All About Autism
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Hi parents, need your advice!
My cousin’s boy is now 14 years old and was diagnosed with Asperger’s. He did his PSLE (I think he took Foundation subjects) at Pathlight in 2013 and was very happy there. However, the school arranged for him to attend secondary school at Pierce (satellite partner) and he was told he had to attend full-day lessons (previously he had only 2 hour lessons daily).
My cousin pulled him out of school as there would only be 1 aided teacher who will be managing a small group of them. They were worried that:
- he cannot take more than 2 hours lessons
- there is no one to manage him if he has a meltdown (no minders)
- he has to mingle with other kids during recess
- they are afraid that he would be bullied (as in previous cases) as other kids would not understand why he is anti-social & can react negatively to their touch (he is sensitive to this).
I’m worried as he is now NOT attending school - just staying at home all day. Where can he go? Should he take private courses?
Thanks so much for your kind advice! -
CatMoon:
CatMoonHi parents, need your advice!
My cousin's boy is now 14 years old and was diagnosed with Asperger's. He did his PSLE (I think he took Foundation subjects) at Pathlight in 2013 and was very happy there. However, the school arranged for him to attend secondary school at Pierce (satellite partner) and he was told he had to attend full-day lessons (previously he had only 2 hour lessons daily).
My cousin pulled him out of school as there would only be 1 aided teacher who will be managing a small group of them. They were worried that:
- he cannot take more than 2 hours lessons
- there is no one to manage him if he has a meltdown (no minders)
- he has to mingle with other kids during recess
- they are afraid that he would be bullied (as in previous cases) as other kids would not understand why he is anti-social & can react negatively to their touch (he is sensitive to this).
I'm worried as he is now NOT attending school - just staying at home all day. Where can he go? Should he take private courses?
Thanks so much for your kind advice!
My daughter is in PL primary section, so I do not have any experience on the secondary school section. Personally, I feel that PL's satellite model is a pretty good approach to help the kids blend into the mainstream environment, so wondering whether there is any chance of putting him into the environment and dealing with the issues, rather than pull him out altogether? If we dont try, we may never know.
JMHO -
ImMeeMee:
Thanks JMHO! Some parents have pm me with the same advice and I seriously do agree with you. I'm going to advise my cousin again to send her boy back (even though she and her husband are feeling so lost & discourage). I think it would be good for my nephew in the long term.
CatMoon
My daughter is in PL primary section, so I do not have any experience on the secondary school section. Personally, I feel that PL's satellite model is a pretty good approach to help the kids blend into the mainstream environment, so wondering whether there is any chance of putting him into the environment and dealing with the issues, rather than pull him out altogether? If we dont try, we may never know.
JMHO
Thanks once again to all the kind & sharing parents! -
CatMoon:
You may want to share this story with your cousin - my husband has an uncle, now in his late 50s, who seems to have Asperger's. I say \"seems\" because there was no such diagnosis or support available in his schooldays, so we are just drawing our own conclusions. According to my husband's older siblings, this uncle was always not very social, didn't manage well in school and often got bullied, and so his mother let him drop out of school around Sec 2. He tried several unskilled jobs but always had problems with his employers, and his mother eventually let him stay at home while she went out to work. Over the years, he got more and more withdrawn and helpless, and now just watches TV all day and doesn't talk to anyone other than his mother. With the better understanding and support which is available now but was unknown 50 yrs ago, I think the outcome could have been very different. Every time I see this uncle, I resolve that I will do my best not to let that happen to my daughter. Even though I know that coping with school, classmates and studies can be tough for her (and for us parents!), and transitioning to work will probably be even tougher, I will not let her just stay at home.
Thanks JMHO! Some parents have pm me with the same advice and I seriously do agree with you. I'm going to advise my cousin again to send her boy back (even though she and her husband are feeling so lost & discourage). I think it would be good for my nephew in the long term.ImMeeMee:
CatMoon
My daughter is in PL primary section, so I do not have any experience on the secondary school section. Personally, I feel that PL's satellite model is a pretty good approach to help the kids blend into the mainstream environment, so wondering whether there is any chance of putting him into the environment and dealing with the issues, rather than pull him out altogether? If we dont try, we may never know.
JMHO
Thanks once again to all the kind & sharing parents! -
Hi parents!
I just went to KK Hospital a few days ago to do a check up for my child who is currently 3 years old. He is suspected of developmental delay and autism. I would like to know if there are any good early intervention programmes out there for recommendation. Please help! Thank you all! -
Hi Susan tan,
For OT - KidzPotc and Hand-in-hand OTC
Speech - Leapfrogs
Social class - Ms Yitian at Delphi shopping centre. She is a speech therapist who specializes in social class.
Special education lesson - Leapfrogs
There is this mommy whom I met before whose daughter is in EIC, a private early intervention centre. It is super expensive but the program is quite well-run. Other private centres are zee house, the green room, St Gerald’s etc. All are expensive.
Good luck! -
slmkhoo:
You may want to share this story with your cousin - my husband has an uncle, now in his late 50s, who seems to have Asperger's. I say \"seems\" because there was no such diagnosis or support available in his schooldays, so we are just drawing our own conclusions. According to my husband's older siblings, this uncle was always not very social, didn't manage well in school and often got bullied, and so his mother let him drop out of school around Sec 2. He tried several unskilled jobs but always had problems with his employers, and his mother eventually let him stay at home while she went out to work. Over the years, he got more and more withdrawn and helpless, and now just watches TV all day and doesn't talk to anyone other than his mother. With the better understanding and support which is available now but was unknown 50 yrs ago, I think the outcome could have been very different. Every time I see this uncle, I resolve that I will do my best not to let that happen to my daughter. Even though I know that coping with school, classmates and studies can be tough for her (and for us parents!), and transitioning to work will probably be even tougher, I will not let her just stay at home.[/quote]Thank you for sharing this personal story, slmkhoo. I will share this with my cousin and her husband and the importance of planning for my nephew for the longer term so that he can grow and be the best that he can be.
Thanks JMHO! Some parents have pm me with the same advice and I seriously do agree with you. I'm going to advise my cousin again to send her boy back (even though she and her husband are feeling so lost & discourage). I think it would be good for my nephew in the long term.CatMoon:
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CatMoon
My daughter is in PL primary section, so I do not have any experience on the secondary school section. Personally, I feel that PL's satellite model is a pretty good approach to help the kids blend into the mainstream environment, so wondering whether there is any chance of putting him into the environment and dealing with the issues, rather than pull him out altogether? If we dont try, we may never know.
JMHO
Thanks once again to all the kind & sharing parents!
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Hi Susan!
I heard from a friend of mine that Olive Tree is having an open house and that they even provide free consultation with their therapists. They have an Early Intervention program with speech therapy and occupational therapy for children age 1 to 7yrs. You might want to consider bringing your child down. I am heading down with my son on 14th March to give it a try!
I’ve took a copy of their Open House details from their website http://www.olive-tree.sg. Hope that you find this useful!
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Hi all Daddy and Mummy,
Who can give some advices about the defer for P1?
My son is in K2 now. He has been in a mainstream childcare for 3 years. No behavior issues except easy to be nervous. So far, nobody suggest me defer him, but I felf his social awareness is low. Thinking about defer 1 year for P1. Sign! Really stressful. -
Niu2009:
Hi Niu2009,Hi all Daddy and Mummy,
Who can give some advices about the defer for P1?
My son is in K2 now. He has been in a mainstream childcare for 3 years. No behavior issues except easy to be nervous. So far, nobody suggest me defer him, but I felf his social awareness is low. Thinking about defer 1 year for P1. Sign! Really stressful.
I defer my son's entry to P1 last year. So, he is in mainstream P1 this year. For me, it was the obvious thing to do as he couldn't answer my questions even towards end of the year. Also, my maid and I had to shadow him up to K2.
To me, it was the best decision, given the condition of my son at that time. Spending the extra year wisely is very important. I did sonrise programme and Neurofeedback with him and all extra time went into teaching him (myself) and outdoors play.
Now that he is 8 but in P1, I am so glad that he has the extra time to mature and not seem more childish than his peers. I mean, I still find my son more childish than same age group.
I don't regret my choice. In fact, I am so happy that I applied for deferment. :boogie:
That is only my own decision based on the needs of my son. Just my own experiences.
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