Over Sensitive Kid??

[barney]

I’ve searched for existing thread on similar topic but couldn’t find one, if there’s one exist, mods, please help to merge this thread.


My dd did not attend school on Monday and Tuesday as she was not feeling well. She came back yesterday after her first day in school this week telling me she felt like she’s invisible. I asked her why and she said whenever one of her classmate is sick, when they get back to school the following day, the form teacher will ask if the child is feeling better. She was out for 2 days and her form teacher never asked her anything at all. She kept saying she like invisible to the teacher.

Is she being over sensitive on this? How would you answer or console your child if this happen to them? Please help.

[Blobbi]

Is she like that generally?, ie, from what you can see, more so than other girls? Does she have other concerns?

[jesschan]

My son was on MC for five days during the H1N1 period last year and 2 weeks for chicken pox near to SA2 when he was in P2 and none of his teachers asked about him when he returned to school. Luckily he doesn’t bother about such things but he does sometimes feel that the teacher isn’t always fair to him. Whenever such incidents happen, I always tell my kids that the teacher has too many children to handle, too much nitty gritty work and hence tend to overlook the emotional aspects of the kids … it doesn’t mean anything.

[Andaiz]

lovekidsverymuch:

Agreed you can always tell ur gal that there is one teacher and so many students cannot remember all of them

Hey, and if she's sensitive, her question would be \"then how come they remember for XXX or so-and-so?\"

I agree that girls are more sensitive in such ways. Also, sometimes the gals tend to feel victimised (they probably remember those who were asked, not those who were not!). Does she have friends in school? I mean good ones - and if they look out for one another, sometimes, it makes such \"ignoring\" easier to bear. Just my 2 cents worth

[en107rn.01056yahoo.01056com.01056sg]

Just say that the teacher might be exceptionally busy on that day and forget to ask the questions.


But personally, is your child sensitive to an innocent remarks at home? Any physical discomfort due to sensitivities?

[barney]

Thanks to all for your replies.


lovekidsverymuch
She's in P2 this year and has the same form teacher as last year and as what Andaiz has mentioned, she said the teacher would ask her other classmates when they returned to school after reporting sick, so why did the teacher missed her out now?

Dd is reserved in class, (maybe this is hereditary as I was labelled shy in school during my time) and my grown up nieces have all told me she's matured for her age, in terms of her thinking and speech. I'm not sure if this is due to the fact that she's an only child but I do feel a tinge of sadness when she told me she felt like she's invisible to her teacher.

I did try to tell her not to worry about such stuff and hope she'll forget all about this quickly. She does enjoy primary school alot and is happy to go to school. Maybe I myself is being overly sensitive over this? :oops: It's not easy to be a teacher nowadays, need to ensure consistency, if not the comparison will go on and on.

[barney]

EN:

Just say that the teacher might be exceptionally busy on that day and forget to ask the questions.


But personally, is your child sensitive to an innocent remarks at home? Any physical discomfort due to sensitivities?

That's what I did and told her it's a small matter. She's generally a happy kid but mature for her age. I still remember 2 years back when she was in K2 and heard about the Mas Selamat escape news, she couldn't sleep in the night, fearing that he might come to our block and blow up the house, requested me to stay up with her the whole night in the living room with lights on. I had a hard time convincing her we are safe and both of us need to sleep to carry on with our activities the next day. So I don't know if she should be labelled as sensitive or \"worrisome\" kid.

[en107rn.01056yahoo.01056com.01056sg]

Better not to label. Unless she cries almost daily over whatever insignificant issues.

[2ppaamm]

Hi Barney,


Is your child a HSP? Highly sensitive person? Normally very intelligent also, because they are sensitive. A HSC (Child) will grow up a HSP. 20% of our population will fit into this 'category'. May be good to check it out. Here's a link about such people. http://www.highlysensitivepeople.com/

More relevant to a child: http://www.hsperson.com/pages/child.htm

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=04gnoReKgD4

One key point is that you must give a HSC less activity, and the punishment must be gentler. Go check it out.

[912mum]

Hi Barney,


I wonder if you have tried to empathize with your child instead of writing off her worries/anxieties etc?

By telling her stuff like the teacher is busy etc, you might actually be invalidating her feelings. You might want to try to accept her feelings and ask her how or what does she think she would want to do about the situation? Talk about her role in it and also her teacher’s role… and maybe your role too. Brainstorm for ideas, no matter how silly. Try to work out a possible solution together with her. The idea is to get her to be proactive. While to many, the teacher not asking might be a small matter, it might be important to her. Get her to see that there might be a way out and she has a part in it too.

As to the Mas selemat issue, I remembered when my no 2 was in P2, she was afraid of being kidnapped (after watching a show on TV). I told her that it won’t happen, that we always locked the door, etc etc. Still, she’s scared. In the end, I worked it out with her with possible scenarios… like what she can do to prevent it from happening, what she would do if it happened etc etc. By working out solutions with her, she felt more in control and that she knew what the worst case scenarios were.

Hope this helps!