2016 PSLE Discussions (Born in 2004)

[happy to be mum]

one more week to PSLE..and I now counting down to the end of it!


I think the anxiety has finally hit me but at this point all I can do now is just to keep on encourage my DS1 as long as he knows he has tried his best and that to me matter the most. Told my DS this week will be the last week for him to go full gear and next week will be the cooling days, his birthday is few days before PSLE and we will still go for a good dinner to celebrate his birthday.

jiayou to all parents and DC here! The fun will begin soon on 4th Oct or some 5th Oct! :boogie:

[ImMeeMee]

sleepy:

dido:

Is there anyone here who knows of any volunteer work that suits parent and child?


If I do not keep him occupied, I foresee he will be wasting his time away with playing game at home.

Hope to hear from mummies here : )

Must be for parents and child?

My kids have been volunteering at NLB since p3 and p4. Plenty of activities to choose from and the opportunity to meet people from different age group, working alongside adult librarians, interacting with older kids as well as younger kids.
You can Google NLB website for more info if interested.

Does anyone know where to find community projects where kids can contribute through drawing after PSLE? Eg mural painting, drawing for VWOs etc? TIA.

[nms1]

busygal:

Namie:

My son is hopeless. I told him a Down syndrome boy will do better in PSLE than him. He is not someone who can do his parents proud. Bring shame to us only. Told my husband I cannot live with the shame of a non-performing child.

Don't give up on your own son Namie. Our role as mothers is to love and accept our children as they are, and not pressure them to conform to society expectations. Every child will bloom in their own time. Some bloom later in Secondary school. Some bloom only in tertiary. Some bloom in the working world (Steve Job failed all his exams).

At this stage, a mother's love, support, encouragement and acceptance is the most crucial in helping them perform their best during the exam. As long as they have done their best, put in the effort. Results does not matter. Their journey ahead is a long one. Many more chances to do well in life.

Nobody will or have the right to judge you based on your son's performance in school. If anybody does, they are truly shallow and not worthy of your time or friendship. They are probably insecure themselves and need to be critical of others to make themselves feel better. Do not judge yourself based on your son's performance. Every child is different.

This forum is a wonderful place for us parents to support one another, as we help our children with their first major exam of their life. Just one exam. Don't think too much. Talk to us Namie.

Namie - it's tough. However much we tell ourselves that it's just one exam, that there are many roads to success, it is harder to face the reality of our child taking the \"alternative path\". Your son is unique and he has something to offer the world but maybe he needs more time to find that. You do not need to be ashamed of him. And remember he is not here to make you proud but to live a worthwhile life. Try to embrace who he is and nurture his talents and qualities. He needs your support and unfailing love at this time and probably even more so on the day the results are released.

My husband is also struggling. He is an ex RI/RJC boy and I think he always assumed that his children would follow in his footsteps. He finds it hard to accept that our daughter is not going to get into a \"top\" school, that if she has a bad day next week she will just scrape into Express. He keeps saying she is lazy, she uses her phone too much, she sleeps too much, doesn't take school seriously; anything rather than face the fact that she struggles with maths and her marks will always suffer as a result. Of course, I would love her to be scoring A* for everything and sailing through PSLE but that isn't who she is so I will walk alongside her, encourage her and be there to comfort her if needed. I will be worried if she doesn't get into Express as her English is very strong and there is a risk that will be bored and unmotivated if she can't pursue that at a higher level but it is out of my hands; the PSLE is a blunt instrument so we have to make the best of whatever the outcome is. If I'm honest part of me would feel embarrassed, maybe even ashamed if she didn't get into Express even though I know I shouldn't be but I will never let her see that or know that.

Namie - please stand by your son, support him and love him whatever happens. If you are struggling, talk to someone - a family member, teacher, counsellor, religious leader. You don't need to do this alone.

[Singkiasu]

Glad to see many moms showering positive and encouraging words on Namie.I am sure, she sees all the post and gets motivated.

My DD is also very vocal than verbal, she is totally a street smart but when it comes to paper and pen…she is miles apart. Her prelims results were most in ‘B’s only. I was in panic, yelled at her but In return she showed casual and cool attitude, even her school teachers encouraging students to go for neighborhood secondary schools than reputable schools located very far.

On the other day, she argued with me about ’ small fish in big pond’ and ’ big fish in small pond’, She is clear and confident that she wants a school where her skills are appreciated than criticized. Now she is studying in an ordinary class (not in the top 3 classes.) But she loves school, teachers, classmates. She is feels happy being among mediocre student.

I feel, we as a parent our expectations are high, we should understand what 'type of child/person ’ they are’and then, we need to move accordingly.

I sent her to the same tuition centre/tutor, where my son went. He is an independent school but my DD ( with the current prelims score ,cannot even imagine )
So, as parents we can take the horses to the pool but it’s up to them to take the water. We can guide them and coach them at the end…it’s their life. Whatever the results maybe, we should stand by them.
Best of luck to all mums, Goodbye.

[nms1]

Singkiasu:

Glad to see many moms showering positive and encouraging words on Namie.I am sure, she sees all the post and gets motivated.

My DD is also very vocal than verbal, she is totally a street smart but when it comes to paper and pen...she is miles apart. Her prelims results were most in 'B's only. I was in panic, yelled at her but In return she showed casual and cool attitude, even her school teachers encouraging students to go for neighborhood secondary schools than reputable schools located very far.

On the other day, she argued with me about ' small fish in big pond' and ' big fish in small pond', She is clear and confident that she wants a school where her skills are appreciated than criticized. Now she is studying in an ordinary class (not in the top 3 classes.) But she loves school, teachers, classmates. She is feels happy being among mediocre student.

I feel, we as a parent our expectations are high, we should understand what 'type of child/person ' they are'and then, we need to move accordingly.

I sent her to the same tuition centre/tutor, where my son went. He is an independent school but my DD ( with the current prelims score ,cannot even imagine )
So, as parents we can take the horses to the pool but it's up to them to take the water. We can guide them and coach them at the end...it's their life. Whatever the results maybe, we should stand by them.
Best of luck to all mums, Goodbye.

I think this line \"Her prelims results were most in 'B's only. I was in panic,\" sums it all up really. How is it that we have reached a point where \"B\"s are regarded as a disappointment! I think we all need to take a step back and look at what they have achieved......think back to how sweet but clueless they were in P1

[Oh My Gosh]

nms1, yes, it’s kind of sad how the expectations have evolved. I remembered the first time when DS came home one day with 60+ marks, I was kind of taken aback and really sad. But DS told me he tried his best and he was so happy that he passed the paper. So as parents, we have to adjust our expectations. Encourage our kids for every achievements they have. Not every kids are born to be smart… maybe if we were to take PSLE now ourselves, we might do worse than our kids.

[JJ_chua]

I seriously love this thread as all mummies here are some encouraging with their positive and assuring words.All the best to our kids next week. :rahrah:

[Singkiasu]

I think this line "Her prelims results were most in 'B’s only. I was in panic," sums it all up really. How is it that we have reached a point where "B"s are regarded as a disappointment! I think we all need to take a step back and look at what they have achieved…think back to how sweet but clueless they were in P1 ;-)[/quote]


Yes! For many parents 'B’s are quite of disappointment. Like children, parents also grow up slowly, it takes time for them to understand their child’s potentiality. In my case, I realized it later only. Like any ordinary mom, I too had certain expectation but her Prelims results made me to think deeply and to understand her better. Infact, It made me stronger. Now, hardly a week more, we are both working together. Whatever the results maybe, ( Later)we both will feel, we did our level best together.
After all, family bonding is more important than anything.

[janet88]

Oh My Gosh:

janet88:

daughter was at home the past 2 days...we worked on English and science.

she called her friends to ask if there was homework. teachers revised psle booklet.

You excuse her from school?

2 days. she went to school today.

[janet88]

janet88:

Oh My Gosh:

[quote=\"janet88\"]daughter was at home the past 2 days...we worked on English and science.

she called her friends to ask if there was homework. teachers revised psle booklet.

You excuse her from school?

2 days.
she went to school today and told me the teachers went through revision on exam papers.[/quote]