Club SAHM

[buds]

Heyya there tanglin! Welcome to Club SAHM.

I've been SAHM for quite awhile..... almost 8-ish
years. I have the usual kakis i hang out with for
makan outings, holiday outings and shopping....

There are playdate friends and then there are also
old colleagues & ex-school buddies as well... While
friends are aplenty, true friends are rare...

Those that can go the thick and thin with ya... & the
ones that can go no-holds barred kinda conversation
about every thing under the sun and this same friends
are the non-judgmental kind... :hugs: Thank god for such
true friends & i'm blessed with the few rare-gem-of-a-friend,
that are almost like family to me. Having physical friends helps
us SAHMs be current... be interesting... helps us off-load and break
away from the day's routine... and definitely help us keep up with the
adult dictionary.

I find SAHM trends are not really declining cause where i live there are
quite a handful whom i hang out with while waiting for our children and
some even form their own badminton groups and gym days together....

It is important to have a life out of this SAHM life. Cause sometimes for
some of us, we can get too involved.. revolving around our children & our
family until we forget to be evolving with the rest out there. I have found
out the hard way, that to be a happy and successful SAHM is not just to
centre my life around my family but to start with being happy myself and
doing stuff that makes me happy... so that i too can exude the same
happiness to all others around me. While things are starting to look
up for me a bit these days, i'm still trying to evolve.. :hugs:

Other than ME time... i truly find couple time is also as important.
Fussing around the family all the time with meals... homework.....
isn't really 'spending time' after a while... It becomes routine. And
with all other routines, it becomes stagnantly boring.. We try to
break away from such routines by having the occasional movie nite..
game nites.. or having dinner outside and some window shopping....

I believe a happy me, will make a happy mommy and a happy wifey..
These days, i'm adjusting to putting myself first before others for i have
taken care so much for others that i have unnoticably forgotten to take
care of myself.. So, me myself and i... 1st! Hahaa! :lol:

I'm still trying to get there...

I'm learning from everyone here.. :snuggles:

Ya guys pitch in, yah! What makes YOU happy?
YOU as in yourself and not the SAHM-you okie?

[dnbll]

buds:

Ya guys pitch in, yah! What makes YOU happy?

YOU as in yourself and not the SAHM-you okie?

This is a good question, buds. And it's taking me a while to think of the answer. Somehow, i get the feeling that i don't know the \"me\" anymore; like i've shed off being me, put on hold temporarily, and when i try to, i can't find my way back. Has anyone here among the mummies felt the same way?

I love being with my kids, no question about it; but sometimes, things just can be too routine.

Having kids totally alters parents' lives - priorities are changed or dropped altogether to make for new ones; goals are reset; focus is put more on the future of the little ones. And these are all good, because we as parents learn to adapt and prepare for what lies ahead. We learn to be selfless.

I guess parents would naturally place all their attention to their very young and dependent offsprings and think less of themselves (the parents) or their wants. And am guessing, too, that as the children grow and learn to take care of themselves, the parents would, little by little, think of their own selves again. Or, at least, that's what i hope for Like, now, take care of my toddlers first; later on, when they've grown up a bit, then i can pursue whatever i've missed out on or put on hold. Hmmm...there's a time and a season for every thing

To come back to the question...for now, at the moment, here's what i want: to have a day/night out with my girl friends - get dressed up (dump the houseclothes), watch a chick flick (and drool over the sexy hunk actor ) or any feel-good movie, share and talk about everything and nothing (including gossip, maybe?), over a cup (or cups) of coffee (and cake, of course!). Oh, well!


Thanks, buds, for such an insightful question! Hoping to hear the answers from other mummies as well.

[jedamum]

dnbll:

Somehow, i get the feeling that i don't know the \"me\" anymore; like i've shed off being me, put on hold temporarily, and when i try to, i can't find my way back. Has anyone here among the mummies felt the same way?

hm...for me, i feel that being a mum and SAHM is what i have been wanting all along. i'm not very sociable, disheartened at times at how some people can treat each other (in an office setting), so much so that i enjoy holing up in a world comprising only of my husband and my kids. :!:
i know it is not healthy, but i can't help it. :oops:

[HappyAvon]

jedamum:

dnbll:

Somehow, i get the feeling that i don't know the \"me\" anymore; like i've shed off being me, put on hold temporarily, and when i try to, i can't find my way back. Has anyone here among the mummies felt the same way?

hm...for me, i feel that being a mum and SAHM is what i have been wanting all along. i'm not very sociable, disheartened at times at how some people can treat each other (in an office setting), so much so that i enjoy holing up in a world comprising only of my husband and my kids. :!:
i know it is not healthy, but i can't help it. :oops:

Dear Jedamum

After working in an MNC and holding a managerial post for years, I have decided to quit the workforce....and spending more time with my only princess...DH is fully supportive and in fact is the one who asked me to leave...Like u said, its very sad to see ppl in the office fighting for authority and playing politics everyday..when u think about it, life should not be just like this...i feel its very meaningless and tiring to be facing pple with a \"mask\"....I am only able to declare a SAHM in 2 months time...I really look forward to it cos i know it will be a completely different journey in life....

[jedamum]

HappyAvon:

I really look forward to it cos i know it will be a completely different journey in life....

am sure you will enjoy it.
welcome onboard.

[outsider]

welcome to the SAHM family

[auntieM]

jedamum:

dnbll:

Somehow, i get the feeling that i don't know the \"me\" anymore; like i've shed off being me, put on hold temporarily, and when i try to, i can't find my way back. Has anyone here among the mummies felt the same way?

hm...for me, i feel that being a mum and SAHM is what i have been wanting all along. i'm not very sociable, disheartened at times at how some people can treat each other (in an office setting), so much so that i enjoy holing up in a world comprising only of my husband and my kids. :!:
i know it is not healthy, but i can't help it. :oops:

A little same same here....
It was tough the first couple of years, now things are quite relax for me

[HappyAvon]

Hello Jedamum and Outsider,


yeah....I believe I will know how to enjoy it.. My girl was born prematured and it was really a difficult pregnancy which i had never enjoyed...Even confinement days were spent visiting the hospital everyday....She is now in K1 -4 yrs+ and I feel its time for me to really accompany her through her growing years..providing her the guidance and nurturing her....Thanks for the welcome msg.....I feel so good.. :rahrah:

[auntieM]

HappyAvon,

My DS was also a premie… must have been tough and heart wrenching the initial months…

[HappyAvon]

auntieM:

HappyAvon,

My DS was also a premie... must have been tough and heart wrenching the initial months...

Hi auntieM, how old is your DS now....my dear DD was born at 32 weeks and was only 1.43 kg...I believe u understand that its really not easy to look after a premie....so many issues to tackle and was really mentally stressed at that time....My DD was born in SGH and they had a light weight club for these children....Every year, the hospital will have a LWC party where they will invite the children there...We brought her there almost every year and we tell her about premature babies....She has 2 small little baby toys and she will always tell me these 2 babies are twin and they are premature.... :shock: