All About Autism

[sharonkhoo]

tyeogh:

I learnt a lesson. Do not belittle our aspie children. Just let go.

I've learnt that too. It may take a bit more prep (that's what I find comparing my kids), and can be a lot more nerve-wracking, but they can usually do it. They may get messed up more often, or take longer to figure things out, but they can generally manage if we let them.

[mashy]

slmkhoo:

tyeogh:

I learnt a lesson. Do not belittle our aspie children. Just let go.

I've learnt that too. It may take a bit more prep (that's what I find comparing my kids), and can be a lot more nerve-wracking, but they can usually do it. They may get messed up more often, or take longer to figure things out, but they can generally manage if we let them.

Mine wanted to take the school bus when he was p3. And that's coz he wanted to be on the school bus with a girl! Lol. We said no coz she is on a different route and so he left it at that.

[Niu2009]

I remembered some parents mentioned St Andew, is it a good school with AED support?

[Gifts from Heaven]

Snow24:

Hi Mashy


Thanks for sharing.

I think pack food for recess time is a good idea this will settle the unstructured part. Buying of food from the foodstall might be stressful for the child in the beginning as child need to queue up and wait, plan what food to buy, how to order , pay money.

Would the school teacher guide the child to line up at assembly area after recess as I not sure how the child will be able to know recess is over and he need to line up and go back to classroom.

On holding hands with another classmates 2 by 2 would be another headache as my child doesn't like to hold his classmates' hands when lining up in the childcare.

How to teach child to tell teachers he need go toliet

How do we facilitate and guide our child in the primary school if we are not allow to visit the primary school after the first day of school?

Anyone whose child in mainstream primary school in the classroom does the school teachers help to redirect your child to go back to his seat.

Hi Snow24,

Schools may differ in the way they handle P1 kids. So it would be better if you can try to find out how things work in your child's school and then you can prep him.
For recess, my boy still gets packed food at P2. He is resistant to buying his own food cos he said he don't know what the food is called and he don't know if the auntie can speak English (he is not v good in his spoken Chinese). In his school, they have student buddies in the first few days of school to show and guide P1s during recess. No PVs cos PVs all not free. When recess is over, form teachers will be near the canteen to tell them to go back to the canteen to line up. A teacher will also made an announcement through a mic in the canteen. So you just ask your kid not to stray too far from the canteen. Some teachers will tell their class to just sit in the canteen after eating for the first few weeks to prevent cases of 'lost' kids. Actually, like I shared before, you should prepare a script on the things he need to do during recess, step by step from the point the bell rings for start of recess until the point the bell rings for end of recess. Then drill him....everyday before going to school, you remind...after school, you reflect with him.
For toileting, I scripted for my boy to go and pee during recess after eating his food. In his school, teachers don't encourage kids to go to the toilet during lesson time, but if urgent, still can go. My kids usually won't want to go toilet unless it is really urgent. So toileting may not be a major concern. To prevent dressing mishap during toileting, I changed the metal buckle on his uniform pants to velcro. I put some toilet papers in his pocket everyday cos the toilets in his school only have toilet paper outside the toilet, not in the toilet cubicles. As for asking to go toilet during lesson time, my boy just walks straight to the teacher and request. He doesn't raise his hands. Teachers are fine with that since it doesn't happen often.
There is no need to hold hands when lining up. Some teachers may ask the kids to hold hands but they would not insist if the kid doesn't want. Anyway, my boy also don't like to hold hands with other kids. He only hold hands with me .
Compliance level in my boy is high so we don't have problems with him leaving at his seat in the midst of lessons.
Please share your kid's condition (including all his quirks) with his form teacher so that the teachers can be more understanding and keep a lookout for him as well. P1 teachers in my boy's school are usually quite kind. They do give the P1s quite a fair bit of leeway since they are still the 'babies' in pri school. Actually, I find that pre-school teachers are more demanding and expect a lot from the kids, esp the K2 ones.

[tyeogh]

mashy:

Mine wanted to take the school bus when he was p3. And that's coz he wanted to be on the school bus with a girl! Lol. We said no coz she is on a different route and so he left it at that.

Same lor. My then 4 y.o. aspie boy likes to take the school bus bec he gets to sit with a girl he likes. I was told he likes to hold her hand in school too. Hmmmm......

[mashy]

Gifts from Heaven:

Actually, I find that pre-school teachers are more demanding and expect a lot from the kids, esp the K2 ones.

I agree! In terms of the school work expected of them and their behaviour. I find my boy enjoyed primary school much more and improved a lot in primary school.

It could be the age, it could be the environment. I think primary school definitely benefited mine.

[tyeogh]

I now recall how my NT kids fared in P1. The eldest fell sick within a week. She could not adjust to the longer hours. The second one kept wetting her panties. She could not control it. A few times throughout the year. My third did not know how to buy food for months even though he was taught how to by the buddy system. He once came back with someone else’s shoes. Such should be common. Anything that can screw up will screw up. Messy bag, missing items, someone else’s items etc


NT does not mean super. Aspie does not mean lacking. Just perhaps a little slower. They both take time to learn, and the teachers are trained for it, imho.

[tyeogh]

Niu2009:

I remembered some parents mentioned St Andew, is it a good school with AED support?

Should be me ba. Can't tell you whether good school or not. My 3rd is in P2 there. They have 2 Allied Educators for Sped. My interactions with the AE were limited.

What I can say is compared to my daughters' primary school, St Andrews is super laid back. Play play school. They have a No More Than 1 Hour homework policy. I never saw my boy do any homework in P1. Seldom see him do 15 mins homework in P2.

Their focus is on Asthetics. Character development, sports, games, upbringing. Every other day is just P.E., games day, carnival. Everyday like having fun. You will never find St Andrews in the top 30 PSLE scorers. Suits me I suppose?

[sharonkhoo]

mashy:

Gifts from Heaven:

Actually, I find that pre-school teachers are more demanding and expect a lot from the kids, esp the K2 ones.

I agree! In terms of the school work expected of them and their behaviour. I find my boy enjoyed primary school much more and improved a lot in primary school.

It could be the age, it could be the environment. I think primary school definitely benefited mine.

Same here. My daughter was in a kindy that had a lot of play and hands-on stuff , but she found the noise level and freedom quite bewildering and tended to withdraw. We didn't realise this until she went to P1, then she did much better in the quieter and more structured environment.

[mashy]

tyeogh:

I now recall how my NT kids fared in P1. The eldest fell sick within a week. She could not adjust to the longer hours. The second one kept wetting her panties. She could not control it. A few times throughout the year. My third did not know how to buy food for months even though he was taught how to by the buddy system. He once came back with someone else's shoes. Such should be common. Anything that can screw up will screw up. Messy bag, missing items, someone else's items etc


NT does not mean super. Aspie does not mean lacking. Just perhaps a little slower. They both take time to learn, and the teachers are trained for it, imho.

Yes! My son came back wearing the bully's tattered and torn shoes which were much bigger than his! I forgot to label his shoes. The bully told him those were his and my boy gong gong wore the oversized lousy shoes. It was only when I saw how come his shoes are so big and worn when I just bought it that I found out. His parents still dare to say the dad just bought for him. They even washed the shoes coz my son accidentally splattered some paint on it. The bully had feet so much bigger than my son's and I can't believe that his parents will lie for him. He was already suspended for stealing from the bookshop and the parents thought it was an over reaction from the school.

So, remember, label the shoes. Write on the underside of the shoe cushion.