Me Time!
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sweets, chocolates, chips…if I do not do the grocery shopping, I will see all these in the fridge. sometimes I do see sweets hidden in one corner of the fridge which I did not buy…son is just like me, we do not eat these stuff.
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janet_lee88:
...but hubby's weakness is obvious and so daughter will climb on his head...sending him sms-es and telling him what she wants...bcos can't let mummy know or she will say NO.
Is this something you are OK with? Because in my family, we have always had a strict policy of not allowing a child to go to the parent who will give a favourable answer. My husband and I will always check with the other first if in doubt. Our policy is a united front - even if we disagree, we will come to some agreement before answering the child. We also do not condone hiding things from the other parent (unless it's a present or pleasant surprise). I would be very unhappy if I knew my child was going to my husband in order to circumvent my decisions. -
slmkhoo:
Is this something you are OK with? Because in my family, we have always had a strict policy of not allowing a child to go to the parent who will give a favourable answer. My husband and I will always check with the other first if in doubt. Our policy is a united front - even if we disagree, we will come to some agreement before answering the child. We also do not condone hiding things from the other parent (unless it's a present or pleasant surprise). I would be very unhappy if I knew my child was going to my husband in order to circumvent my decisions.
I totally agree that dad and mum must be in the same frequency esp when the child is young. However, mum and dad are still human beings and at times, one would give in especially over small things like mum says no tit-bits but dad may say Ok but just a small bit of chocolate... -
slmkhoo:
Mine doesn't. He's stricter than I am in some ways. And he's much more likely to feel that they don't need something or that it's an necessary indulgence.
Mine too.
Hubs is VERY fierce. Strict is an understatement. He always says NO (the kids' own words) and they complain that sometimes daddy thinks he's running a military camp. So the kids appreciate me more cos they know i am way more understanding and definitely more tolerant. But it also means they bully me a lot.
When they drive me up the wall, I just keep quiet for a day and they won't be able to take it. Cos I'm usually chatty (and quite the joker according to DD2) and will entertain their after school stories. It's no fun when mommy's so quiet.
They are pretty much dependent on me for almost everything cos hubs' working hours are :frustrated: that sometimes I feel like a single parent sometimes.. Everything from meals to sch work (if any), venting abt homework and teachers.. their confidante.. but I won't have it any other way. :love: whether I am FTWM or a SAHM.
PS. Hubs is strict even with me. :rant: :frustrated: -
hubby can be too strict at times...unreasonable to a certain degree. son doesn't confide in him because hubby doesn't seem to understand :slapshead: I find it strange because of the 'man to man thing'.
I have to reason with him quietly by telling him to put himself in their shoes.
I am firm...do crazy things with them...provide a listening ear when they feel lousy...and when they have way too much homework, i will do something when some teachers are unreasonable. but when I say NO, I mean it. -
starlight1968sg:
When that happens, we will discuss the issue and agree before we tell the kids. It spoils the enjoyment for the kids too if they know one parent still disagrees. Now that they are teens, we even discuss in front of them so they can hear both sides and we can model how to reach agreement in the family.slmkhoo:
Is this something you are OK with? Because in my family, we have always had a strict policy of not allowing a child to go to the parent who will give a favourable answer. My husband and I will always check with the other first if in doubt. Our policy is a united front - even if we disagree, we will come to some agreement before answering the child. We also do not condone hiding things from the other parent (unless it's a present or pleasant surprise). I would be very unhappy if I knew my child was going to my husband in order to circumvent my decisions.
I totally agree that dad and mum must be in the same frequency esp when the child is young. However, mum and dad are still human beings and at times, one would give in especially over small things like mum says no tit-bits but dad may say Ok but just a small bit of chocolate... -
buds:
My husband is strict with me too! Not in an overbearing way, but he is a very disciplined and high-principled person, so he sets a high standard in the home. And yes, I am also the kids' main confidante, and I also wouldn't have it any other way.Everything from meals to sch work (if any), venting abt homework and teachers.. their confidante.. but I won't have it any other way. :love: whether I am FTWM or a SAHM.
PS. Hubs is strict even with me. :rant: :frustrated: -
janet_lee88:
sweets, chocolates, chips...if I do not do the grocery shopping, I will see all these in the fridge. sometimes I do see sweets hidden in one corner of the fridge which I did not buy...son is just like me, we do not eat these stuff.
Your hubby is really lenient.. We dun eat chips often.. When we do it's cos I have a craving.. Hubby will buy nuts when he goes grocery shopping.. My boys love nuts..
My boy goes to his daddy when he wants Fastfood.. They love Mac.. Sometimes I prepare the healthier version at home..
As for sweet treats, my boy eats only when I buy.. Not often.. I have no ice cream craving lately so no one gets to eat ice cream
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slmkhoo:
Same here.. Hubby is also strict with me so I guess he will be strict with DD too.. One good thing about hubby is that he enjoys bring my boy for exercise and outdoor activities..
My husband is strict with me too! Not in an overbearing way, but he is a very disciplined and high-principled person, so he sets a high standard in the home. And yes, I am also the kids' main confidante, and I also wouldn't have it any other way.buds:
Everything from meals to sch work (if any), venting abt homework and teachers.. their confidante.. but I won't have it any other way. :love: whether I am FTWM or a SAHM.
PS. Hubs is strict even with me. :rant: :frustrated:
Sometimes they exercise then park themselves at Mac to eat fries
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At least they burn some calories first before adding them back into their system. :rotflmao:
2 years back when we were learning how to blade, we would burn loads of calories. And then put them all back when we buy coke, iced lemon tea from Mac. But nett, I think still lose weight! Plus learn a new sport.
At least DH & DC learnt a new sport. I don't even dare to blade after falling twice. When we go to East Coast, the 3 of them blade while I bike. In my mind, I envision myself on the blades and moving, slowly. In reality, I put on the blades & freeze. :stupid:
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