All About Autism

[windie]

My son did really badly for his Math and Science SA1, despite my coaching, tuition and hard work


Does anyone have recommendations for a gd tutor who is gd with special needs children?

TIA!

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Slmkhoo


Thank you of your words of wisdom. Sorry for replying late. I guessed I was all pent up and finding a channel to rant. Felt better and move on to continue to seek ways to help him and spend time with my other 2 kids. Making him independent is our ultimate aim as well. Making him pass psle is a enabling milestone to help him to have more choices for the next steps.

Thank you for sharing your experiences, it really provided us hope and brighten the thoughts we have for our ASD kiddos. (Am sure most moms agreed).

ImMeeMee, Double E
thanks, indeed it felt better after ranting. I guess on and off we will fall into the pithole of being frustration, self pity and unfairness mode. As much as I want to be positive, but I guess once my threshold is over, I will encounter a meltdown too. Lol

Thanks for listening and giving comforting words.

Couragemom
Yes I recv ur pm abt your psychologist. Thanks for thinking of me. Son has a tutor now plus seeing psychologist requires logistics, time and cost.. We kiv that consultation first. Son now.is attending regular OT at IMH. They are also helping to address these issue for us. Hope they will be able to show some positive impact on him.

Yes pls prep ur son for p1. I overlook this point.. Is good that we hv this forum for sharing isn't it. To.share everything

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Mashy


Thanks for sharing your experiences with me. I also always look up to you for tips esp our sons age are near both are in mainstream…
Son got quite good results for his maths! Gosh… We were so happy! Here’s a few things we did…

Yes he is competitive in nature esp to his younger sibling. Will be real mad when he lost his game. Using this trait of his competitiveness against his younger bro, I told him if he fails for everything, he has to go back k2 (Which he hates most) and stay there until his bro goes k2 then both go p1 again together. He of cos didnt want that.

Another thing i did was only if he pass his test, any one paper written , he can go for the holiday trip with us in June. If all fail, then he has to stay in Singapore cos holiday trip are reward for people who work really hard and earn it. Smart boy say if he fail and we go without him, I will end up crying cos I will be missing him! Funny to get that comment from him. But at least he knows we love him.

One more thing we did was to tell him marks need to pass. Like maths at least 13 marks so u pass. English 25 then pass. Chinese 25 then pass. So he knows he need to answer as many as possible to get more marks.

Last thing is practise and practise and practise. Cos practise makes perfect! No other shortcut way.

I haven’t seen his English and Chinese results. But I am already happy that he pass his maths. He put in effort to read and do correctly after I poured my hard work into him.

Thank you mommies for giving all suggestions and lending a listening ear.

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Yes son lately started to get interested in art and painting. And we sign him up at community center. Lol. So glad he is coping well and he wants to continue for 2nd term.


Finally I found something he likes.

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mashy:

My son says he will buy a house and I can stay with him! Yippee!

So sweet of your boy.

Sometimes when my kids get too naughty, I would something like they don't love me. Cos if they love me they won't do things that make me upset and one day I might be so heartbroken that I will just die. And the way they behave right now.. Very soon i will die then they have no more mummy. .. (More for my no 2 cos he takes soft approach)

Then son will say \"no no I don't want mummy to die so fast. I want mummy to die so slow\". HB laugh so loud cos sounded like slow death. But at least I know my son even though ASD but he loves me enough to want me to live longer..

[tiredmummy1972]

Hi all. My 2.5yr old nephew displays many signs of autism. Where can we bring for an assessment? My Bro brought him to PD and asked and was told to wait and see. To observe. But I read up, it’s advisable to go for early intervention Asap. Pls help…

[sharonkhoo]

tiredmummy1972:

Hi all. My 2.5yr old nephew displays many signs of autism. Where can we bring for an assessment? My Bro brought him to PD and asked and was told to wait and see. To observe. But I read up, it's advisable to go for early intervention Asap. Pls help.....

It's too early for a definitive diagnosis. It's a long process, quite stressful for everyone, and they will at best get a provisional diagnosis. However, it doesn't mean that he should not be given the help he needs if his parents are willing to identify his weaknesses and deal with them at home. Ask them to start reading up about it and look for self-help advice. There's a lot around. Early intervention is best done frequently and consistently over a prolonged period, so it's best done in the home. Sending the child to sessions with a therapist doesn't work as well as dedicated one-on-one intervention done at home by a caregiver, in my opinion. You need to catch the behaviours when they happen, and look for the teachable moments.

[Double E]

slmkhoo:

tiredmummy1972:

Hi all. My 2.5yr old nephew displays many signs of autism. Where can we bring for an assessment? My Bro brought him to PD and asked and was told to wait and see. To observe. But I read up, it's advisable to go for early intervention Asap. Pls help.....

It's too early for a definitive diagnosis. It's a long process, quite stressful for everyone, and they will at best get a provisional diagnosis. However, it doesn't mean that he should not be given the help he needs if his parents are willing to identify his weaknesses and deal with them at home. Ask them to start reading up about it and look for self-help advice. There's a lot around. Early intervention is best done frequently and consistently over a prolonged period, so it's best done in the home. Sending the child to sessions with a therapist doesn't work as well as dedicated one-on-one intervention done at home by a caregiver, in my opinion. You need to catch the behaviours when they happen, and look for the teachable moments.

While I think is good to have dedicated one to one intervention by a caregiver, I feel in this case for tiredmummy's brother, they may need to hear professional advice at this point to give them a headstart. As one who has been on this journey, I can say that not everyone has the strength and clear sound of mind to do this with the child at home by reading self-help advice. For my case, I greatly appreciate the advice from the experts and I look to them as my support network so that if I am not sure how to proceed at home, I have someone ready to ask for help.

tiredmummy, depending on how yr brother wants to approach this. If the signs of autism are very clear, then I think he should insist for the PD to recommend a child psychologist to have a look at his boy. There may not be a firm diagnosis now as your nephew is still young but at least the psychologist can refer him to therapists who can help to assess the weaknesses of your nephew and start working on those with him. If not, you can simply google, there are many such services around which your brother can just call and make appointment with the therapist.

Here is one you can check out. My boy was first assessed here. My son saw the psychologist when he was 2 years old.
http://www.thomsoncdc.com/our-services/ ... -disorder/

If cost is a concern, can go to the polyclinic and get them to refer to KKH or NUH.

Before you get an appointment, you can in the meantime, like what slmkhoo said, read up online and start working with the child first.

[kitty2]

Wonder all your kids have problem eating well?The specialist suspects my friend's 4 yr old kid as Autism.He has problem eating well and need to force feed.My friend is very lost and frustrated :frustrated: He can't communicate well and can't focus in class.The teacher may want him to leave the school

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kitty2:

Wonder all your kids have problem eating well?The specialist suspects my friend's 4 yr old kid as Autism.He has problem eating well and need to force feed.My friend is very lost and frustrated :frustrated: He can't communicate well and can't focus in class.The teacher may want him to leave the school

I don't think not eating and autism are related. Autism is more about social skills and interactions. Eating seems to be something else. Does the child have any physical or emotional issues? Eg. difficulty in chewing or swallowing, aversions to certain tastes and textures?