All About Autism
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phtthp:
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-2103940/Autism-Can-children-simply-grow-One-mother-tells-sons-life-transformed.html
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But most of the children change only after years of intensive parental support. Sadly, she says, it is not possible to predict which children will improve.
And she cautions that recovery is ‘not a realistic expectation for the majority of kids, but parents should know it can happen’.
Certainly, Josh is very different nowadays. ‘He couldn’t talk. Now he doesn’t stop talking,’ says Renitha. ‘He learnt numbers very quickly and loves maths.’
But Renitha is adamant that Josh will always be autistic. He is in a mainstream school but he needs support to comprehend his lessons, she says: ‘Children don’t grow out of being autistic, but some can learn to live with it.
‘The danger is that if parents think their children will grow out of it, they might not put in the effort required to make a difference.’
Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-2103940/Autism-Can-children-simply-grow-One-mother-tells-sons-life-transformed.html#ixzz2g2t1g1Qf
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Inspiring, but also sobering. I agree with this mother - I have seen improvements in my daughter over the years, but it has been with a lot of effort from us parents and herself, and she will still always have the basic traits that she started off with. What we have managed to help her with is coping strategies and learned skills, but coping with new situations and learning new skills always needs help from someone else who can analyse the situation and break the solution into bite-sized steps. It's not a cure, it's coping. -
slmkhoo:
I agree too. Whenever my son shows improvement, I have to remind myself that he is still autistic and is not that he has recovered. But he can cope because we have find ways to work around it.phtthp:
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But most of the children change only after years of intensive parental support. Sadly, she says, it is not possible to predict which children will improve.
And she cautions that recovery is ‘not a realistic expectation for the majority of kids, but parents should know it can happen’.
Certainly, Josh is very different nowadays. ‘He couldn’t talk. Now he doesn’t stop talking,’ says Renitha. ‘He learnt numbers very quickly and loves maths.’
But Renitha is adamant that Josh will always be autistic. He is in a mainstream school but he needs support to comprehend his lessons, she says: ‘Children don’t grow out of being autistic, but some can learn to live with it.
‘The danger is that if parents think their children will grow out of it, they might not put in the effort required to make a difference.’
Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-2103940/Autism-Can-children-simply-grow-One-mother-tells-sons-life-transformed.html#ixzz2g2t1g1Qf
Follow us: @MailOnline on Twitter | DailyMail on Facebook
Inspiring, but also sobering. I agree with this mother - I have seen improvements in my daughter over the years, but it has been with a lot of effort from us parents and herself, and she will still always have the basic traits that she started off with. What we have managed to help her with is coping strategies and learned skills, but coping with new situations and learning new skills always needs help from someone else who can analyse the situation and break the solution into bite-sized steps. It's not a cure, it's coping.
As for dealing with people who got angry with our kid's behaviour, I will simply apologise on his behalf (if is clearly an undesirable behaviour) and move on. I usually can't be bothered to explain to strangers about his condition and I would think these people will have no patience to listen to my grandmother stories too. -
Hi!
Just wondering if anyone has recommendations for social/emotional therapy or social skills workshops. My boy has adjusted to primary school life and has performed well in written papers. However he is still very sensitive and emotional. He takes a long time to warm up and hence, does not really have good friends. He told me he’s lonely at times but does not dare to approach others to play with. He only plays with others when they asked him to join in.
Hope to get some advice. Thank you. -
Miloqueen00:
Have you taught him how to start a conversation and talk to people? If you can teach him and role play at home (get siblings and anyone sympathetic to help out), you may not need to look for outside sessions. We taught my daughter \"What are you doing?\", \"That looks like an interesting book\", \"Is that nice to eat?\" etc as possible opening lines. We also role-played how to continue on various conversation starters from other people. Maybe you can script a few for your son.Hi!
Just wondering if anyone has recommendations for social/emotional therapy or social skills workshops. My boy has adjusted to primary school life and has performed well in written papers. However he is still very sensitive and emotional. He takes a long time to warm up and hence, does not really have good friends. He told me he's lonely at times but does not dare to approach others to play with. He only plays with others when they asked him to join in.
Hope to get some advice. Thank you. -
Dear simkhoo,
Thanks. Actually, he’s able to start a conversation or play with his peers or his younger sis. He has improved a lot in his interaction skills after attending the social skills playgroup organized by KKH. He is able to make friends but isn’t able to deepen the relationship or friendship as what he would like to. He is very reserved n is sometimes in his own world. Told him to respond or interact more with his friends but he’s shy. When we role play with him, he’s able to interact well as he’s comfortable with us. We are at a loss, not knowing what to do. That’s why we r looking into social skills playgroups, hoping it will give him more opportunities to interact with his peers.
Really appreciate your reply. Thank you very much. -
Miloqueen00:
MiloqueenDear simkhoo,
Thanks. Actually, he's able to start a conversation or play with his peers or his younger sis. He has improved a lot in his interaction skills after attending the social skills playgroup organized by KKH. He is able to make friends but isn't able to deepen the relationship or friendship as what he would like to. He is very reserved n is sometimes in his own world. Told him to respond or interact more with his friends but he's shy. When we role play with him, he's able to interact well as he's comfortable with us. We are at a loss, not knowing what to do. That's why we r looking into social skills playgroups, hoping it will give him more opportunities to interact with his peers.
Really appreciate your reply. Thank you very much.
My doter is also attending the KKH Social Skills Clinic, but not on any other private social skills group. At one stage I too was trying to look for something more intensive, but have not proceeded after placing her on the KKH program. I cant see the obvious improvements from the program yet, but I reckon these things do take some time.
If it helps at all, you can read up some books on social skills. Two books that I have read based on recommendations from parents here are:
1. The Social Skills Picture Book by Jed Baker
2. The New Social Story Book by Carol Gray
These books are available at the NLB. The first one is more for younger children and uses pictures to teach social cues. The second one is more advanced and uses social stories to coach social behavior, thus the child must have some level of vocabulary and comprehension. At one stage I used to make picture sequences to help my doter understand basic social rules, but now I am advancing to words (more of social stories) as she starts to have more vocab.
I am not sure whether these resources would help you as your child is already making friends but needs more coaching to develop friendship. But maybe no harm reading these resources and see how to adapt them to your needs.
HTH.
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slmkhoo:
I do not think my doter will grow out of her ASD, but I do think that she is progressing and having improvements. Herein lies my dilemma - moving forward, I wonder a lot about how much is enough.Quote:
‘The danger is that if parents think their children will grow out of it, they might not put in the effort required to make a difference.’
any thoughts? -
ImMeeMee:
I can only answer based on my own experience. As a family, we also have to take into consideration the rest of the family. If too much attention and resources are devoted to 1 child, then maybe it won't be fair? I am not saying that everything has be equal, but there needs to be some reasonable allocation of time, energy and resources. I also believe that we need to be realistic in assessing the various therapies etc and only try those that have a decent chance of helping. We do have a religious faith which helps us accept things which we cannot change in this life, so that alleviates our guilt when we decide not to pursue a particular course of action, rather than try everything available in order not to lose out on something, however small the chance. Just my thoughts.
I do not think my doter will grow out of her ASD, but I do think that she is progressing and having improvements. Herein lies my dilemma - moving forward, I wonder a lot about how much is enough.slmkhoo:
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‘The danger is that if parents think their children will grow out of it, they might not put in the effort required to make a difference.’
any thoughts? -
I'm sure most of us would have read the news. But still, no harm sharing something good ...
Let's cheers and hope for the best for our children! :celebrate:
http://www.channelnewsasia.com/news/singapore/govt-looking-to-expand/832584.html -
Hi,
Have a link to share,too. success story of an austistic kid.
http://www.beautyexists.net/news/15-year-old-becomes-the-youngest-astrophysicist-in-the-world/
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