All About Autism

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optrex80:

My kid was diagnosed with mild autism when he turn 4 plus. No speech till 4 years.. His speech is improving after going to speech therapy. He has a strong liking with puzzles,enjoy learning but very poor on socializing due to his lack of speech and language ability. He still do not know how to engage in a 2 way communication or relating his experiences in school to us. We can only pray hard that one day he really can outgrow or normalized...May I ask if they are any good activities or enrichment classes we can send our ASD kid for during the holiday?

optrex
sorry that I have to burst your bubble. They will remain autistic but what we can hope for is as they mature, coupled with intervention and God's blessings, they can find ways to cope with their disorders such that they are able to integrate into the society.

[ImMeeMee]

wamin:

Thank you all for your valuable answers.

We have seen tremendous improvement since he join Early intervention and he is attending Early intervention from last 2 years.
Speech is a problem, number of times i do hear him saying daddy (but it is not as clear as how we speak). He also know a few words but he is non verbal (early intervention school told us he is attending speed therapy on weekly basis) but we are still waiting to him to open up.

wamin, slowly and surely, it will come.

My doter was non-verbal when she was diagnosed at 3 yo. With SLT and family support she has progressed to being able to maintain a conversation with us at 6 yo. And I firmly believe that there will be more to come as we continue to keep working on it.

So take heart and look forward to it. And come celebrate with us when it comes ... :rahrah:

[ImMeeMee]

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optrex80:

My kid was diagnosed with mild autism when he turn 4 plus. No speech till 4 years.. His speech is improving after going to speech therapy. He has a strong liking with puzzles,enjoy learning but very poor on socializing due to his lack of speech and language ability. He still do not know how to engage in a 2 way communication or relating his experiences in school to us. We can only pray hard that one day he really can outgrow or normalized...May I ask if they are any good activities or enrichment classes we can send our ASD kid for during the holiday?

optrex
sorry that I have to burst your bubble. They will remain autistic but what we can hope for is as they mature, coupled with intervention and God's blessings, they can find ways to cope with their disorders such that they are able to integrate into the society.

I feel that outgrow - no, but normalize - maybe yes.

Since my doter's journey about 3 year ago, I find that quite a lot of things have been normalized. Although its not optimal yet, but its slowly getting somewhere. The key objective is to be functional and independent as much as possible into adulthood.

Having said that, then again, it also depends on what one defines as 'normalize'. I find that its no longer a line between 'normal' or 'abnormal' but rather it is becoming a zone of transition.

Or maybe I am getting 'abnormal' too?

[sharonkhoo]

ImMeeMee:

Having said that, then again, it also depends on what one defines as 'normalize'. I find that its no longer a line between 'normal' or 'abnormal' but rather it is becoming a zone of transition.


Or maybe I am getting 'abnormal' too?

Me too! Or, I think what has happened is that I have become more tolerant to individual quirks and regard a wider range of behaviour as 'normal' now. I now realise that there is hardly anyone who is typically 'normal' in all areas as most people will have individual idiosyncrasies of one type or another. I just want my daughter to be able to behave in a way that makes her acceptable to at least some sector of society so she will not be ostracised or dependent on us for everything.

[tyeogh]

Blokus:

tyeogh

Just to share my journey. When ds was 2.5-4.5 yo, i was worried he was on the spectrum. The drs and therapists werent sure either as he displayed some social issues at that age. I believe if I had had him tested around this period, he would be diagnosed as pdd-nos or mild autism. But for some reason, the assessment tests were always put off (thank God!). This wandering in the wilderness went on until he was 5.5 yo. Suddenly but slowly, he broke out of his shell. The moment he crossed his 6 th birthday, he began to 'normalised' day by day until today, I'm more than sure he's fine. I'm trying to say, perhaps some boys just need more time? I know you just have heard this many times. And oh, I do know of cases where a child was officially diagnosed as aspergers at an early age only to have the dr reversed the diagnosis later. So it's possible. Hope this helps some way or another.

Hi Blokus,
Any info helps. Thanks. Gives hope to mine. I keep meeting helpful parents here Like yours, my boy is suddenly \"normaliz-ing\" recently. Hence my quest for another diagnosis. For 3.5 years, he made little to no progress. Then he suddenly took off. Everyday he is impressing. New words, new habits. Yesterday he said \"Arm\" and got me to \"teek out\" his ninjago figurine's arm so that he can \"put back\" another in its place. Logical and sequential requests. Today, he ordered me to \"Move!\" away from the sofa so that he can sit. \"I sit here!\" he insisted. Feels like he is coming out of a shell too. Quite surreal. Hitting me like a Miley Cyrus wrecking ball... in a good way. Yet he is still far from his peers. I have nothing official from doctors, yet. So it is still work-in-progress. Went to Bloom today for a detailed hearing test. Audiologist says a 4 yo his age has a diction of 500-1000 words. I told him mine has about 200-300. Mid way through the assessment, he asked if DS is only improving recently because he was talking way more than a speech delayed child (sarcasm for Can he keep quiet while I talk?!) Did put a smile on my face.

Probably easy to say boys need time. Wasn't the case 1.5 years ago when he had no eye contact, was tip toeing & spinning toys, and was not the least interested in what's around him. Nonetheless, grateful for your encouragement. I do need some sleep though. LoL  

[tyeogh]

buds:

You brought me on a profound emotional ride with this post, tyeogh.. sad, hurt, later on a lil pissed, then to sheer jubilance.. it's like i can feel these emotions through your writing. Because you believed and because you pressed on, he won't give up on you. This is the best news any parent can attest to. :hugs: Congratulations, the best-est has yet to come. :evil:

Thanks buds! This forum is like a freaking cheering team. LoL!

[tyeogh]

belachanbabe:

I thank God for this forum too! Especially this rollercoaster year of pri 1 registrations, IQ assessments, worries about future, what-ifs ~ possible wrong decisions etc etc. Oh and also the opportunity to 'keng' work so that I can check back to this thread often kekekeke :rahrah:

Suspect Mr Taiko also likes it here coz its all ladies and one nebbermind gentleman

I need a new nick!! Zzzz.

Would love the female company if the ladies here are 15 years younger.....*thinks VERY carefully*..... then again, you ladies wouldn't be as charming then ya? Comes with the age, ya? Like wine. (walking on a tight rope......)

[DesertWind]

tyeogh:

belachanbabe:

Suspect Mr Taiko also likes it here coz its all ladies and one nebbermind gentleman

I need a new nick!! Zzzz.
Would love the female company if the ladies here are 15 years younger.....*thinks VERY carefully*..... then again, you ladies wouldn't be as charming then ya? Comes with the age, ya? Like wine. (walking on a tight rope......)

Oh, I am sure there are young and attractive mummies in this thread too (like buds! )

If you feel charmed here, we are pleased....after all....what is the subject of this thread? :evil: Taiko or Tiger, send them in! We mummies here are good at taming them. :nunchuk:

After all, we have lots of practise with our subject kids (talk about the lack of social skills. )

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DesertWind:

tyeogh:

[quote=\"belachanbabe\"] Suspect Mr Taiko also likes it here coz its all ladies and one nebbermind gentleman

I need a new nick!! Zzzz.
Would love the female company if the ladies here are 15 years younger.....*thinks VERY carefully*..... then again, you ladies wouldn't be as charming then ya? Comes with the age, ya? Like wine. (walking on a tight rope......)

Oh, I am sure there are young and attractive mummies in this thread too (like buds! )

If you feel charmed here, we are pleased....after all....what is the subject of this thread? :evil: Taiko or Tiger, send them in! We mummies here are good at taming them. :nunchuk:

After all, we have lots of practise with our subject kids (talk about the lack of social skills. )[/quote]Haha! Everybody loves Tyeogh! :udaman:

[tyeogh]

optrex80:

My kid was diagnosed with mild autism when he turn 4 plus. No speech till 4 years.. His speech is improving after going to speech therapy. He has a strong liking with puzzles,enjoy learning but very poor on socializing due to his lack of speech and language ability. He still do not know how to engage in a 2 way communication or relating his experiences in school to us. We can only pray hard that one day he really can outgrow or normalized...May I ask if they are any good activities or enrichment classes we can send our ASD kid for during the holiday?

Not sure if I can give counsel. Many other experts here. I got time so allow me to kay po a little. If you got your basic diet of ST and/or OT, I recommend the public playground or swimming pool. Find one with lots of other kids. Set up a daily schedule like 6pm everyday.

Autistic children are usually into routines. They find it hard to adapt or disengage after they engage an activity. Open play forces them to break out of their routines. There is no fixed routine in open play. For example at the playground, he may be sliding down the slide one moment or climbing up the slide the next or swinging or riding etc. Even the process of sliding down may differ each time. When he engages in open play often enough, you are increasing the likelihood that he quits his routine.

Playgrounds are the best place to find mates. Some contact or interaction with other kids may happen (best case scenario). Else, it is just another opportunity to observe, if any, how another child plays. He may one day decide to imitate them (2nd best case scenario). Dont expect them to shake hands and exchange name cards when they first meet.

I don't know of any ASD enrichment classes if that is what you really want. You can ask around. To me, it probably sounds like a quick-fix (no offence) and an opportunity for vendors to sell us more fear. The kids taught me, the hard way, that I can't outsource some parts of parenthood.

My time is up. As in thats all the info i can come up with LoL. Stick around here to kay po more with us