All About Autism

[Couragemom]

Hi ImMeeMee,


I had the same experience as Slmkhoo’s older daughter. My son’s baseline behaviour didn’t change or worsen after his Mmr jab. If you feel uncomfortable letting your daughter take the jab and her school doesn’t insist as part of their administrative process, you may consider opting out until later?

[tyeogh]

Hi ImMeeMee

My 3 NT kids took MMR and nothing happened. My last kid was about to take MMR when he was struck with chicken pox. At about the same time, we noticed the ASD traits. So, yes, if we had an option, we will opt not to have chicken pox. :rotflmao:

I like what Couragemom wrote about exercising your choice. Nobody on planet earth can force your child to take MMR if you are against it.

[tyeogh]

alibaba:

Hi parents,

I have little knowledge on autism. My boy is suspected to be autistic by the doctors & recommend me to go for the assessment. But I didn't. I asked a few parents who put their kids for it & their feedback are the assessment confirmed their kids as autistic but it does not indicate how severe is the child's conditions. To me, I see my boy as normal but with development delays (maybe 1yr) as compared to his peer. All the lacked skills for his appropriate age seems to be overcome subsequently when he is much older.
The major doctor merely got my child to do the same thing (which he already knew how to do it at much younger age), to write A-Z & draws some lines on both appointments (about 6 months apart). She even asked me if I have ever cross my mind to consider pathlight school! I suppose such school should reserve for those who need it more?! The main issue is his social skill as addressed by the professionals. My only concern is my child be bullied or taken advantage of by others as he is a kind being.
Any parents here have similar issue as me?
My question is - how will labeling the child helps?

Why see a doctor when you do not trust his recommendation? I am not sure if any forum-er here is more qualified than a doctor but good luck on your search

[tyeogh]

ImMeeMee:

tyeogh


My daughter in Pathlight School does not take Chinese in school. My two NT gals take higher Chinese in their primary school.

My take is this. If the child has learning issues and is struggling with the language, then there is no point pushing the child with two languages. The priority is for the individual to be communicative to enable daily functioning.

However, if the child is well able and the excuses for wanting exemption from mother tongue are that 'its a waste of time' and 'not interested', then I think its quite regrettable that there are people abusing the system that MOE has put in place out of good intentions.

JMHO.

I am persuaded. Thank you

[tyeogh]

tyeogh:

Why see a doctor when you do not trust his recommendation? I am not sure if any forum-er here is more qualified than a doctor but good luck on your search

Hang on. Changed my mind. slmkhoo seems to know everything. She may be a doctor in addition to being this thread's resident aunt agony, Wikipedia, coach, counsellor, witch doctor, oracle. She has answers for almost everything

Try asking her if Neo is the One who will save us from the Matrix....

[alibaba]

tyeogh:

alibaba:

Hi parents,

I have little knowledge on autism. My boy is suspected to be autistic by the doctors & recommend me to go for the assessment. But I didn't. I asked a few parents who put their kids for it & their feedback are the assessment confirmed their kids as autistic but it does not indicate how severe is the child's conditions. To me, I see my boy as normal but with development delays (maybe 1yr) as compared to his peer. All the lacked skills for his appropriate age seems to be overcome subsequently when he is much older.
The major doctor merely got my child to do the same thing (which he already knew how to do it at much younger age), to write A-Z & draws some lines on both appointments (about 6 months apart). She even asked me if I have ever cross my mind to consider pathlight school! I suppose such school should reserve for those who need it more?! The main issue is his social skill as addressed by the professionals. My only concern is my child be bullied or taken advantage of by others as he is a kind being.
Any parents here have similar issue as me?
My question is - how will labeling the child helps?

Why see a doctor when you do not trust his recommendation? I am not sure if any forum-er here is more qualified than a doctor but good luck on your search

A GP refers my boy for hyperactive. But was later suspect for autism traits.
Frankly speaking, I do not see my boy autistic not hyperactive. The GP persuaded me to seek attention early. So I just go with the flow but finds it ridiculous that the professionals keep asking what is my concern which I do not have.

[alibaba]

slmkhoo:

alibaba:

My question is - how will labeling the child helps?

My view is that it doesn't unless you need it for something like school admission, funded therapy etc. My daughter (now 17yo) had some ASD traits which we noticed even when she was quite young, but we just dealt with them as they occurred. Like you with your child, we found that she was a late developer in many ways, but would more or less catch up later after we spent time helping her. We did 'therapy' without seeking a diagnosis or professional help. It worked for us, and may work for others who have the time and confidence/pig-headedness to try it, but that route is not for everyone. She has always been in mainstream school, struggling somewhat in many ways, but generally keeping up. We don't set high expectations, which probably has made it possible for her to manage. We only had her diagnosed at 14yo because teachers became less willing to accommodate her without a definitive diagnosis. But I do stress that this is only for those willing to take the risk of not availing themselves of professional help.

Thanks for the info. But sounds like sooner or later I will have to face the assessment if it is autism.
I thought it is normal for a boy to progress slower... Recently, my 6yo starts his curiosity phase & asks many whys. I believe it is milestone for age of 4-5yo. To me, it is slow but at least on the track.
From what I know, autism can't be cured but can be overcome. One will learnt to realise 'things work this way' & will gradually adjustment oneself to accommodate such way.

[sharonkhoo]

tyeogh:

tyeogh:

Why see a doctor when you do not trust his recommendation? I am not sure if any forum-er here is more qualified than a doctor but good luck on your search

Hang on. Changed my mind. slmkhoo seems to know everything. She may be a doctor in addition to being this thread's resident aunt agony, Wikipedia, coach, counsellor, witch doctor, oracle. She has answers for almost everything

Try asking her if Neo is the One who will save us from the Matrix....

Sorry, no idea what you are talking about... oracle failed!

No, I am not a doctor, nor am I trying to diagnose anyone's kid or recommend treatment. I just gave my opinion in answer to the question if labelling helps. I don't expect everyone to agree, but I think it's useful to have a range of opinions.

[sharonkhoo]

alibaba:

Thanks for the info. But sounds like sooner or later I will have to face the assessment if it is autism.

I thought it is normal for a boy to progress slower... Recently, my 6yo starts his curiosity phase & asks many whys. I believe it is milestone for age of 4-5yo. To me, it is slow but at least on the track.
From what I know, autism can't be cured but can be overcome. One will learnt to realise 'things work this way' & will gradually adjustment oneself to accommodate such way.

Yes, at some point, if it is ASD, you will probably need some kind of diagnosis if you want your child to be given some accommodations in school or to get some kind of professional therapy. For us, it was when my daughter was 14yo. Others will choose differently. And yes, all of us parents try to help our kids figure out their way to manage in the world of school, social life etc. Some will cope better than others.

[ImMeeMee]

Thanks parents.


Guess I need to get a grip on myself rather than be consumed by unwarranted fears. Of course, vaccination was a non-event for my two elder NT gals, but when it comes to my youngest one, I have always had - sometimes - irrational fears.