All About Full-Time Maids

[hquek]

auntieM:

blurqueen:

Can we store the video at all times or we're only able to view it via internet? Was thinking of getting it if we move incase we change maids, don't wish maids to know of the 'new addition' to the home.

Good idea to keep it's location fro the maid
My friend's maid will 'block' the recording ...
She puts items right in front or rag over it, act blur when confronted.

If the maid knows she's being monitored, she is less likely to try something funny.

I think your friend has to address this with the maid. If it were me, I would tell the maid straight off that everytime she put items to block the view, I have to assume that she has something to hide and therefore will have to restrict her movements, her handphone (if there is) and search her things. Give her reason NOT to hide.

Hmmm, if there are video footages of her looking into the camera and smiling, honestly I would get a bit worried.

[Andaiz]

mummy of 2:

Just sent my maid back to the agency on Satirday. On Friday morning, FIL found a note with our address and Malay words outside our door. Initially we thought it was written by our maid and placed outside. We asked why she did that. She said it was not written by her. Then we asked who wrote the note and the contents. She refused to tell us. We felt it was freaky that someone would come in the middle of the night and leave a note for her outisde our house, so we decided to send her back to agency.


Took a transfer maid, this will be my third maid in less than 6 month. that this one will be ok.

mummy of 2....have you found out the content of the notes (assuming you still have it? :roll: ). Not sure if sending the maid back to the agent would solve any problem.

[mummy of 2]

FIL showed it to someone who can read Malay. I also showed it to the agent, who asked a maid to help translate. It says that her family miss her very much and want her to call home, and also asked for my telephone number.


I feel worried that the note-writer may come and look for her when we are out. Cos we do leave the maid at home alone when we go out. I also think it’s not right that she was not open with us. We kept asking her who wrote the note, and the contents. She refused to tell us.

Also she has not been much help. She has been with us for three months. Instead of improving, she’s regressing.

[Andaiz]

mummy of 2:

FIL showed it to someone who can read Malay. I also showed it to the agent, who asked a maid to help translate. It says that her family miss her very much and want her to call home, and also asked for my telephone number.


I feel worried that the note-writer may come and look for her when we are out. Cos we do leave the maid at home alone when we go out. I also think it's not right that she was not open with us. We kept asking her who wrote the note, and the contents. She refused to tell us.

Also she has not been much help. She has been with us for three months. Instead of improving, she's regressing.

:!: this person is IN TOUCH with your maid's family? Maybe it's a relative. I understand what you mean about being not totally open - makes it hard to talk to them, or trust them.

[hquek]

mummy of 2:

I feel worried that the note-writer may come and look for her when we are out. Cos we do leave the maid at home alone when we go out. I also think it's not right that she was not open with us. We kept asking her who wrote the note, and the contents. She refused to tell us.

Also she has not been much help. She has been with us for three months. Instead of improving, she's regressing.

If it's plain refusal to say, something not quite right. Good move lah. Esp if you have to leave her alone at times, it's scary if she's keeping things from you.

I think regressing may be in part due to her missing home. With ex-maid, a phone call home usually does the trick.

[mummy of 2]

When she was packing her bag, she mentioned that it’s from her cousin working in sg. This cousin had written a letter to her before. In fact that’s how I knew she had a cousin working here. When I received a letter addressed to her with sg return address, and asked who wrote to her.


If it’s really family emergency and need to contact her, I can understand but why come in the middle of the night and leave a note outside. It’s so sneaky.

She also requested to call her cousin. I told her she can do it at the agent. I do not know what her cousin will tell her and I do not want to take the risk.

[mummy of 2]

I allowed her to call home twice but each time she would cry. MIL didn’t like it and asked us not to let her call home. The ICC card was paid for by us as she had just started working with us when we first allowed her to call home. I also helped her post a letter home just last week.

[mummy of 2]

I was pretty freaked out by this and on Friday night I kept all the keys in the room, so she can’t open the door.

[hquek]

mummy of 2:

I allowed her to call home twice but each time she would cry. MIL didn't like it and asked us not to let her call home. The ICC card was paid for by us as she had just started working with us when we first allowed her to call home. I also helped her post a letter home just last week.

hmm, like that also I will be wary of having her call home. Curious, has she ever left home for long? So far, my maids only look very sad/depressed, but no crying lah. I just keep telling them to look to the future and imagine bringing home loads of cash....

[mummy of 2]

hquek:

mummy of 2:

I allowed her to call home twice but each time she would cry. MIL didn't like it and asked us not to let her call home. The ICC card was paid for by us as she had just started working with us when we first allowed her to call home. I also helped her post a letter home just last week.

hmm, like that also I will be wary of having her call home. Curious, has she ever left home for long? So far, my maids only look very sad/depressed, but no crying lah. I just keep telling them to look to the future and imagine bringing home loads of cash....

I think it's the first time she's away from home for so long. When she was packing, she told me she wanted to go back to Indonesia. She likes working for us and is worried the next employer is not nice. Told her to work hard then employer will be nice to her. She can't go home cos she still has outstanding loan. Actually quite poor thing but no choice, my family's safety is more impt. Just hiope she gets a decent employer and learn from this experience.