2016 PSLE Discussions (Born in 2004)

[Yngmng]

iRabbit:

MyPillow:

Take v Gd care of yourself n your ds. Dun let this affect relationship with spouse too . Stay and walk closely with your ds.

For general reminder: suicide cases in kids n teens are not low recent years. Pls Take note, all parents. Stay in Love.

Reading your post reminds me of this double tragedy last year. :gloomy:

Even in the depths of our disappointments, we should take care not to make our children feel that they're unworthy of life if they don't do well academically. I believe the granny below shared her heart-breaking story in the hope that no one else will suffer the same fate as her grandchild and daughter.

http://mypaper.sg/top-stories/woman-loses-grandchild-and-daughter-suicide-20150728

Woman loses grandchild and daughter to suicide
MAUREEN KOH
SHE was still coming to terms with the death of her teenage granddaughter, who had committed suicide over scoring two Bs in her O levels.

But three months after the 16-year-old plunged to her death, Ng Siang Mui's grief-stricken and guilt-ridden daughter, who was the teen's mother, also killed herself. The tragic double deaths have left her son-in-law, who is the teen's father, mentally unstable.

More children and teenagers have been seeking help for suicidal thoughts, said the Samaritans of Singapore (SOS).

SOS said that in 2013, 224 children and teens aged 19 and below wrote in to them through its E-mail Befriending Service. From this group, 163 were considered to be at real risk of suicide.

SOS is concerned about this age group because of the rise in the number of youngsters seeking help - it saw 65 more young people in 2013, compared with the year before.

Yesterday, SOS also said that suicides among males had increased by 29 per cent, from 227 in 2004 to 292 last year, while female suicides had decreased by 20 per cent, from 154 in 2004 to 123 last year, The Straits Times reported.

In an interview with The New Paper, Madam Ng, 71, shared the devastation and anguish of the tragedy that began in January when, just three hours after getting her results slip, her granddaughter jumped to her death.

Except for two Bs - in English and Mathematics - the student had scored distinctions for her other subjects.

The only child left a note for her parents: \"Mum, I am sorry for being a disappointment. I should have done better.

\"Dad, I am sorry you will not have the chance to walk me down the (church) aisle to give me away.\"

Her parents used to fight over her education. The girl had been a straight-A student who attended a top school. The mother wanted to push her to excel and her father felt that the child should be left alone.

\"My Xiao Mei (her granddaughter's nickname) was always affected whenever her parents fought over her studies,\" Madam Ng said in Khek.

\"(My daughter) often compared Xiao Mei's results with those of her friends' children and would ask, 'How come so and so can do this and you cannot?' \"

Xiao Mei's mother wanted her to get into medical school.

A family friend, housewife Lynn Wee, 45, spoke of how she and close friends tried to watch over Xiao Mei's mother after the funeral. Mrs Wee said: \"She maintained a stoic front and even admitted that she would have been disappointed with her child's academic performance.\"

But that facade slowly slipped in the weeks that followed, said Madam Ng, who has three grandsons from two other children. Madam Ng said that a month after Xiao Mei's death, her father moved out. \"That broke my daughter's heart.\"

A day before she killed herself, Madam Ng's daughter told her: \"Ma, I shouldn't have pressurised Xiao Mei in her studies. You didn't do that to us when we were young and we all turned out fine.\"

The New Paper understands that Xiao Mei's father is seeking psychiatric help.

Added Madam Ng: \"If only we had noticed or realised that Xiao Mei was suffering, we could have asked for professional help and this tragedy would have been prevented.\"

THE NEW PAPER

Earlier this year, there was another suicide case involving a P5 boy :gloomy:
Really, more of such cases....

[janet88]

we have gone this far…next week is the REAL thing. we have to hold on for 2 more weeks. time to boost kids’ confidence because half a battle is won when they step into the exam hall when they have self confidence.

[armadilloshield]

Yeah, also read the news, suicide rate are increase too, so sad to read such news.

[SpartanMum]

Hey everyone think positive ya... this is not the time to be thinking about what could go wrong.


Don't hold on to negative thoughts and possibilities. I seriously don't know if this works but positive thoughts apparently attract positive results, so stay positive, be realistic and most of all be kind and loving to our DCs!

Whatever behaviour they exhibit at this point, however unreasonable or ridiculous it may be , might be triggered by stress. At school, the teachers are zooming in on them and at home we might be doing the same. It's not easy for them. So let's stay positive and empathic, so that home is truly a safe haven for them.

:grphug:

[armadilloshield]

yes, be positive, just love our children with unconditional love :love:

[WorriedDadto3]

SpartanMum:

Hey everyone think positive ya... this is not the time to be thinking about what could go wrong.


Don't hold on to negative thoughts and possibilities. I seriously don't know if this works but positive thoughts apparently attract positive results, so stay positive, be realistic and most of all be kind and loving to our DCs!

Whatever behaviour they exhibit at this point, however unreasonable or ridiculous it may be , might be triggered by stress. At school, the teachers are zooming in on them and at home we might be doing the same. It's not easy for them. So let's stay positive and empathic, so that home is truly a safe haven for them.

:grphug:

totally agree, let's stay with our children on this. you cannot rule out stress from PSLE!

[dido]

Hi mummies,


Have you line up any programmes for your child after PSLE? I would like to use this time to expose him to works of charity as much as possible as I will be back to work in Jan. Is there anyone here who knows of any volunteer work that suits parent and child?

I have research and only found 2:
1) https://foodheart.org
2) http://www.willinghearts.org.sg

If I do not keep him occupied, I foresee he will be wasting his time away with playing game at home.

Hope to hear from mummies here : )

[ChiefKiasu]

dido:

Hi mummies,


Have you line up any programmes for your child after PSLE? I would like to use this time to expose him to works of charity as much as possible as I will be back to work in Jan. Is there anyone here who knows of any volunteer work that suits parent and child?

I have research and only found 2:
1) https://foodheart.org
2) http://www.willinghearts.org.sg

If I do not keep him occupied, I foresee he will be wasting his time away with playing game at home.

Hope to hear from mummies here : )

That's a wonderful idea! If you are an animal lover, you may also consider volunteering as a dog walker at SPCA to go and walk the dogs for an hour a day.

[armadilloshield]

How about catch Pokemon Go haha…

[Sursum]

dido:

Hi mummies,


Have you line up any programmes for your child after PSLE? I would like to use this time to expose him to works of charity as much as possible as I will be back to work in Jan. Is there anyone here who knows of any volunteer work that suits parent and child?

I have research and only found 2:
1) https://foodheart.org
2) http://www.willinghearts.org.sg

If I do not keep him occupied, I foresee he will be wasting his time away with playing game at home.

Hope to hear from mummies here : )

We joined Touch community to distribute food to the elderly as a family during the June holidays. My dc find the experience enriching and hope to continue after exams.