All About Full-Time Maids

[Snow24]

sunny_side_up:

i will think so. cos initially jus now they try to be good, clean everything, but after awhile after they know the surroundings well, then will try to take short cut. my maid jus came for 2 weeks. still ok now will take things out of my cupboard to clean, but sometimes still abit blur. but i doubt this will last haa.

Hi sunny_side_up

Indeed the maid try to cut corner these days. Some of the housework chores assigned did not do but lie that done. Otherwise don't do so clean or tell me no time to do and need constant reminders then get it done.

[ashana]

Snow24:

Hi Ashana


We talked to the maid last night on her work performance and attitude. Apparently she is not remorseful of what she did not wanted to improve.

There are people who adapts easily, slow to adapt, super slow to adapt or simply refuse to adapt. Which league she belongs to?

If you can't let her go for whatever reasons, simply adjust your expectations and close one eye until the time is up. No point upsetting yourself because of something that can't be change. She doesn't want to change and you don't want to change her, by talking to her repeatedly on something she intentionally doesn't want to do, you are giving her the signals to continue with whatever she is doing because she is immune to the talk.

If you can let her go, no point tolerating her further. Why pay to suffer?

My current helper has given me a good training on EQ.

[sunny_side_up]

Actually u are right. In the past I used to tell my maid cannot do this cannot do that but she don’t listen. I bo bian cos I need her so I closed one eye.aftrr that I tell myself not to tell her off anything Liao unless I want to send her off.if not she will think I everytime say but in the end also give in. So unless u ready to let her go, must learn to close one eye.

[st2]

Sorry my typo mistake. I meant to say Indonesian trainer in SIP classes. When the Indo maids arrive in Singapore, they have to attend the SIP classes, they are taught these tricks.


But I’m sure all involved that have money to be made with maid’s transfers will encourage/hope maid to break/spoil things or act crazy to get employer to send them back to agency for transfer.

[ashana]

sunny_side_up:

Actually u are right. In the past I used to tell my maid cannot do this cannot do that but she don't listen. I bo bian cos I need her so I closed one eye.aftrr that I tell myself not to tell her off anything Liao unless I want to send her off.if not she will think I everytime say but in the end also give in. So unless u ready to let her go, must learn to close one eye.

I think so too. My EQ has gone higher after living with a domestic helper. To be a happier person, I've learned to close both eyes at certain times too!

I believe employers should have all rights to lay out their expectations and rules in the household. They should communicate clearly to their domestic helpers, allow them reasonable time to adapt and give them timely gentle reminders.

However, if it has come to a point where the employer feels distressed to repeatedly express their dissatisfactions over the same issues and the helper intentionally refuse to meet and abide by them, the ball is then in employer's court. It is up to the employer to live with it or let the helper go. Don't give your helper too much power to decide your mood of the day.

[anyhowsay1]

st2:

Sorry my typo mistake. I meant to say Indonesian trainer in SIP classes. When the Indo maids arrive in Singapore, they have to attend the SIP classes, they are taught these tricks.


But I'm sure all involved that have money to be made with maid's transfers will encourage/hope maid to break/spoil things or act crazy to get employer to send them back to agency for transfer.

What st2 said is exactly what my former maid told me. This is exactly what happened at MOM itself. My former maid (a myanmar girl) told me that on the first day at SIP, the myanmarese trainer told them that they can call their agent and demand their rights if they are not happy with their employers. Also (a) the trainer told them it is illegal to work in Singapore if they are under 23 years old. (b) Then the trainer asked if anyone is under 23 years old. None of them put up their hands eventhough they knew that quite a number of them there ARE IN FACT UNDER 23 YEARS OLD.

So by stating (a) first, then asked (b), the trainer is subtlely trying to tell the maids that 'you better don't put up your hands if you are underaged' because you are warned already.

So does that mean that someone in MOM is already aware of our situation but chose to close one eye?

[ashana]

anyhowsay1:

st2:

Sorry my typo mistake. I meant to say Indonesian trainer in SIP classes. When the Indo maids arrive in Singapore, they have to attend the SIP classes, they are taught these tricks.


But I'm sure all involved that have money to be made with maid's transfers will encourage/hope maid to break/spoil things or act crazy to get employer to send them back to agency for transfer.

What st2 said is exactly what my former maid told me. This is exactly what happened at MOM itself. My former maid (a myanmar girl) told me that on the first day at SIP, the myanmarese trainer told them that they can call their agent and demand their rights if they are not happy with their employers. Also (a) the trainer told them it is illegal to work in Singapore if they are under 23 years old. (b) Then the trainer asked if anyone is under 23 years old. None of them put up their hands eventhough they knew that quite a number of them there ARE IN FACT UNDER 23 YEARS OLD.

So by stating (a) first, then asked (b), the trainer is subtlely trying to tell the maids that 'you better don't put up your hands if you are underaged' because you are warned already.

So does that mean that someone in MOM is already aware of our situation but chose to close one eye?

Hmm... ...They were taught to lie about their age and educational status even before they arrived Singapore. They have to lie in order to get the work permit and passport.

[Seunggi]

Hi. Would like to ask those with Cambodian maids in Singapore - how do you send money back for them? I went to Western Union once with her but the fees to send money back via Western Union is so expensive! For example to send back US$250 the fees is $50!


She says they don’t use bank accounts back home so I’m not sure if there are other ways to send back money?

[ashana]

st2:

They get away with their bad behaviour is because they can transfer as many employers as they like and most of us tolerate it. If MOM can only do one thing, and willing to help us is to NOT allow transfer. This will make the maids think twice about losing their job

I told my current helper I don't entertain transfer request. She will have to go back to her country. I learned that from previous helper when she demand to go back to agency immediately and we don't have a helper for almost 3 months.

[hopes]

anyhowsay1:

st2:

Sorry my typo mistake. I meant to say Indonesian trainer in SIP classes. When the Indo maids arrive in Singapore, they have to attend the SIP classes, they are taught these tricks.


But I'm sure all involved that have money to be made with maid's transfers will encourage/hope maid to break/spoil things or act crazy to get employer to send them back to agency for transfer.

What st2 said is exactly what my former maid told me. This is exactly what happened at MOM itself. My former maid (a myanmar girl) told me that on the first day at SIP, the myanmarese trainer told them that they can call their agent and demand their rights if they are not happy with their employers. Also (a) the trainer told them it is illegal to work in Singapore if they are under 23 years old. (b) Then the trainer asked if anyone is under 23 years old. None of them put up their hands eventhough they knew that quite a number of them there ARE IN FACT UNDER 23 YEARS OLD.

So by stating (a) first, then asked (b), the trainer is subtlely trying to tell the maids that 'you better don't put up your hands if you are underaged' because you are warned already.

So does that mean that someone in MOM is already aware of our situation but chose to close one eye?

We cannot control what happen in their own country, but how can this happen in MOM.

If really happen, it is too much!!!
In fact the trainer is against the law, worst if she is working under MOM... heiz...