All About Autism
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Couragemom:
Yes, couragemom, it took me close to a year to get my doter into a suitable mainstream CC. I guess it was a bit 天时地利人和as well cos there were situations where I found a suitable CC but could not enrol her for other reasons.Hi mommies,
I am looking for a new kindergarten (not CC) for my DS for next year. The current school that he goes to is a playgroup and doesn't teach academic stuff so students can at most stay until N2, he is in N1 this year. I am looking for 1 in the west (Clementi/west coast/holland/pasir panjang/pandan gardens). Kindly help if you can!
I am not being kiasu start so early to find as I read in the earlier posts that ImMeeMee took over a year to find a suitable school for her DD3!
Mommies can give advice on whether to reveal our darling's condition anot? I am more inclined to do it as I feel that if the school is sympathetic, we can work hand-in-hand together. Some friends were suggesting church schools as the principals are usually more kind-hearted but the con is usually the class size is very big! Usually 2 teachers to 24 students for N2? All advice are welcome!
My experience was that most mainstream CCs are fully booked with long wait lists. So its not KS at all for wanting to start early, esp if our children have more conditions to think about in getting the right fit.
I am for declaring the child's condition to the school teachers, and all along I had always stated upfront my doter's condition when I spoke to the Ps and teachers about enrolment. I guess its only fair that we do not blindsight the school team on the child's condition if we already know, and agree with you that its easier to work hand-in-hand with the school team when they are knowledgeable. I also shared with the teachers on what to look out for and how she was coping in EIPIC school, so that the teachers could have some reference.
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Hi Parents!
I am a Psychology student from the National University of Singapore (NUS) and am currently doing research for my thesis, which studies how older siblings of children with autism relate to peers.
I am targeting the following families:
1) Age of the child with autism: younger than a neurotypical sibling (who will not participate in the study)
2) Age of older sibling (typically developing): between 11 to 16 years of age (who will participate in the study)
Examples of suitable families
(a) 9 year old child with autism + 12 year old typically developing sibling, (b) 13 year old child with autism + 15 year old typically developing sibling
The research process consists of a one-off 20 minutes quantitative interview with the older sibling at the families’ preferred location in Singapore. The interview requires the older sibling to read some descriptions and fill in questionnaires.
All data will be confidential.
A small token of appreciation will be given. Participating families will also be entitled to a waiver of consultation charge ($108) at Mind Culture for signing up of therapy sessions. For more information, visit http://www.mindculture.com.sg.
I would really appreciate if you could help me out as I am passionate about doing research in the special needs field.
Kindly PM me if you would like to help
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Couragemom:
Couragemom, How about St James Church in holland? I heard is good but is also very popular, not sure if you can still get vacancy.Hi mommies,
I am looking for a new kindergarten (not CC) for my DS for next year. The current school that he goes to is a playgroup and doesn't teach academic stuff so students can at most stay until N2, he is in N1 this year. I am looking for 1 in the west (Clementi/west coast/holland/pasir panjang/pandan gardens). Kindly help if you can!
I am not being kiasu start so early to find as I read in the earlier posts that ImMeeMee took over a year to find a suitable school for her DD3!
Mommies can give advice on whether to reveal our darling's condition anot? I am more inclined to do it as I feel that if the school is sympathetic, we can work hand-in-hand together. Some friends were suggesting church schools as the principals are usually more kind-hearted but the con is usually the class size is very big! Usually 2 teachers to 24 students for N2? All advice are welcome!
My kid's N2 only has about 10 kids with one teacher. My DS survived and now he is in K1 with a class of 20 with 1 teacher, surviving so far too. So u don't have to worry too much, just take a step at a time. And if you are a christian, just pray.
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Hi Double E,
Called St James too. Not a chance at all due to the looooonnnng waiting list.
I tried a church school near my house this morning, but high teacher:student ratio for N2. But like you say, our kids may just surprise us with their ability right? Maybe I worry too much! Actually according to my friend’s son educational psychologist point of view, if our end-goal is mainstream school, then going to a big class environment for kindergarten is not a bad idea as the child can get used to all the ‘noise’! -
Couragemom:
Hi Couragemom,Hi mommies,
I am looking for a new kindergarten (not CC) for my DS for next year. The current school that he goes to is a playgroup and doesn't teach academic stuff so students can at most stay until N2, he is in N1 this year. I am looking for 1 in the west (Clementi/west coast/holland/pasir panjang/pandan gardens). Kindly help if you can!
I am not being kiasu start so early to find as I read in the earlier posts that ImMeeMee took over a year to find a suitable school for her DD3!
Mommies can give advice on whether to reveal our darling's condition anot? I am more inclined to do it as I feel that if the school is sympathetic, we can work hand-in-hand together. Some friends were suggesting church schools as the principals are usually more kind-hearted but the con is usually the class size is very big! Usually 2 teachers to 24 students for N2? All advice are welcome!
Pm you. -
Couragemom:
The trick that all of us have to learn is how much to stretch our kids and how much to protect them. Too much in either direction is not good, but it's not always easy to decide where to position ourselves, and it will vary from child to child. My Asperger's daughter just started her Pre-U studies and it's been a bit nerve-wracking in some ways letting her go to take part in the orientation, find her classes etc. On the one hand, we know we can't handhold her forever, but on the other, I don't want her to be too stressed and have bad experiences. But with briefings and preparation, she seems to have coped OK. A bit stressed, still hasn't made many friends (and had to be reminded several times to try to ask people's names etc), but not as bad as I feared. I didn't actually tell the school about her diagnosis initially as I didn't really know who to inform, but I have now informed her form teacher who will alert the rest of her teachers. Your kids are all much younger, so your situations and considerations will be different, so just stretch them step by step. If you had asked me 10 yrs ago whether my daughter could have coped like this, I could never have imagined it.Hi Double E,
Called St James too. Not a chance at all due to the looooonnnng waiting list.
I tried a church school near my house this morning, but high teacher:student ratio for N2. But like you say, our kids may just surprise us with their ability right? Maybe I worry too much! Actually according to my friend's son educational psychologist point of view, if our end-goal is mainstream school, then going to a big class environment for kindergarten is not a bad idea as the child can get used to all the 'noise'! -
Hi people… i send my kid to speech and occupational therapy for his ASD. However i wonder if ABA therapy is good too? Anyone tried ABA therapy and what does it really target? I am at a dilemma as i am not sure if it is wise to stretch my kid for extra lesson for ABA.
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slmkhoo:
Thanks for your inspirational moment, slmkhoo, and I really feel happy for you. It brought to my mind the part where Temple Grandin's mother had tremendous struggles while deciding whether to put her to a boarding school, for fear that she would not be able to cope. But in the end she adapted sufficiently, and went on to achieve a lot more.
The trick that all of us have to learn is how much to stretch our kids and how much to protect them. Too much in either direction is not good, but it's not always easy to decide where to position ourselves, and it will vary from child to child. My Asperger's daughter just started her Pre-U studies and it's been a bit nerve-wracking in some ways letting her go to take part in the orientation, find her classes etc. On the one hand, we know we can't handhold her forever, but on the other, I don't want her to be too stressed and have bad experiences. But with briefings and preparation, she seems to have coped OK. A bit stressed, still hasn't made many friends (and had to be reminded several times to try to ask people's names etc), but not as bad as I feared. I didn't actually tell the school about her diagnosis initially as I didn't really know who to inform, but I have now informed her form teacher who will alert the rest of her teachers. Your kids are all much younger, so your situations and considerations will be different, so just stretch them step by step. If you had asked me 10 yrs ago whether my daughter could have coped like this, I could never have imagined it.
I too cannot imagine what it would be like for my doter in ten years time. I can only take one step at a time, and already I am feeling grateful that she is settling somewhat OK into the primary school environment. We have to continue to hope for the best. :xedfingers: -
optrex80:
Hi people.. i send my kid to speech and occupational therapy for his ASD. However i wonder if ABA therapy is good too? Anyone tried ABA therapy and what does it really target? I am at a dilemma as i am not sure if it is wise to stretch my kid for extra lesson for ABA.
How old is your child and what challenges do you have with him/her now? We did ABA for about 2.5 yrs till about 5yrs old. For us (and it's different for everyone) it was good as before ABA he could not sit quietly or follow instructions. ABA is a bit 'robotic' but it helped to 'prepare' him to be open to learning. We had gone for OT and ST prior to ABA but it was all just a waste of money as each session was spent trying to get him to co-operate. After intensive ABA he was open to learning and we subsequently restarted ST and OT and it was so much better. We eventually stopped ABA as he was lacking in so many other areas and we needed to concentrate on the other aspects. -
ImMeeMee:
I feel happy for your too slmkhoo. You really came a long way esp ASD is unheard and unnoticed many years ago. I do agree about stretching and protecting part.
Thanks for your inspirational moment, slmkhoo, and I really feel happy for you. It brought to my mind the part where Temple Grandin's mother had tremendous struggles while deciding whether to put her to a boarding school, for fear that she would not be able to cope. But in the end she adapted sufficiently, and went on to achieve a lot more.slmkhoo:
The trick that all of us have to learn is how much to stretch our kids and how much to protect them. Too much in either direction is not good, but it's not always easy to decide where to position ourselves, and it will vary from child to child. My Asperger's daughter just started her Pre-U studies and it's been a bit nerve-wracking in some ways letting her go to take part in the orientation, find her classes etc. On the one hand, we know we can't handhold her forever, but on the other, I don't want her to be too stressed and have bad experiences. But with briefings and preparation, she seems to have coped OK. A bit stressed, still hasn't made many friends (and had to be reminded several times to try to ask people's names etc), but not as bad as I feared. I didn't actually tell the school about her diagnosis initially as I didn't really know who to inform, but I have now informed her form teacher who will alert the rest of her teachers. Your kids are all much younger, so your situations and considerations will be different, so just stretch them step by step. If you had asked me 10 yrs ago whether my daughter could have coped like this, I could never have imagined it.
I too cannot imagine what it would be like for my doter in ten years time. I can only take one step at a time, and already I am feeling grateful that she is settling somewhat OK into the primary school environment. We have to continue to hope for the best. :xedfingers:
I stretch a lot for my son but I protect a lot too. I keep reminding myself to protect less, to let him grow. And day by day, my son manage to surprise me. And day by day he managed to tell me things from his point of view.
Seriously, ASD people just see things differently. They are just different, not less.
I also don't know what my son will be like in 10 years time. We just have to take things one step at a time.
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