2014 PSLE Discussions and Strategy

[lim72]

Hi,


Is it common for P5 students to be given P6 or PSLE practice papers to do from school teachers or tuition centres?

[smartmummy]

Thanks ammonite!!

ammonite:

smartmummy:

Hi lim72

I empathise your situation. From P4 onwards my son also argue that his answer is correct. P5 onwards I let go. 2014 is the difficult year for us. He thinks that I unnessarily torture him.His school practise enough for him.no need to do extra.
My problem is convince him to study. After explain many times he will ask the same qn. Why need to study? Its makes me fedup.He is arguing for everything. ex: I told exercise boost your energy.He can't agree. I have to proof.

One mum told me she let her child fail a P4 paper. After failing, the child got a shock and started working very hard on his own and did pretty well eventually.

I think if we have to convince the child to study, it is an uphill battle. They study for their own benefit, not for us. I always tell my kids I already have my degree and I am doing them a FAVOUR when I coach them. The other day ds told me he must do very well for a certain test, it could change his life (he was being overly dramatic). I rolled my eyes and he said, but mum, don't you think my life as a sweeper and as a lawyer will be very different?? :skeptical:

(caveat - don't arrow me; I have never told him he will be a roadsweeper. I only said his grandparents treasure education because literacy was the pathway to a better life.)

[Snowbaby]

smartmummy:

Thanks ammonite!!

ammonite:

[quote=\"smartmummy\"]Hi lim72

I empathise your situation. From P4 onwards my son also argue that his answer is correct. P5 onwards I let go. 2014 is the difficult year for us. He thinks that I unnessarily torture him.His school practise enough for him.no need to do extra.
My problem is convince him to study. After explain many times he will ask the same qn. Why need to study? Its makes me fedup.He is arguing for everything. ex: I told exercise boost your energy.He can't agree. I have to proof.

One mum told me she let her child fail a P4 paper. After failing, the child got a shock and started working very hard on his own and did pretty well eventually.

I think if we have to convince the child to study, it is an uphill battle. They study for their own benefit, not for us. I always tell my kids I already have my degree and I am doing them a FAVOUR when I coach them. The other day ds told me he must do very well for a certain test, it could change his life (he was being overly dramatic). I rolled my eyes and he said, but mum, don't you think my life as a sweeper and as a lawyer will be very different?? :skeptical:

(caveat - don't arrow me; I have never told him he will be a roadsweeper. I only said his grandparents treasure education because literacy was the pathway to a better life.)

[/quote]Sad to say, my ds didn't do well in SA1 this year, he failed Maths but he told me that is normal cos most of his classmates failed and thus, he argued back, \"What is the need to be alarmed? It is normal to fail a paper or two in P5!\" So, he is still taking his own sweet time dilly dally and not revising anything at all. What should I do?

[ammonite]

My neighbour’s son failed English, which was his strongest subject. So it was truly a shock for the boy at that time. I am sure he won’t blink if it was something like Chinese!


Another advice I received from older mums that may be more helpful in this case is goal setting -ie which secondary school is the child aiming for? From there, look at the COP and work backwards with the child to see how much more work needs to be done. It has to be something that the child wants as well. So we parents are only supporters and guides.

We can drive them to school so they get extra sleep, we can make sure they have a good breakfast, we can buy the books and explain, but we cannot do the actual learning for them. The last vital step is up to them, including working through the frustrations and challenges that are part of the process.

[SpartanMum]

ammonite:

We can drive them to school so they get extra sleep, we can make sure they have a good breakfast, we can buy the books and explain, but we cannot do the actual learning for them. The last vital step is up to them, including working through the frustrations and challenges that are part of the process.

Agree...

[sleepy]

My dd1 did badly for SA1 too. Complacency and over confidence. I noticed the slip in her attitude before exam, counselled her but couldn’t get her to snap out of it.

As expected, result was bad. It was a rude shock to her though.
I was so mad that I made her slogged the entire June holiday. That was the first time I ever scold her over her results.

[Nebbermind]

sleepy:

My dd1 did badly for SA1 too. Complacency and over confidence. I noticed the slip in her attitude before exam, counselled her but couldn't get her to snap out of it.

As expected, result was bad. It was a rude shock to her though.
I was so mad that I made her slogged the entire June holiday. That was the first time I ever scold her over her results.

but that is GEP, ya?

[sleepy]

Nebbermind:

but that is GEP, ya?

The issue here is complacency.
Regardless mainstream or gep, complacency is 'bad' learning attitude

[SarChar]

I know my relationship with my girl will go from bad to worst as I \"coach\" her to prepare for Pri6 after SA2. She keeps telling me \"Mummy, plenty of time....chill....\"


I am so freaking out :scared:

[sleepy]

SarChar:

I know my relationship with my girl will go from bad to worst as I \"coach\" her to prepare for Pri6 after SA2. She keeps telling me \"Mummy, plenty of time....chill....\"


I am so freaking out :scared:

That's why I don't coach my dd at all. Also can't coach laSure ruin our relationship

Any comment from me she will take it very personally and start crying and say I'm not encouraging. Super sensitive but ONLY towards me :frustrated:

My job is to nag her to speed up because she tends to procrastinate a lot. And that's already putting a strain on our relationship. Can't do more than that