All About Autism

[Couragemom]

Hi Slmkhoo,


Yes, not all of my son’s girl classmates are ‘friendly’. There was a past incident when my son wanted to play choo-choo train with this same girl (he held on to her shoulders) and she got angry too but the teacher intervened in time. I guess a more socially aware child will know how to avoid invading this friend’s personal space again but not my darling son lor.

[sharonkhoo]

Couragemom:

Hi Slmkhoo,


Yes, not all of my son's girl classmates are 'friendly'. There was a past incident when my son wanted to play choo-choo train with this same girl (he held on to her shoulders) and she got angry too but the teacher intervened in time. I guess a more socially aware child will know how to avoid invading this friend's personal space again but not my darling son lor.

Social stories would probably help. Do one about initiating conversations/play/games with positive response, one with a negative response, and highlight how to tell whether the other person is reacting positively or negatively. Maybe have one where he moderates the activity but they still continue to play (eg. he offers a hug but is repulsed, so he takes her hand, and they play happily). You may also want to have one about keeping a certain distance so as not to invade the other person's personal space for those who need it. Yes, if they could do it intuitively, we wouldn't be discussing it! Don't worry, with time and teaching, they will learn how to handle such situations.

[Double E]

Couragemom:

Hi Slmkhoo,


Yes, not all of my son's girl classmates are 'friendly'. There was a past incident when my son wanted to play choo-choo train with this same girl (he held on to her shoulders) and she got angry too but the teacher intervened in time. I guess a more socially aware child will know how to avoid invading this friend's personal space again but not my darling son lor.

Couragemom, I feel you. My son too doesn't understand the meaning of giving personal spaces. Sometimes he will lean very close to his friends when talking to them or he will go touch a girl's hair or face. I will pull him away whenever he does that before the other party cry or gets angry. I also tried to demonstrate to him what he should do when his friends do not want his advances or when he approaches someone to play and the person say no. This is very hard to teach as different situations can arise and we are not able to anticipate all of them. He will be puzzled too cos when he made these advances to his sister, he is reciprocated but not his friends. I am still trying to teach him but at least for now, he has stopped touching this girl in his class after my numerous scolding and reminders. But like you said, if is easy for our kids to understand, we won't be in this thread.

[acrylical]

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Came across this article. This is good stuff. For those parents considering no 2 or even for our ASD kids next time when they hv kids.

Hope they hv more breakthrough in science for ASD.

[tyeogh]

Eyesight:


For those who are fussy about maintaining good eyesight for your child. I am.

My P1 NT son went for an eye check up in his school recently. He was given a 6/12P score. The school fixed an appointment for him with HPB Child Care department. Turns out to be 6/9 instead. From there I discovered a few things. For those who are keen.

6/6, 6/9, 6/12: All these scores refer to size of the alphabets being read. When the line is read out partially, the P appears after the score. Perfect eyesight is 6/6.

I asked the attending doctor how to improve eyesight.

1. Do not do near work for more than 30 mins. After 30 mins, go to the window to look at something far. Then it balances the near and far vision.

2. Read with good lighting.

3. More outdoor play. In outdoor play, one seldom strain ones eyes to look at near objects.

I wrote in this thread once how the playground helped my ASD child gain consciousness of his surroundings. Seems that every health care professional points us back to the playground.

So I ordered my 4 kids back to the playground everyday at 6pm…

[mashy]

tyeogh:

Hi ImMeeMee

My 3 NT kids took MMR and nothing happened. My last kid was about to take MMR when he was struck with chicken pox. At about the same time, we noticed the ASD traits. So, yes, if we had an option, we will opt not to have chicken pox. :rotflmao:

I like what Couragemom wrote about exercising your choice. Nobody on planet earth can force your child to take MMR if you are against it.

Measles jab is mandatory in Singapore. U can opt to take the 3 jabs separately or wait till your child is older. I waited until HPB sent me warning letter that if I still don't send, I might get fined. Lol.

[mashy]

alibaba:

Hi parents,

I have little knowledge on autism. My boy is suspected to be autistic by the doctors & recommend me to go for the assessment. But I didn't. I asked a few parents who put their kids for it & their feedback are the assessment confirmed their kids as autistic but it does not indicate how severe is the child's conditions. To me, I see my boy as normal but with development delays (maybe 1yr) as compared to his peer. All the lacked skills for his appropriate age seems to be overcome subsequently when he is much older.
The major doctor merely got my child to do the same thing (which he already knew how to do it at much younger age), to write A-Z & draws some lines on both appointments (about 6 months apart). She even asked me if I have ever cross my mind to consider pathlight school! I suppose such school should reserve for those who need it more?! The main issue is his social skill as addressed by the professionals. My only concern is my child be bullied or taken advantage of by others as he is a kind being.
Any parents here have similar issue as me?
My question is - how will labeling the child helps?

I think it brings closure. U stop wondering what's wrong with my kid.

Even with assessment, you can choose whether or not to divulge it to the school. If u don't wish to, they will not know. But with an assessment, it can help teachers on how to manage your child rather than complaining about your child's behavior. I find it beneficial for my son coz even when he does absurd stuff in school, I don't get called up. His teachers are also more understanding.

[Couragemom]

Hi Mashy,


Great to see you post on the thread again! You MIA for awhile and I thought I won’t ‘see’ you here again.

Hi parents,

So happy to announce that my son can properly hold a cup and drink from it without spilling and choking on the water. Haiz… Happy with tinge of sadness about how something we take for granted for our NT kid become a milestone celebration for our special darlings.

My next target - getting my son to rinse and spit out the water during brush teeth time. He tried to imitate his sister but he cannot spit out but swallow the water instead. Any advice?

[mashy]

Couragemom:

Hi Mashy,


Great to see you post on the thread again! You MIA for awhile and I thought I won't 'see' you here again.

Hi parents,

So happy to announce that my son can properly hold a cup and drink from it without spilling and choking on the water. Haiz... Happy with tinge of sadness about how something we take for granted for our NT kid become a milestone celebration for our special darlings.

My next target - getting my son to rinse and spit out the water during brush teeth time. He tried to imitate his sister but he cannot spit out but swallow the water instead. Any advice?

Hi courage mom
Haha. Ya, been a pretty long time away.

Try spitting game? Give him a target to spit at. Like paste a sticker in the sink and get him to spit onto it. Can he blow bubbles?