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[Snow24]

Hi slmkhoo


He has sustain attention issue and not interested in food.
I am working so I not the one to administer the meal.
His brothers eat with him at separate table as they are older so they dine at dining table.He using the children table.

Previously toys are used to entice and sustain his sitting at high chair when he was younger.He can complete the meal. Now change to sit at chair for meal. His hands, are busy with the toys no hands to self feed himself. If I take, away toys , he would not want to sit at table and chair to eat. Leave seat and walk away. So wonder how to implement the phase out gradually. Should I continue have toys at table let him learn to sustain at seat for longer duration or take away toys let him learn to sit at chair without toys on table compromise with shorter sitting at chair.

Think not easy to break his habit now but gotta do it.

[sharonkhoo]

Snow24:

Hi slmkhoo


He has sustain attention issue and not interested in food.
I am working so I not the one to administer the meal.
His brothers eat with him at separate table as they are older so they dine at dining table.He using the children table.

Previously toys are used to entice and sustain his sitting at high chair when he was younger.He can complete the meal. Now change to sit at chair for meal. His hands, are busy with the toys no hands to self feed himself. If I take, away toys , he would not want to sit at table and chair to eat. Leave seat and walk away. So wonder how to implement the phase out gradually. Should I continue have toys at table let him learn to sustain at seat for longer duration or take away toys let him learn to sit at chair without toys on table compromise with shorter sitting at chair.

Think not easy to break his habit now but gotta do it.

I would just stop having toys there. But if it is your helper or a grandparent supervising the meal, it will be difficult to enforce. Also, can you \"trap\" him in his seat? Like have having a booster seat with straps? Then he can hopefully be persuaded to eat more before walking away at will. Use his brothers to be a good example? You will have to let him sit for a short period initially and extend the period gradually. The main thing is not to let him eat unless he is sitting at the table.

[Snow24]

Hi


Anyone can share how do you teach child hidden social rules, social appropriateness when in public.Our children could be self directed and insisted on doing their ways. They might not think what they did are not appropriate or wrong.How do we educate or let them be aware.

[sharonkhoo]

Snow24:

Hi


Anyone can share how do you teach child hidden social rules, social appropriateness when in public.Our children could be self directed and insisted on doing their ways. They might not think what they did are not appropriate or wrong.How do we educate or let them be aware.

Use social stories, role play. And lots of explanations about what other people are thinking and how they are reacting. Then before going to similar situations, run through the social stories again. It will take many repetitions over many years.

[ImMeeMee]

Snow24:

Hi


Anyone can share how do you teach child hidden social rules, social appropriateness when in public.Our children could be self directed and insisted on doing their ways. They might not think what they did are not appropriate or wrong.How do we educate or let them be aware.

agree with slmkhoo. Our children need social stories on various scenarios to build up their 'data bank' so that they know how to react in various situations. Its also alot of explanation on what the other person is thinking about. So you can play games and activities like 'what happens next?', 'how does this person feel?' to build pre-emptive and perspective skills. Likely the child will not be able to give you answers at the beginning so you may have to fill them in with the answers. But as they get more exposure, they will slowly learn the 'model' answers or responses. I sometimes use thinking bubbles to get DD3 to verbalize on what the other person might be thinking or feeling. Work on things which are more tangible to help our children.

DD3's therapist just told me that the 'highest' level of social interaction is casual talk. Not sure how she is able to attain this, but at least it gives me a somewhat 'OB marker' when I am coaching her.

[sharonkhoo]

ImMeeMee:

DD3's therapist just told me that the 'highest' level of social interaction is casual talk. Not sure how she is able to attain this, but at least it gives me a somewhat 'OB marker' when I am coaching her.

My daughter is 20 and hasn't mastered this! She can answer questions and give her views, but she doesn't know how to chit-chat. The half-completed sentences, lots of things which people don't spell out in detail but expect you to understand, jumping from topic to topic..., she finds all these difficult. I'm not sure if she ever will master it. My mother is not good at social chit-chat either.

[ImMeeMee]

Sometimes I do find DD3 initiating small talk with us within the family. Her talking points can be quite random but we just accomodate it.


But she is clueless when it comes to chatting with peers. And I think it may likely stay this way. The way the therapist says it, our objective is to break things down for her and close the gap as much as we can. The gap may not completely close and this is how she is.

[sharonkhoo]

ImMeeMee:

Sometimes I do find DD3 initiating small talk with us within the family. Her talking points can be quite random but we just accomodate it.


But she is clueless when it comes to chatting with peers. And I think it may likely stay this way. The way the therapist says it, our objective is to break things down for her and close the gap as much as we can. The gap may not completely close and this is how she is.

Family is familiar with their quirks - we also accommodate my daughter's topics. And yes, they can seem quite random though if we think about it, we can sort of trace where they came from! Peers are not so accommodating, especially when they are also young. I just hope she will find friends who are also interested in the same things and can cope with the randomness of her conversation!

[Snow24]

Hi


How do you go about to write social story?

[sharonkhoo]

Snow24:

Hi

How do you go about to write social story?

I believe you have asked this before. Anyway, here are a couple of websites that should help:
https://vkc.mc.vanderbilt.edu/assets/files/tipsheets/socialstoriestips.pdf
http://www.child-autism-parent-cafe.com/how-to-write-a-social-story.html