All About Parenting Teenagers

[anyhowsay1]

Joy of Learning 111:

You need to determine whether he has full memory of where he was, or is confabulating. If he is confabulating, then, without wishing to alarm you, this behaviour, at face value, is consistent with having a fugue and is often precipitated by stress. If it is a one-off episode, then probably there is no need to unduly worry. However, to be on the safe side, you might want to consider taking him to a sympathetic GP who is well versed in mental health issues.

What is a fugue?

[Joy of Learning 111]

anyhowsay1:

Joy of Learning 111:

You need to determine whether he has full memory of where he was, or is confabulating. If he is confabulating, then, without wishing to alarm you, this behaviour, at face value, is consistent with having a fugue and is often precipitated by stress. If it is a one-off episode, then probably there is no need to unduly worry. However, to be on the safe side, you might want to consider taking him to a sympathetic GP who is well versed in mental health issues.

What is a fugue?

It is a term in psychiatry denoting a certain type of dissociative state. It can last from a few hours to a few days. It is often characterised by an episode of amnesia in which someone goes somewhere new and does different things as if they were trying to escape from their identity because of stress. The person genuinely does not remember what they were doing: when asked, they will make up a narrative.

A lot of mental health issues can arise during the teenage years. This is not simply because of hormonal changes; rather, it is the physical brain itself undergoing changes. For instance, a predisposition to schizophrenia often expresses itself during the later teenage years (I am not suggesting your son has schizophrenia; simply giving it as an example).

More often than not, stress is the trigger which calls forth the underlying condition.

[Joy of Learning 111]

anyhowsay1:

Joy of Learning 111:

You need to determine whether he has full memory of where he was, or is confabulating. If he is confabulating, then, without wishing to alarm you, this behaviour, at face value, is consistent with having a fugue and is often precipitated by stress. If it is a one-off episode, then probably there is no need to unduly worry. However, to be on the safe side, you might want to consider taking him to a sympathetic GP who is well versed in mental health issues.

Sad to tell you, he was picked up by the police for wandering around in the park at such hour.
It was the police who called me and sent him home.

One feels for you.

[kitty2]

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[ChiefKiasu]

anyhowsay1:

Sad to tell you, he was picked up by the police for wandering around in the park at such hour.

It was the police who called me and sent him home.

I'm so sorry to hear that. It's things like these that drive us parents to an early grave... :frustrated: I feel for you. Was this the first time he did it?

[Joy of Learning 111]

Joy of Learning’s Guide to Harmonious Living With Teenagers


1. Show love by spending unconditional time with them (show don’t tell; tell only when it spontaneously arises).

2. Do not live vicariously through them. This is especially so with regard to exam success and career. Ultimately, you have your life to live, they have their lives to live. Respect their choices and space.

3. They are not yours to keep. If you are religious, consider them on loan from your god ; if you are non-religious, they are star-dust configured in a marvellous way that one day will be returned to nature.

4. If they find fault with you, be grateful that they do not know your other worse faults.

5. Be a good role model and hope that they emulate. However, always remember that some things are within our control and some are not. You might prefer a certain outcome, but it is not guaranteed.

[cheerygirl]

Pardon me. Whats your view on boys who are not Vigin anymore??? I was shocked when my teenager told me her schoolmates some are not by the age of 15???

[Joy of Learning 111]

cheerygirl:

Pardon me. Whats your view on boys who are not Vi*gi*n anymore???? I was shocked when my teenager told me her schoolmates some are not by the age of 15???

Are you taking umbrage because I am offering Stoic psychological advice about how parents can try to preserve their sanity in this difficult world?

[ChiefKiasu]

Joy of Learning 111:

cheerygirl:

Pardon me. Whats your view on boys who are not Vi*gi*n anymore???? I was shocked when my teenager told me her schoolmates some are not by the age of 15???

Are you taking umbrage because I am offering Stoic psychological advice about how parents can try to preserve their sanity in this difficult world?

I don't think cheerygirl is even talking to you, joyoflearning.

[Joy of Learning 111]

ChiefKiasu:

I don't think cheerygirl is even talking to you, joyoflearning.

Okay. Thanks for the correction.