All About Full-Time Maids

[Coolkidsrock2]

I had an ex maid with experience in Indonesia. Not too bad. The household only have 1 maid so she has to do everything and the employer had high performance expectations.

[autumnbronze]

Fatmamalove, you have PM

[Snow24]

Hi Fatmamalove


Maids wearing employer’s clothes is undesirable behaviour.

My fren told me ex-hk and ex-taiwan maids are too used to the comfortable life over there.

It seemed experienced maids usually will not follow employer’s instruction and insist to do things their way.

Anyone can share how employer can go about to handle experienced maid who refused to follow employer’s instruction.

[krz]

Dear All

My pinoy maid has been with mi since sep 2013.
She would like to extend another 2yrs with mi.
I like to know, watz the norm for increments?
She was new when she joined mi, 502 (basic 450)+1off mthly.
My agent says an increase of 50.
500 + 4offs, is the norm.
appreciate some advice

[gumiho]

WP No. : 0 92844536

Name of Worker : MAY ZIN AUNG

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Out of goodwill, we give her the benefit of doubt and employed her despite the fact that she had changed 7 employers within 2 years and we (hopefully) are her last employer in Singapore.
Surprisingly, shouldn't MOM ban those domestic helper who had changed more than 3 employers per year ? Isn't the maid levy we had paid are for maintaining the quality of domestic helper ?

MAY ZIN AUNG is neither a pleasant nor hardworking person. Always finding easy way out. Quick-witted I would say, she can always find all sort of reason to support the mistake she had done. We understand they are from rural area and uneducated therefore we had always been very forgiving with them, we never blame them for the damage they had done (eg. broke the sword of \"Guan Yu\"....etc.) Unfortunately, she repay us with all her lies and bad attitude.
On her 3rd day of work with us, she came crying to us saying her father had passed on and wishes to return back to her hometown. Her agent stopped her, claiming that since she knew that her father was badly ill then why she still came to work in Singapore. After that she continue her employment with us for around 2 months then she came crying to us again saying her mother had admitted hospital and insisted in returning back to her hometown. Coincidentally, both incidents occur on a sunny Sunday afternoon and on her off day. We informed her agent and she rushed down to our place to clarify with MAY ZIN AUNG. According to the agent, all along she was lying because MAY ZIN AUNG do not want to repay the money (Est. S$1600) that she owed her agent. Her agent pleaded her to work for us for another 1 month so as to replay her loan but MAY ZIN AUNG refused. The agent threatened to send her to police station, surprisingly MAY ZIN AUNG was fearless and even threatened back the agent that if they insisted her to continue her employment with us she will just sit in our house and do NOTHING. We have 2 young children (9 & 5 years old), we cannot take the risk of her harming our children. I requested the agent to bring her back and purchased air ticket to send her back to her hometown.

During her stay with us, she was not a co-operative person. She do not follow our instruction, do everything her own way. Whenever we corrected her mistake she will talked back to us. Told her that our youngest one has eczema and has to bath twice a day than must apply moisturizer. Whenever my child asked her to help to shower she will claimed that she was extremely busy. According to my children she was always busy washing toilet or stay in the toilet most of the time. Our instruction was to wash the toilet only once a week. When I questioned her why didn't bath and apply moisturizer for the kids her answer to me will be,\" I had forgotton !\" After her departure and I had to take over the household chores then I discovered the mop was super filthy. The moment you dip the mop into clear clean water, the water immediately turn black. It took me 2 days to bleach and wash the mop. Every night busy messaging or playing her mobile phone then in the morning couldn't wake up, yet she still has the cheek to complain to us that every morning she has to wake up early. We, employer, woke up the same time (6am) as her yet always the last to sleep and she was behaving like a boss in our house.

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[sunny_side_up]

Can someone advice me…been v stressed over my maid lately. She is my first maid n has been with me 4 years since my no 1 born.she help take care of him and after that my no.2 , which is now 20months. Lately we scolded her cos she went to color her hair without asking us. This time was the most serious we have scolded her. After we simmer down we thought maybe jus let her be since she does her hw well (mine 3storey house) and she cooks dinner for us and look after my no 2 at hm alone. Then few days ago I realise she had cuts on her forearm. She said she used tweezer to scratch herself cos she was upset over the recent happenings. She say this is the first time and wun do it again.Now I dilemma duno will she harm my children or go crazy anot. I will be sending my no 2 to childcare in a weeks time.so she will be alone at home in the daytime then. she now behave normally after we express to her we not angry with her anymore. Before that she abit sian sian.

[Funz]

Why did you get angry because she coloured her hair and why does she need to ask you permission for colouring her hair?


I think I will make it clear to her that in no way will I want to see that kind of self mutilating behaviour again. If ever she tries that, she will be sent back. In the mean time, maybe you would want to go through with her again what she can and cannot do. But please be reasonable. It’s her hair afterall.

[sunny_side_up]

I think my idea of a maids image is short and black hair. Prev she refused to cut her hair after serving 2 years and we gave in after a few days of unhappiness.now this hair color further change her look. I guess I have to change my mentality Liao. Maids nowadays different fr last time Liao.

[lee_yl]

I think it’s time you consider replacing your maid. I had a maid who was excellent for the first 2 years but before her 3rd year was up, she was a changed person. She behaved as if she was the mistress of the house (so stressful that i stayed out to avoid seeing her) but i have to bear with it as both my kids were very close to her then. I also insisted all my previous maids to have short hair due to hygiene purposes, all accepted but showed a black face. Unless you really need this maid then you have no choice but to close one eye (or even close two eyes).

[zbear]

I will not make a fuss if my maid needs to color hair to hide her gray ones but if she color black hair to blond color, then I will be upset.