If you could, would you decide on a 3rd child?
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winth:
Know liao can send them to school more suitable for them.wa lao...
know liao for what... (btw, it's not free)
It troubles me after I got such comments.
Initially I thought that my 2nd boy is ADHD becos he is just so stubborn and 'hyper', he just doesn't sleep and is always doing things. He gets really frustrated when it's not done properly... Imagine the kind of stress and energy to watch over him...
So, I think at the moment, 2 might be good enough. If we really want, it might be for the year of rabbit or dragon, we quite pandang one...
I have a cousin who's gifted, she's on those \"R&D\" tests since very young,
my aunt never had to pay her schoolfees till she's goes to University...
not sure if true of my aunt had been bragging... -
Hey Winth,
It's a blessing that you have 2 kids already, just leave the rest to God, who knows you may have an very obedient 3rd one to jaga your first two! :lol:
Actually my hubby and I are trying hard to have 2nd child, stop eating painkillers and coffee for my migraine for months yet still no good NEWS. (Miscarriage once) but this haven't stop us for trying again. If you wants you can start trying to get a tiger bb.. (Think positive! Its easier to get your 3rd child in any school you want..)
You can persuade your sons first if you want.. but the decisions are yours. My daughter initiate don't want at the age of 3-4, then she wants a little sister to play with, but I can't guarantee her. At first she said I can give away the bb to someone if he is a boy... :!: Recently, she don't mind if bb is boy or girl.. When we are watching Desperate Housewives, she saw so many pregnant mummies, she said \"Mummy can you born one DiDi(little Bro) or MeiMei (Little Sis) for me please?\" I was so touched and I become more motivated for 2nd child..
Since your 2 boys may be gifted focus on teaching and guiding them well while trying for the 3rd. You may spend less effort on the 3rd one, as the first 2 will help you. (This part you must really start with your first son to be a role model of your 2nd son, and must be persistant.)
Bless you! May you have the power of all super mum and dad!winth:
I have a friend who play alot with with my 2 boys, she teaches lots of children and her sis is a child psychologist. She has talked to her sis about my boys' behaviour when she plays with them.
She commented both boy's behaviour are at 'abnormal range' for their age and that I might want to have both my boys assessed by her sis for their IQ becos she said that it's very likely one or both of them have very high IQ. And that my 2nd boy is likely to be gifted.
And my 2nd boy (now 20 months) is making us 'crazy', really. He's totally obsessed and stubborn and insists his ways when it comes to certain things.
We don't think we have the energy level left and we don't want to ignore the 3rd child as it will be unfair. -
[quote]I have a cousin who's gifted, she's on those \"R&D\" tests since very young,
my aunt never had to pay her schoolfees till she's goes to University... [/quote]wa... really meh???
Maybe she belongs to the higher range of giftedness that explains why the government wants to pay for her fees.
Err... actually I'm afraid to know. It's not really good news to me if any of them belong to that range. Have read articles about those children and it's not easy to teach such children.
But after her comments, I am more aware and am more patient when I teach them. My 6 year old is extremely matured and he is highly sensitive. I have been ignoring my first born since the 2nd one demands alot of my energy. It's not fun to know that the elder brother had to always give in to the younger one.
Hi jennifer, thanks for the encouragements! You might want to go for herbs to pump up your body's health, as pregnancy is easier for those with 'warm' bodies. Think your body belongs to the 寒type. Since you have had a miscarriage, it shows that your womb is too 'cold' for the embryo. -
Hi Winth,
My body should be belong to the 'cold' type. My mum put me on a confinement diet after miscarriage, so that I can conceive again. I went thru a major 'Herbal' course... very 'hot' mum now. Gynae said its a unhealthy fetus and aborted by itself, well God may not want me to look after an unhealthy child.
Not easy to get pregnant, every single life counts... Every good friends I know around my age are pregnant...
But I extremely happy for them. -
Jia You Everyone.
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winth:
My 2nd boy is just as active...as of now, he is standing at the edge of the sofa watching TV
Initially I thought that my 2nd boy is ADHD becos he is just so stubborn and 'hyper', he just doesn't sleep and is always doing things. He gets really frustrated when it's not done properly... Imagine the kind of stress and energy to watch over him...
backside have pins. ask him to come, he'll go a detour and climb obstacles (a parked car/stool) before coming to me. bedtime is an hour...he'll walk round and round the bedroom (risking stepping on his bro) until he exhaust all ounce of energy then he'll lie down and sleep.
I refuse to believe his has ADHD leh. He's just being active.
We are definitely stopping at 2. I just had a long nap (drift in and out of consciousness actually) just now. The elder bro fed the younger one lunch, poured him juice, read to him, play with him while i napped. It is a far cry from 2 years ago when the elder one kept pestering me to accompany him to play - now he has a dedicated playmate and fan. It's no wonder he resist having another sibling...he said will make me and him busy.
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sashimi:
it's just that there is simply no assurance that our children can have a decent life in this world. It's all I can do to keep this single one safe and happy.
Hm...my take is, if you make the cut as a good parent, why deprive another child of your good genes and the upbringing environment? One is too little ah.... -
jedamum:
Sigh...if really have another one, dunno how cos I won't have chance to be SAHM again and I'll feel like I'm depriving second one of what I gave first one. I'll be guilty my whole life.sashimi:
it's just that there is simply no assurance that our children can have a decent life in this world. It's all I can do to keep this single one safe and happy.
Hm...my take is, if you make the cut as a good parent, why deprive another child of your good genes and the upbringing environment? One is too little ah....
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schellen:
Quite true...i struggled for a while (i AM a workaholic!) before deciding that being SAHM is the best option for having a second kid.
Sigh...if really have another one, dunno how cos I won't have chance to be SAHM again and I'll feel like I'm depriving second one of what I gave first one. I'll be guilty my whole life. -
Hi schellen,
Agree with jedamum. I would think that 1 child is far too little. From your posts and sashimi's, both are good parents, genuinely concerned for your children's well-being. How can things go too wrong when you guys are here to work things out?
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