My girl acts dumb in class but is a smart alec at home

[tutormum]

I have a student who acts like that. She did better for Chinese cos she liked the subject. Other than that, she did badly in school and is in the worst class. She is actually very intelligent from her mannerism and conduct. From my experience as a tutor, there is nothing wrong with her and she has no learning disabilities. She is just plain lazy to do any work and refuses to learn anything unless she is forced to. There's no way one can sweet talk her to do any work and she would lie her way out. I can spend hours upon hours teaching her a concept and she will forget how to do it after a while. :x :x She can't even get the words correct when copying answers to fill in the blanks. She was in P4 last year but couldn't even do P3 work. :roll: There was once when I was very :frustrated: :frustrated: and she got the cheek to say that I shouldn't expect her to do as well as my DS3. I was :!: :!: and told her that I didn't even expect that cos she didn't have 10% of DS3. :x :x In the end, her parents and I agreed that it all boils down to her bad attitude and there's nothing we could do.

[on_plus_kiasu]

Hmm... Can't comment about her attitude in school as the teachers have said little to me and has only complained about her not responding to their questions. I know she is not afraid of her teachers as she is always cheerful after class and likes to go to school. Although I admit she chooses her playmates and helps her playmates rather than doing her own stuff. Other than that, I'm :?.

My DD1 and DD2 are both very noisy at home but are the quietest whenever we are around other people even relatives. They rarely shout or make any noise and its usually more of me shouting for them to stop running or climbing. Are they considered shy? I :stupid: on what to do....
:?:

[tamarind]

on_plus_kiasu:

Hmm... Can't comment about her attitude in school as the teachers have said little to me and has only complained about her not responding to their questions. I know she is not afraid of her teachers as she is always cheerful after class and likes to go to school. Although I admit she chooses her playmates and helps her playmates rather than doing her own stuff. Other than that, I'm :?.

My DD1 and DD2 are both very noisy at home but are the quietest whenever we are around other people even relatives. They rarely shout or make any noise and its usually more of me shouting for them to stop running or climbing. Are they considered shy? I :stupid: on what to do....
:?:

I don't think you should worry at all.

My kids talk non-stop at home. When in kindergarten/school, they also don't like to talk to their teachers. Teachers often comment that they are very quiet.

I think some kids, especially girls, prefer not to attract attention. They prefer to observe others quietly.

I simply ignore the teacher's feedback. I feel that if a child does not feel comfortable to talk, then it is OK that he/she does not talk.

At the end of K2, my girl performed her song and dance in front of hundreds of people during the graduation concert. She was the lead singer and she showed no signs of fear. She was so confident.

We should just let kids be the way that they like, so long as they are not mis-behaving, it is fine.

[Leia vader]

My k2 son also hyper active at home, but quiet in school.


I worry his shyness may be a problem when he goes to p1.

any parents can share their experience?

[tamarind]

My girl is now in P1. I spoke to her form teacher before. The teacher complains that other children are very noisy and naughty, and she appreciates the fact that my girl is quiet and does not disturb others


In P1, the class size is about 30, teachers actually like students who are quiet.

[pinkapple]

tamarind:

In P1, the class size is about 30, teachers actually like students who are quiet.

teacher here can testify to that.

[pinkapple]

tutormum:

... From my experience as a tutor, there is nothing wrong with her and she has no learning disabilities. She is just plain lazy to do any work and refuses to learn anything unless she is forced to. ... In the end, her parents and I agreed that it all boils down to her bad attitude and there's nothing we could do.

maybe some1 should classify laziness as a learning disability/ disorder...

[hquek]

pinkapple:

tamarind:

In P1, the class size is about 30, teachers actually like students who are quiet.

teacher here can testify to that.

But DS1's teacher say that he is quiet in class and hopes that he can come out to talk more :? Sometimes I dunno what they want.....talk too much, complain; talk too little, got comment. Maybe they just run out of words to say....

[Bowie]

Don worry so muc, noisy or quiet is subject to different people interpretation and preference.


My gal, nursary this year, was complimented by her form teacher as \"responsive\", \"keen to learn\" and \"proactive\" in class. LAST YEAR.

THIS year, just a few days after the term starts her new form teacher commented to my in laws that my gal is \"talkative\", \"noisy\" and \"too active\" :?

Guess different teachers have different preference too. Some like more responsive students some like more quiet learning environment. As long as they learn well and are happy in school. I think things should be ok.

[on_plus_kiasu]

[quote]Guess different teachers have different preference too. Some like more responsive students some like more quiet learning environment. As long as they learn well and are happy in school. I think things should be ok. [/quote]
Thanks Bowie, I think my DD is okay because after asking around with the other parents in her class, everyone exept for one had good remarks. The only one that had good remarks was a very responsive and vocal student. So I guess, the teacher expects alot from the kids.
[quote]We should just let kids be the way that they like, so long as they are not mis-behaving, it is fine.[/quote]Yup, I really like the way you put it. I've been hanging back on my lessons with my 2 DDs because they are in school. But after this report, I find nothing beats Mum's lessons. I know my 2 DDs progress than rely on DD's playgroup teacher.

Thanks all.... :celebrate: