2014 PSLE Discussions and Strategy

[sharonkhoo]

True. I have tried to discipline myself to ask "How was your day?" and "Anything interesting happen today?" first, before checking up on performance and grades. It took a while to instil the habit!

[janet88]

slmkhoo:

True. I have tried to discipline myself to ask \"How was your day?\" and \"Anything interesting happen today?\" first, before checking up on performance and grades. It took a while to instil the habit!

Personally, I feel that what's done is done...asking a child how he/she fared is pointless. Actually you will roughly know based on their appearance. Usually I will say, hooray, 1 paper down...xxx more to go.

[MMM]

slmkhoo:

True. I have tried to discipline myself to ask \"How was your day?\" and \"Anything interesting happen today?\" first, before checking up on performance and grades. It took a while to instil the habit!

I usually fall into the \"trap\" of asking Do you have homework today?, How much did you get?, How was the paper? Especially when it's near results release period.

During PTM, dd1's FT told us to avoid asking such questions as he trust the kids will be discipline to manage their own homework. He said try asking \"what did you learn in school today?\"

Sometimes, we will also talk about \"funny\" incidents\" that happened in school today. eg. silly things that someone did.

[ngl2010]

janet_lee88:

slmkhoo:

True. I have tried to discipline myself to ask \"How was your day?\" and \"Anything interesting happen today?\" first, before checking up on performance and grades. It took a while to instil the habit!

Personally, I feel that what's done is done...asking a child how he/she fared is pointless. Actually you will roughly know based on their appearance. Usually I will say, hooray, 1 paper down...xxx more to go.

I think it is good to have reflection after get back the test paper. Not scolding. Not blaming. Reflection. What had gone wrong and how he/she thinks can be better. If no reflection, how to improve?

[sleepy]

I dont care, will ask about exam right away. But my kids will tease me and ask me what i want to hear?


And they rattle on about what happened in school regardless whether I'm paying attention or not

[Mumflower]

sleepy:

I dont care, will ask about exam right away. But my kids will tease me and ask me what i want to hear?


And they rattle on about what happened in school regardless whether I'm paying attention or not

:rotflmao: ... i dont care too. she is numb already, sometimes she will tell me before i start to ask...

[janet88]

I don’t ask how they fared…when they get their results, they will automatically tell me. If they did very well, I get SMS from them, after asking the teacher if they can go to the toilet. Daughter is very frank…when she thinks she didn’t do well, she will tell me. But knowing she is weak, I don’t want to scold or give her pressure.

[mum2girls]

My two girls will usually tell me about their results regardless good or bad. They will also let me know if they are being scolded by teachers. They ever asked me why didn’t I scold them when they didn’t do well. I have told them that if they didn’t do well, then they have to ask themselves whether they have put in enough effort in their preparation? To me, as long as their attitude is right and they have already tried their best, that is good enough.


In fact, I have never reward them for getting a good result. They already knew that they are going for a short trip this Dec. I am more particular about their character and attitude. They know that very well and I must say that the two girls are very responsible. They do everything by themselves, finish their homeworks, learn their spelling, bring the circular out for me to sign and so on.

[bebe]

My first question to my kids when they come home from school/tuition is "How’s your day? Wanna eat anything?"

I dont ask how they fare for their exam papers or about their marks…what’s done has been done. Anyway I can tell how they did for their exam by their body language. If papers are okay, they will come to me automatically and tell me. If they think they did badly, they will keep quiet and head straight to their rooms or bathroom. The scolding and praising will only come in after I have seen their actual papers.

These few days my PSLE gal came home looking very tired, possibly due to the weather. Currently I am going easy with her revision and let her revise herself at her own pace…she still has school homework, so priority is to complete the homework (usually before dinner time). She will schedule at least 1-1.5 hour of revision before 10pm (usually reading science notes or revising her past year exam papers which she did previously). Occasionally, I will remind her not to spend too much time on one subject at the expense of the others. We have cut down TV time to to 30 min per day and she also automatically foregoes her nap time. I still borrow books and let her read leisurely everyday. I can see her putting efforts and wanting to do her best for this exam. For that, I think she already deserved an A* in my heart. I secretly took snapshots of her studying for her exam. Whatever PSLE results she obtained. I am going to use those pictures to remind myself that she did put in her effort.

[janet88]

bebe:

She will schedule at least 1-1.5 hour of revision before 10pm (usually reading science notes or revising her past year exam papers which she did previously). Occasionally, I will remind her not to spend too much time on one subject at the expense of the others. We have cut down TV time to to 30 min per day and she also automatically foregoes her nap time. I still borrow books and let her read leisurely everyday. I can see her putting efforts and wanting to do her best for this exam. For that, I think she already deserved an A* in my heart. I secretly took snapshots of her studying for her exam. Whatever PSLE results she obtained. I am going to use those pictures to remind myself that she did put in her effort.

your daughter is really mature to know how to schedule her revision.
as a mum reading this, I would give her an A* for her effort too.
she deserves a hug and pat.
maybe you can ask her to take cat nap...it can be very tiring for a whole day of studying and homework...15 min to rest her eyes and brain would be helpful.