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ImMeeMee:

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There's this thing known as positive reinforcement and negative reinforcement. The former rewards the child if he/she shows positive behavior, while the latter is the opposite. Maybe one way is to check that the grandparents do not exhibit negative reinforcement, ie. giving in to him and letting him have his ways when he throws tantrums. At the same time, you could show positive reinforcement with rewards if he shows good behavior. You could start off small with a reward for a short period of good behavior, then slowly extends the interval.

I find that positive reinforcement works with my ASD doter, maybe also because she is always motivated to get some form of 'praise' from us ...

My two cents worth and hope this helps.

Thanks ImMeeMee.. thinking about it, you're right, they do give in to him quite a bit, if only to stop the screaming. No wonder he's so well-behaved at home.
On the bright side, yest I asked him whether he was well-behaved at his grandparents' place, and he told me he \"only threw a tantrum once\". My helper collaborated it.. so I guess I should follow up with positive reinforcement later today! Wish I read your post yesterday haha. Thanks!

[Niu2009]

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Hi ImMeeMee,

Yes, you are right. We are at same page. Thanks for sharing. May I know how old is your son at that time ? How is his progress now?

[Niu2009]

[quote="ImMeeMee"][quote="Blokus"]Www & niu 2009


Hi ImMeeMee,

Yes, you are right. We are at same page. Thanks for sharing. May I know how old is your son at that time ? How is his progress now?

[Blokus]

Niu2009


I reckon the question is directed at me?

My son is turning 6 this year. I notice with each passing of his birthday he will 'wake up' and do things he didn't do before. For instance, last year he didn't share much with us his play. But after he turned 5, he suddenly started sharing with us what he built with his lego, what he drew, what he's pretending, shares & points to us that interest him etc. so last year during the review, I was quite concern and convinced he is on the spectrum but year later he can do it. Without much therapy. So I guess he's a late, very late bloomer?

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Hi, I am a newbie here. Have a ASD daughter disgnose when she is 4.5yrs. Can anybody recommend a good psychologists to do IQ, Austism and advise on school placement? :thankyou:

[Niu2009]

[quote=\"Blokus\"]Niu2009


I reckon the question is directed at me?

My son is turning 6 this year. I notice with each passing of his birthday he will 'wake up' and do things he didn't do before. For instance, last year he didn't share much with us his play. But after he turned 5, he suddenly started sharing with us what he built with his lego, what he drew, what he's pretending, shares & points to us that interest him etc. so last year during the review, I was quite concern and convinced he is on the spectrum but year later he can do it. Without much therapy. So I guess he's a late, very late bloomer?[/quote
Hi Blokus,
That's great. Actually a lot of friends told me about the late bloomer. I do believer your son will be one of them. For myself, my nephew is like your son, when he is 3 or 4 years old, he not much interact with his peers. But when he is 5, start to make friends. Now he is 7, like to play with his friends instead of us.
At first, I am not worry a lot, because my son show no signs of ASD or AS from his birth. But three weeks ago, we went for PTM and his teahcers let us bring him to do some assessment as he not talking to his peers. I start to concern about him. We went to see a private psycholosits, she also said she don't think he is AS, but better arrange a school visit to see how he is in the CC. We are waitting for the outcome of the visit. Anyway, thanks a lot!

[Niu2009]

Btw, did you still send him for social class or other program? Do you think it is hepful?

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Niu2009:

Btw, did you still send him for social class or other program? Do you think it is hepful?

Yes I did. I don't think it helped much. Most, if not all, of the things done he can do & understand. In fact, I think the class was too slow for him, he didn't like it. I sent him to wee care if you want to know.

Does your son sit still & pays attention in class? Is he wandering around at inappropriate times or is not aware what is going on around in class? My son could do everything but won't communicate to friends. Your son's teacher is concern purely because he isnt talking or is there other concerns? If not, I wouldn't be too worried. Sorry, I may have missed out, how old is your kid?

[Niu2009]

Blokus:

Niu2009:

Btw, did you still send him for social class or other program? Do you think it is hepful?

Yes I did. I don't think it helped much. Most, if not all, of the things done he can do & understand. In fact, I think the class was too slow for him, he didn't like it. I sent him to wee care if you want to know.

Does your son sit still & pays attention in class? Is he wandering around at inappropriate times or is not aware what is going on around in class? My son could do everything but won't communicate to friends. Your son's teacher is concern purely because he isnt talking or is there other concerns? If not, I wouldn't be too worried. Sorry, I may have missed out, how old is your kid?

My son is 3 years 7 month. His teacher said when I just send him in he not sit still， after two months, he can concentrate in class and answer teacher's question. Teacher said he progressed well in other areas, now he was quite familar with the daily routine except he doesn't like dancing during the circle time. Based on what she told me, social is the only concern.

[Blokus]

I think it’s quite normal that initial part the child does not sit still. They are probably still adjusting & learning. More importantly is he figured out what is socially accepting in class.


Yep, your son sounds very Smillar to mine. He also didn’t like to sing & do the actions during circle time at 3 yo. But after I changed his School and when he turned about 4, he starter to join in only because of peer pressure. But eventually he enjoys it. It took him some time to take a liking to things that typical kids would like. He also Can answer questions when asked but doesn’t talk to peers. Let me guess, your son is academically more advance than his peers?