Any parents of gifted children here ?
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hahahahahahaha.....burn out? :lol:
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hahaha, Chief, you ARE so funny! :lol:
tamarind,
I see now that we're on very different tracks. I thought you were interested in identification because of school issues and education options. Now I see you're perhaps more interested in how to maximise potential.
For me, I'm very much a fan of Einstein never Used Flashcards. I believe in creative and free play for all young children. The world is so new to them, even for highly gifted children, there is no need to do more than providing for play and exposure. One mark of highly gifted children is the \"rage to learn\". You can't stop them. They will find their own way through their questionings and exploring, which is why I feel that what is more needed - more than trying to maximise potential - is guidance and tactful supervision. As long as there is someone there to answer their questions, or at least show them where to find answers.
For that hot-housed baby, I feel very sorry for him. I think it's a sin to treat a baby like a performer. With the right training, I'm sure the zoo keeper can get a clever parrot to recite the multiplication tables as well.
He may be gifted, but if his mum put so much emphasis on what he can DO and not who he IS, what's going to happen to him when he goes to primary school and all the other children know their time tables too? Is the mum going to up the ante? Is he going to feel stupid even though he's not? The starting point should always be the child, not the parent's ego or great damage could be done.
Reading - a child can't LEARN to read like an adult. A child can progress quickly to achieve a high reading level, but this cannot be learnt. Reading is a skill of not just word recognition, but also comprehension and understanding of abstract terms. At a higher level, the child needs to understand the context of the given topic, and this context may not be provided for within the text, but for the reader familiar to the topic, is existing knowledge. So a child who is a computer whizz, may be able to read books on computer programming that I, an adult, will just go cross-eyed over.
And actually highly gifted children CAN teach themselves to read. You can look up Miraca Gross who researches in the area of profoundly gifted children. She keeps many case studies, and her area of interest is friendship for gifted children.
At the same time, some gifted children have learning disability like dyslexia that hinders them, and other gifted children learn to read at much later ages of 8 or 9, but once they start reading, they progress quickly to high-level materials. This is because of existing knowledge that have not been withheld from them simply because they can't read. So an overemphasis on skills such as reading and writing in the early years can actually be detrimental. Every child is unique in his development.
Finally, more pertinently, what do we consider maxmising potential?? Are we talking about SPEED? How early a child can do this, how fast they can do that? OR are we talking about a whole lifetime?
Is life going to be a sprint or a marathon?
Becuase if we're talking about speed, hot-housing is the way. If we're talking about a whole lifetime, we need to look at the whole child, not just what he can do. We need to consider if the child is an extrovert or an introvert. Is the child a creative dreamer, or a hands-on mechanic? We need to look at the child's perfectionistic tendencies and how that translate in an exam-oriented system. We need to understand the things that are limiting them and help them overcome these. We need to see what are the life-skills they need to help them arrive at the destination THEY want to go to.
To me, a child who can go the distance to have a fulfilling, and personally meaningful life, is the child whose potential has been realised.
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deminc:
Hi deminc,hahaha, Chief, you ARE so funny! :lol:
And actually highly gifted children CAN teach themselves to read. You can look up Miraca Gross who researches in the area of profoundly gifted children. She keeps many case studies, and her area of interest is friendship for gifted children.
I have read the book. The kids mentioned in the book showed awesome giftedness. However, I do have my reservations about them as well. (That's another story though.)
Do you know how the highly gifted kid taught himself to read at 1.5 year old? Was he ever read to before he started reading? Or was he around when other kids were learning to read? Computer programs? And what type of books he was reading at that age? -
ks2me:
tamarind, so what has happened to this Aug 2003 baby now?
I am not sure how is that boy now. That mommy stopped writing at that forum after a while.EN:
My hubby teaches her a very wide range of knowledge every night, she listens to everything with polite interest, and seems to remember everything. Sometimes when she encounters something, she is able to link that to facts which she learnt a few months back. That is how we know she understands the concepts. Her Daddy mostly talks and talks (in a way that makes me sleep in 3 seconds :P), but she enjoys listening to him, and she will ask him to talk to her every night.Tamarind. Out of curiosity, does your ds when taught show polite interest, absorb the information being taught for any topics that you tried to cover or did you notice that there are some topics which makes her very excited & want to explore further?
She is interested in astronomy and the world map, and likes to explore these areas further. But she is open to learning anything. But she is most interested to do things with her hands.
How about your son ? I know that boys can become \"obsessed\" with certain topics only, like dinosaurs, and then they will spend a lot time learning about dinosaurs.
deminc,
What if a child grew up in purely mandarin/malay speaking environment ? Will he learn to read English on his own before the age of 6 ?
Although nowadays every parent should know some english, I am very sure that in Singapore, there are definitely more families speaking mandarin/malay at home, compared to english speaking families.
Actually I am not concerned about \"maximizing potential\". I am concerned about \"wasting potential\", simply by not doing anything. My girl only started to learn to read from about 4 years old. She could recognize A-Z and 0-9 before 16 months old. I thought that was enough for her, so she spent most of her time playing at home until almost 4 years old.
When I started to teach her to read at 4 years old, I only managed to teach her less than 15 minutes a day. She learned so quickly and effortlessly. Within a year, she could read books like Charlotte's Web. Although Charlotte's Web is a children's book, the words in the book are as difficult as any adult book. She can figure out how to read new words using phonics techniques. I know that she understands what happens on every page, because she reads aloud, and often asks questions or make comment about what she is reading. However she does not understand the satire regarding public relations and gullibility, something which only adults can understand.
I am feeling guilty that I never started to teach her to read at an earlier age. I believe that a child should learn independently. But the child must first be taught to read very well, before she can learn on her own. -
Right brain training focus on input. I read somewhere that right brain development completes (90% if I remember correctly) by age 6.
If the child can absorb (be it flash cards, puzzles, lego, drawing, reading, knowledge in science, maths, music, whatever), I don’t see what harm can be done?
It’s the delivery method that counts. If he is learning in a soothing & happy environment & enjoys acquiring all these new knowlege (not force feed), why not?
The greatest challenge is how to instill independent learning in the child. There is only so much parents can do for the child. The quest for knowledge is a life long journey & he is on that road alone -
sleepy,
Yes the best age to learn is from 0 to 6 years old. I have no experience with right brain children. But it is a fact that as children grow older, they will have more distractions from the outside word. They will have more friends, and will probably learn to play computer games, etc, which may cause them to lose interest in learning. I feel that 0 - 6 years old is the best time to gain a solid foundation in English, and even Chinese. Then the child will be well equipped to learn independently. -
chamonix:
Oops, my questions do not necessary imply that I agree or disagree with any views discussed here.Hi deminc,
I have read the book. The kids mentioned in the book showed awesome giftedness. However, I do have my reservations about them as well. (That's another story though.)
Do you know how the highly gifted kid taught himself to read at 1.5 year old? Was he ever read to before he started reading? Or was he around when other kids were learning to read? Computer programs? And what type of books he was reading at that age?
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deminc:
I have read the rest of the thread in the Singaporemotherhood forum, and I do not think that the mommy is doing it because of her own ego. I think she is doing it because she thinks that is the best for her son. If she is doing it for her own ego, we would have seen her son on TV, or on the cover of the New Paper already. That mommy posted the message in the forum because she wants to find other mommies who have kids like her son. I can understand that mommies with kids like her son, will very much like to talk about their kids. But it is so difficult to find people who want to listen to them without saying that they are boasting.
For that hot-housed baby, I feel very sorry for him. I think it's a sin to treat a baby like a performer. With the right training, I'm sure the zoo keeper can get a clever parrot to recite the multiplication tables as well.
He may be gifted, but if his mum put so much emphasis on what he can DO and not who he IS, what's going to happen to him when he goes to primary school and all the other children know their time tables too? Is the mum going to up the ante? Is he going to feel stupid even though he's not? The starting point should always be the child, not the parent's ego or great damage could be done.
There are many mommies teaching their kids intensively, from as young as 3 months old. That includes some mommies in this thread.
I started this thread because I am interested to know how other mommies are developing their gifted kids, or since some people are scared of using the word gifted before the child gets selected into the GEP, I should say exceptionally bright kids. I am actually open to all views, and I have to admit that my own views are constantly changing because I am still learning.
I am actually not interested in how parents teach their kids multiplication tables etc at a very young age. There are so many things that we can teach our children. For example, how to make telephone calls. My girl was able to memorize my mobile phone number and use the telephone to call me, without any help, since she was 2 years old. All I did was to write my telephone number next to the phone, and after a while she knew the number by heart. Since 3 years old, I let her bake muffins, cookies, beading, stitching, etc, at home. I taught her the process of working to earn money since she was 4 years old, by asking her to make bracelets out of beads, and helping her to sell the bracelets on the internet. http://tamarindvillage.blogspot.com/2008/02/chloes-young-entrepreneur.html
This year I taught her map reading, and I have just started to let her write her own diary.
The truth is that I can't do the above activities with my boy who is 4 years old this year. He still does not know how to key in the 8 digit numbers on the telephone, although the whole family has tried teaching him already. I just let him have lots of fun with his dinosaur toys, lego, etc.
I hope that more parents can share with me any interesting activities that they do with their kids
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deminc:
Deminc
Reading - a child can't LEARN to read like an adult. A child can progress quickly to achieve a high reading level, but this cannot be learnt. Reading is a skill of not just word recognition, but also comprehension and understanding of abstract terms. At a higher level, the child needs to understand the context of the given topic, and this context may not be provided for within the text, but for the reader familiar to the topic, is existing knowledge.
And actually highly gifted children CAN teach themselves to read. You can look up Miraca Gross who researches in the area of profoundly gifted children. She keeps many case studies, and her area of interest is friendship for gifted children.
At the same time, some gifted children have learning disability like dyslexia that hinders them, and other gifted children learn to read at much later ages of 8 or 9, but once they start reading, they progress quickly to high-level materials. This is because of existing knowledge that have not been withheld from them simply because they can't read. So an overemphasis on skills such as reading and writing in the early years can actually be detrimental. Every child is unique in his development.
Finally, more pertinently, what do we consider maxmising potential?? Are we talking about SPEED? How early a child can do this, how fast they can do that? OR are we talking about a whole lifetime?
Is life going to be a sprint or a marathon?
Becuase if we're talking about speed, hot-housing is the way. If we're talking about a whole lifetime, we need to look at the whole child, not just what he can do. We need to consider if the child is an extrovert or an introvert. Is the child a creative dreamer, or a hands-on mechanic? We need to look at the child's perfectionistic tendencies and how that translate in an exam-oriented system. We need to understand the things that are limiting them and help them overcome these. We need to see what are the life-skills they need to help them arrive at the destination THEY want to go to.
To me, a child who can go the distance to have a fulfilling, and personally meaningful life, is the child whose potential has been realised.
I read this post of yours and I can identify with you on many points. When my elder daughter was 5+, she started \"reading well\" ie. recognise and pronounce words. So, at that time, I decided that I would \"challenge\" her with more difficult books, the type with more words and less pictures. I then realised that even though she could read the passages she did not really understand the content/themes - I think they were too \"adult\" for her or too wordy and could not capture her interest. So she started losing interest in reading....we then switched back to simpler books, magazines with lots of pictures and more little kid-appropriate and now she is back to enjoying her books.
For my elder daughter, we did not really \"teach\" her to read, being a working mom, I didn't have a lot of time to read with her regularly...we did however ensure that she always had access to books, either from the library or some which we bought. Once she turned 5 she surprised us by reading independently...now we are facing a challenge with my younger daughter who just turned 5 and is still learning to read slowly...because we did not have to teach her sister, I am now trying to find out what works best for my younger girl.
For me, I am still learning what's best...its different for each child but I believe the way to go is to try a method that can capture interest. If they have interest, its a whole lot easier..that's why the \"learn thru play\" method is so popular.
Yes, there is a lot of emphasis to \"get-ahead\" in our society...which can result in hot-housing or over-preparation...the other day a family friend of ours told us that if we want to start the children on any musical instrument don't wait too late...their child was at Grade 3 while her friends were at Grade 6...like that...can \"never catch up\"... when discussing swimming lessons someone commented that age 7 is when you should have already completed your bronze...certain standards or \"norms\" have been set and I guess as parents there is an urge for your children \"not to be left behind\".
It's a long road ahead - and we all want what's best for our kids...I want my kids to enjoy what they do and to do what they enjoy....and as their parents to steer them to be become persons of integrity and humility. -
Deminc wrote [quote]And actually highly gifted children CAN teach themselves to read. [/quote]
I have my doubts on that. The kid will need to have at least basic resources to start learning how to read. Recognition of alphabet at least & someone reading to the child. From there on, the bright child will be able to proceed to decipher the reading process on his/her own. Of course being gifted/bright, the child does not take long to recogize the alphabet when compared to a normal child.
I'm not advocating for flash card either. When I join KS forum, that is the first time I heard about it. Better not ask how I feel about hot housing a baby. It's an eye opener when I first spot it in this forum.
Tamarind wrote [quote]My hubby teaches her a very wide range of knowledge every night, she listens to everything with polite interest, and seems to remember everything. Sometimes when she encounters something, she is able to link that to facts which she learnt a few months back. That is how we know she understands the concepts. Her Daddy mostly talks and talks (in a way that makes me sleep in 3 seconds ), but she enjoys listening to him, and she will ask him to talk to her every night.
She is interested in astronomy and the world map, and likes to explore these areas further. But she is open to learning anything. But she is most interested to do things with her hands. [/quote]The reason I'm asking is to know if you do take the cue from your daughter. Especially if she is showing great interest when you touch on the topic. Do help her to explore if she shows great interest. I'm sure your daughter will flourish when she is able to share her interest with you.
Tamarind wrote [quote]How about your son ? I know that boys can become \"obsessed\" with certain topics only, like dinosaurs, and then they will spend a lot time learning about dinosaurs.[/quote]I hope I will not see the \"obsessed\" period that he went through last year ever again. It's too painful & stressful for me to handle.
I'm a working mum, with past history of a dd who was in & out of hospital as if there was no tomorrow. So, when ds went surpassed his milestone earlier than others, honestly speaking I dont notice. Even when someone pointed to me & tell me directly, it just does not sink in. What I have is respecting my kids wants & needs. Years back before he turn 2, he surprises me by memorizing a whole chunk of 3rd language along with English translation which I was teaching my daughter. Teaching my daughter the 3rd language is not meant for higher learning but meant for our spiritual needs. DS who always playing at our side just absorbed it like a sponge. But that does not mean I go running & find the 3rd language course just to maximise his potential. I just think he wants to be included when we learn & we invited him the next time we memorize the verses.
Now, it's still up to him what he wants to do. I have not even started P2 subjects on him yet but will start maybe two weeks before school re-opens. It's school holiday. We are chilling out at the moment. Intend to start swimming class & teach him how to ride a bike. I think that is more important than cramming school work.
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