All About ADHD : Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder
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personally, I feel efalac kinda fish oil is the best!!
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no caning i learnt it the hard way the more u cane the more they will kee siao
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Agree!
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I got my son fish oil from GNC
He hated the taste.
Any one know where to get Fish Oil that has better taste? -
mummy OnABudget:
no caning i learnt it the hard way the more u cane the more they will kee siao
Sometimes i attempt to throw away his toys as a form of punishment...like you said he kee siao.
Even show sign that he wants to hit me...but he hold back his fist.
BTW he is only 6 coming to 7. -
temjin68:
Perhaps it would help to change your approach towards discipline from punishment to training. Punishment aims to inflict pain as retribution for wrong-doing, with a secondary intention that the child will then be motivated to behave correctly. However, for a child who lacks the ability (because of ADHD or whatever) to behave appropriately, punishment may seem unfair and will cause anger and resentment. Training aims to teach a child correct behaviour and build habits of correct behaviour, and sometimes it necessary to inflict some pain as a goad to right behaviour. Kids can sense what your main motive is, and will react accordingly.mummy OnABudget:
no caning i learnt it the hard way the more u cane the more they will kee siao
Sometimes i attempt to throw away his toys as a form of punishment...like you said he kee siao.
Even show sign that he wants to hit me...but he hold back his fist.
BTW he is only 6 coming to 7. -
i am now using the black white agreement method if he break any clause he have to abide by it and face the consequence.
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With my DD, i’ve found that setting clear boundaries, with unambiguous rules help her to correct her behaviour. I suppose because of the ADHD condition, and with her, she has high impulsivity, she will test boundaries, break rules and try to play a hide and seek game with me.
We’ve always set up our discipline system at home as actions have consequences. If you take actions that go against the home or school rules, you face the consequences. If your actions cause hurt or others, the consequences you face will also cause some form of pain - not the same kind of pain but definitely consequences that you don’t like. We seldom use the "word" punishment.
We use "caning" in the form of ruler on hands or butt but only at primary levels and only when we have repeatedly tried to correct the behaviour and my child is still committing the same undesirable behaviour.
Now that DD is already 13, we have stopped using physical pain as a form of consequence. It’s taking away from her privileges, possessions, curbing of freedom, etc.
I find that whether it’s ADHD kids (my other kids don’t have ADHD) or normal kids, having a clear position and standard about the kind of behaviour that is acceptable for different aspects of the child’s life is important. For eg expectations of homework, the way you treat people, carrying out your responsibilities as a family member, etc. The child actually finds security in the clear boundaries and they don’t resent you when you have to carry out the consequences on them.
I’m glad to say that although my kids do find me quite a "tiger" mum, I know that they don’t resent me when I’ve got to deliver to them the negative consequences for bad behaviour because they can predict that’s what’s coming to them. They can’t say I don’t know this was going to happen to me. My kids still come to talk with me and hug me soon after they have faced the music with me. What’s important is they feel secure that we still love them. We love the child but we don’t condone their bad actions. -
nansk:
Hello nanskIn addition to cutting TV and sweets, you may want to try the other thing jedamum mentioned - Omega-3 fish oil. Buy a good quality brand (with no added sugar) with dosage appropriate for children. We buy Nordic Naturals.
Another food that I have read helps kids to calm down and focus, is a little coffee every morning.
Also, I read http://www.younglivingsuccess.com/2009/08/essential-oils-for-add-and-adhd.html about essential oils used to massage the feet at bedtime. I bought Cedarwood EO, and Lavender EO from a trusted local supplier, http://www.milagrotrading.com/store/index.php?main_page=index&cPath=16&zenid=cc12105bd1268c3f0a8759cd90f00265 and mix it with rice bran oil from NTUC Fairprice (10 drops of each EO for every 60 ml of rice bran oil). Not sure if it really helps, but it cannot harm, right? It definitely aids in getting deep, restful sleep. You may want to try this option.
Also, to add, we noticed more focus and readiness to learn after the age of 6. So hang in there; it will get better.
So far did the EO help? -
beanbear:
With my DD, i've found that setting clear boundaries, with unambiguous rules help her to correct her behaviour. I suppose because of the ADHD condition, and with her, she has high impulsivity, she will test boundaries, break rules and try to play a hide and seek game with me.
We've always set up our discipline system at home as actions have consequences. If you take actions that go against the home or school rules, you face the consequences. If your actions cause hurt or others, the consequences you face will also cause some form of pain - not the same kind of pain but definitely consequences that you don't like. We seldom use the \"word\" punishment.
We use \"caning\" in the form of ruler on hands or butt but only at primary levels and only when we have repeatedly tried to correct the behaviour and my child is still committing the same undesirable behaviour.
Now that DD is already 13, we have stopped using physical pain as a form of consequence. It's taking away from her privileges, possessions, curbing of freedom, etc.
I find that whether it's ADHD kids (my other kids don't have ADHD) or normal kids, having a clear position and standard about the kind of behaviour that is acceptable for different aspects of the child's life is important. For eg expectations of homework, the way you treat people, carrying out your responsibilities as a family member, etc. The child actually finds security in the clear boundaries and they don't resent you when you have to carry out the consequences on them.
I'm glad to say that although my kids do find me quite a \"tiger\" mum, I know that they don't resent me when I've got to deliver to them the negative consequences for bad behaviour because they can predict that's what's coming to them. They can't say I don't know this was going to happen to me. My kids still come to talk with me and hug me soon after they have faced the music with me. What's important is they feel secure that we still love them. We love the child but we don't condone their bad actions.
Hello Beanbear
what do you mean by primary levels?
My son has not go to ADHD assessment.
But i guess the primary school P and teachers are hinting to us.
He does show signs of ADHD and recently become violent become his peers.
Like to take method into his own hands.
Punishment drive me crazy, he will scream and scream and hit me.
I try not to hit him as i thought using violent to stop violent does not sound right.
Student care wants him OUT!!!
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