What if .... another child pull away a chair and caused a classmate to fall and injured? Who is to be responsible for this?
Set them to work before leaving the class? Would they \"glue\" their butt to the chair temporary and do the work?
Now, if office staffs or attendants can assist to bring the child to change, then the teacher can continue to teach/ look after the class.
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