Just 5 Things... to Keep The Romance in Our Marriage Alive

[buds]

5 Things To Keep The Romance In Your Marriage Come Alive (Part 1 to Part 3)


In Part 1, these are the 5 things that do not need money to play the part.

Just a lot of tender loving care that comes sincerely from the heart. :love:
Here's sharing some of the stuff i've done for / with buds hubs... and vice
versa.

1. The Works
Being a stay-home-mum, we sometimes forget to appreciate the fact that
at least one person works to keep the household running, the family fed,
and the savings clicking in that piggy. Both staying home and working has
its fair shares of stress and should not be compared especially not open
verbal confrontation. Issues like these will see no end. Having chosen to
play the individual roles that we play, we should actually in fact support
one another through our journeys be it tribulations or in sheer happiness.

I surprised him one day after work doing the works. Not the kind what's
in all your humsup filled brain waves. :lol: But more to the appreciation
works. Butler service if i may call it.

The minute he came back that day, he looked worn. But he managed a
smile on his lips for me. As usual, we held each other in embrace and i
do remember him lifting me up a lil' too and giving me that little spin
while our lips are still interlocked in our welcome home kiss. I asked.
\"Bad day?\" \"Kinda... but i don't want to talk about it. My head is aching
just thinking about it.\" Without a word, i removed all the buttons on his
shirt from the top to the bottom... he gave me a weird look... like this .

I unbuckled his belt and pulled it off his pants gently and proceeded to
pull it down completely. I even removed his socks to which he bent down
to stop me but i said i insist. He let me... unwillingly. I removed his watch.
Then, placed it on his watch box. I held one of his hands leading him to our
bathroom. I specifically placed a newly opened air freshener inside and it
smelt nice especially after a clean-scrubbed toilet. Our bathroom was too
small to fit a tub so i got him to sit on our IKEA stool and told him i will give
him a rub down. I ran the shower (slightly warm) and rinsed his body. I
turned off the shower thereafter and began the rub down from his head.
I always loved how the hair dressers in the salon give me a good hair
wash and i'd feel so good and happy after that. So, that was what i gave
him. I started with a hair spa... gentle finger strokes to calm his aching
head filled with work... working the neck and stiff shoulder blades from
the sitting down doing paperwork.. then i worked downwards to his spine,
both arms right till the fingers. He remained silent throughout. After i was
done, i whispered to him.. \"I'll shower you today.\" He nodded.

I stripped him off his briefs and gave him a light massage kinda shower,
cleaned him thoroughly and dried him up. I told him to lie down while i
went to get something. I came back to the bed with his favourite minty
ointment and told him to relax. I gave him a foot reflexology. He was
silent throughout the finger pressing his soles, toes and heels. I also
gave some light massage on his spine, shoulder blades, neck and head.
Lastly i did his arms and his hands. After i finished, i told him to relax a
bit while i get dinner ready. The kids were both in school. So i thought
we'd eat early together before they got back. He nodded and smiled at
me.

I specially prepared his favourite chicken rice and veggie soup that day...
We chatted for awhile as we ate about what movie to watch next date nite.
And some other mundane stuff. We finished dinner and fruits. Hubs then
told me to shower while he offered to clear up the kitchen for me. So that
we could then spend a while more before the kids got back from school...

After my shower, we turned on the aircon and cuddled together suddenly
just spurred on by memories of blast from the past. I forgot who started
it. Might have been me... I may have asked whether he could imagine
me showering him back then in school. He said he was happy even when
i was mean to him a lot during those years cos it meant i was responding
to him.. One thing led to another and we shared many laughs over our
teenage sillies.

It was time to fetch the kiddies from school transport. I offered to go down
to pick them up. Before i could leave the room, he tugged gently at my arm
and he said, \"Thank you for everything today.. this is precisely why you
are the love of my life.. i love you.. come back up quickly ok.. i'm missing
you oredi.\"

Fast forward to the next day, hubs left me a note on my work table beside
the bed. It read, \"My dearest wifey baby... i will be missing you a lot today.
I'm sure i will not be able to stop thinking of you all through work today...
Just watching you sleep gives me a sense of peace.. that you are going
to be here when i get back. The house is super clean yesterday... yes i
noticed... i'm sure you must've have spent some time cleaning up every
thing by yourself.. Dinner was lovely as usual and chatting with you about
old times sure brings back memories.. I love you, baby. Can't wait to see
you later...\"

Love, your hubby..

2. The Works

The 2nd part of the works is on household. Since i am the SAHM, chores
are supposed to be my territory. My duties since i chose to stay home, i
gotta do what home-makers do... albeit it being more than an office hour
job i later realized.. :politebleah: Hubs shooshed me out for an off day wif
my girlfriends which i excitedly did. For once, he didn't call me in between
my time outside (he likes to do that : how far are you from home or are
you coming back soon). You see.. i've always been the trusting wife kind.
Naive to some cos they say men don't deserve 100% trust. Just like how
i dun like him calling me when i'm out on my retreat day, i also NEVER
called him to ever interrupt and ask him to get back fast. To me, he works
hard and he is entitled to his off days just being out with the boys. In fact,
when he calls to say the guys are swinging by for late nite coffee and he
should be back by midnight, i tell him no hurry... eveything's good at home,
all chores done, kids finished homework and already tucked in to bed..
I'll tell him dun come back so early. His friends wud laugh at him and
say, see your wifey so understanding and yet you worry.. she some
more say dun come back so early... Their wives usually either follow
them or when they don't follow they will text their husbands A LOT.

I had a great day... hehee.. and night... with my girlfriends and really
had a fantastic time catching up and unwind. I reached back around like
after 1am and walked softly in.. i felt the floors all squeaky clean... the
fresh laundry all hung up and smelling great... the kitchen scrubbed...
the leftovers kept in the fridge... the kiddies' homework all completed..
there were even some assessments for me to mark.. the kiddies diaries
were open to the page the wrote about their day... and i saw books on
the kiddies' beds and they were already looking peacefully asleep. Oh
wow! I'm blown away... he even read to the girls. :love: He usually does
not like to cos he says reading to them makes him yawn a lot and feel
sleepy, even when he's not.

I went into the room, (room smells fresh too) and saw the night light on
(so it wasn't too dark for me to see) with him seemingly oredi asleep....
Why seemingly, cos when i tried to kiss his forehead... he pulled me close
to his body for a hug and said.. \"I missed you.. hope you had fun. Every
thing is done.. now just go shower and cuddle with me to tell me about ur
day out with your friends..\" :hugs:

When we were almost going to fall asleep, he whispers, \"Oh yeah... dun
need to cook tomorrow. I'm taking us out for breakfast and a trip to
Sentosa for some sea and sand fun. We'll chill out together tomorrow with
the girls. I think they'd love it when i break the surprise tomorrow..\"

I just smiled happily and replied, \"Thank you for being such a thoughtful
husband.. i noticed you had all my work done for me. And thank you for
being the loving father to our girls. Yes, i am very sure they'd be screaming
tomorrow when you break the news. Goodnight, baby..\"

Aaah... what bliss right. :love:

The only thing that spoiled that night was the nosey peeking MIL
who gave me the tsk tsk look when i opened the front door.. :roll:
I am very sure she disliked hubs finishing up the household chores
& the children all by himself (cos she claims her own husband was
never like that.. so husbands shouldn't be like that lest appear hen
pecked) She glanced at the clock at my entrance, shook her head,
rolled her eyes and shut the door again.

But hey, heck it lah hor... i had a great time. :celebrate:

Here in The Works #2 is the thoughtfulness of a spouse and the suprise
factor wasn't even something that needed to be purchased. Once again,
tender loving care.. and sincerely from the heart... and most importantly
to tankee, doesn't need to lean towards or lead to sex... lest he'd
find it an overkill on the pressure to perform.

That day, schweppes... i started out my girls' day out with a wide
smile and it sure ended with a deep satisfied sigh. :lol: This was the man
i wanted to fall in love with and be in love with every single day of my life. :romance:

3. Stay In Tune

One thing we also like to do together is sing. Hubs is musically talented.
He also has a nice voice. :love: And i am definitely a voice girl... i'm a
sucker for guys with those nice husky voices... and more partial to those
Irish accented ones. :lol:

However, our duet isn't the karaoke kind. Hubs will either play the piano
and i sing or he'll strum his guitar & we'll sing some of our favourite songs
acousticly.

The girls wud sometimes come in and kaypoh too. And suka suka make
song requests. :lol: They especially enjoy http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QDtCa7FWmcc&feature=PlayList&p=65B27398C4BEEAFF&index=0&playnext=1 by The Calling.

The girls would ask what were the songs we listened to when we were
younger and hubs would play some of them. The only thing he won't do
is specially sing one song for me. He once sang for his ex-gf and asked
her to marry him. She turned him down. So, i suppose that was why til
today... he keeps saying he has a bad voice. And to mark that DAY he
dedicated the song http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=saalGKY7ifU&feature=related by Celine Dion to this ex-gf.

Wah lao. :faint: Yaa... on and on and on... if ya noe wat i mean.
*goosebumps* :lol:

Till today if i ask him what's our song.. he'd string a few songs in mind.
I just reply, \"At least SHE has a song..\" Then, he'd counter, \"But we
have many songs...\" I adamantly say, \"We do not have OUR song..\"

However, i do remember those pager carrying days... hubs left this song
on my voicemail. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c1pABjF7WfE by The Moffatts.

So he said that can be our song. :roll: Anyhow hantam..

I better siamz. :siam: He'd :heresmyfish: me for revealing his lame song. :politebleah:

[corneyAmber]

Wah buds...romance finally lure you out...you have been missing in action..

[buds]

Lotta stuff goin’ on.

[2ppaamm]

Buds is as entertaining and thought provoking as usual… Now what’s his song… My Way?

[buds]

:rotflmao:


Yes. Yes. Spot on!
Wuakakakakaah!!
You crack me up
even at this time
of the morning!

:celebrate:

Mebbe i'm waiting
for someone to
make up the song,
\"buds' ways\".. :rotflmao:

But all i get for now is..
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-bUmDh9u934&feature=related by No Doubt.

[buds]

buds:

I better siamz. :siam: He'd :heresmyfish: me for revealing his lame song. :politebleah:

Just to be clear.. the lame song is the dead love wan.. :lol:
Or mebbe to him, the most gigantic love of all la.. it's titanic
u noe. :roll: Huge. :politebleah:

So, each time the song is heard playing somewhere i'd not
let the chance slip by to nudge him.. \"Eh, dats your song leh..\" :lol:

[2ppaamm]

This one? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jZpAtvx6Ojc&feature=fvsr

[autumnbronze]

2ppaamm:

This one? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jZpAtvx6Ojc&feature=fvsr

Sorri, I kaypo ah .....


:rotflmao: :rotflmao:

[2ppaamm]

autumnbronze:

2ppaamm:

This one? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jZpAtvx6Ojc&feature=fvsr

Sorri, I kaypo ah .....


:rotflmao: :rotflmao:

Can't beat this more romantic one leh... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BxWKIXIyL1g&NR=1 eh... I believe buds can take joke hor...

[Andaiz]

buds:

buds:

I better siamz. :siam: He'd :heresmyfish: me for revealing his lame song. :politebleah:

Just to be clear.. the lame song is the dead love wan.. :lol:
Or mebbe to him, the most gigantic love of all la.. it's titanic
u noe. :roll: Huge. :politebleah:

As you know....titanic sank leh! appaamm, I oso can't help being kaypoh...and youtube videos were :rotflmao: and :evil: