All About Bullying
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It’s sad that bullying is still prevalent up to now. Despite all the efforts to spread awareness on the issue or numerous anti-bullying campaigns, it’s still a major concern not just among kids, but teenagers as well. Bullying may well lead to depression which is an even bigger issue to combat. Parents and teachers should keep their eyes open for any signs that may point to it.
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After suffering from bullying for a year, my child is keen to transfer school. However, I’m stumped on the reason to write on the transfer form. Will schools accept this as a valid reason? My child have had a tough year and I’d like to support his desire as best as possible. Any guidance please?
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SMH FOREST:
After suffering from bullying for a year, my child is keen to transfer school. However, I’m stumped on the reason to write on the transfer form. Will schools accept this as a valid reason? My child have had a tough year and I’d like to support his desire as best as possible. Any guidance please?
Hi i believe it would be better to just honestly write bullying as the reason. Did the bullying occur only for this 1 year? Before that no problem? And was it isolated bullying by 1 child? Who cannot be avoided even if transferred to another class in the current school? Or was it a case of mass group bullying and escalated so bad that the only way is to exit the school? I'm not asking you to answer here on the forum. But you could explain on the form if you think it helps the child's chances for transfer.
Please also have a good think about what if...what if in the new school, similar incidents happen also? Has your child learnt and developed coping strategies? Also if your son is currently in a boys school, the chances of bullying may be lessened if transferred to a co-ed school. After all, only half will be boys there.
All these are valid reasons and explanations that you can put in the form. An understanding school/principal will take these into consideration. Conversely, schools that don't care will not allow transfer for such reason. You don't need such schools anyway.
Jia you! All the best to your child for next year! -
Echoing what zac's mum said: I've had students before who had transferred to another school when the bullying got really bad. Things did get better for them, but bear in mind they also did receive social skills training (under me and another speech therapist). You might want to look into that -- have a look at the Incredible Years workshop for parents, conducted by NUH: https://www.nuh.com.sg/umc/about-us/about-us/department-of-psychological-medicine/clinical-services/key-programmes/reach-west/interventions-and-group-programs.html
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Thank you zac’s mum and swortionery!
Yes, it started with an individual but that individual has been influencing the rest of the classmates and friends to give my boy the cold treatment and isolating him. It’s gotten bad that he often is alone during recess and cant fimd teammates for class work. I’ve also requested my boy to be under the school’s counsellor review.
Challenge on transfering schools is none are open about when they are reviewing vacancies. Son is very keen on transfer and I’m a bit helpless on how to give him a fresh start by next year.
Thanks swortionery for the sharing about the social skills training at NUH. I did not know that this is available and this is definitely something I feel we should enrol for. I was looking at other counselling previously and wasn’t sure which direction to go for. The Incredible Years workshop appears spot on for us (parents) and for my son. -
Regarding transfer, please give it a try. Admin-wise, from what everybody tells me, the school staff answering the phones will be bo chap and closed off. They don’t want to answer every Tom Dick and Harry wanting to transfer school.
So really it’s up to you to be proactive and fight for what your child needs. Simply put, just go down physically to the general office of each school that’s within your consideration. Obtain the transfer form or wait list form and fill it up. Then pray for a place before January. Once you have done the paperwork, I believe they are obliged to process it. All the best! -
SMH FOREST:
After suffering from bullying for a year, my child is keen to transfer school. However, I’m stumped on the reason to write on the transfer form. Will schools accept this as a valid reason? My child have had a tough year and I’d like to support his desire as best as possible. Any guidance please?
What triggered the bullying? -
SMH FOREST:
After suffering from bullying for a year, my child is keen to transfer school. However, I’m stumped on the reason to write on the transfer form. Will schools accept this as a valid reason? My child have had a tough year and I’d like to support his desire as best as possible. Any guidance please?
Neutral reason: Change in caregiver situation. -
They started off as best friends… over time the other boy kept comparing his academic results, other achievements, cca performance with my boy. Both boys are actually quite similar but the incessant comparing resulted in the boy doing lots of backstabbing, name calling of my boy. This I believed was cultured in part by the boy’s parents as if he was not chosen for something, his dad especially will question why he wasn’t picked and why my son was chosen instead!
As the boy is a good looker and more popular in school, the backstabbing and name calling resulted in other kids "listening" to him and in the last few months, my boy was left alone with very few friends. The boy have even expressed that he regards my boy as an enemy and asks other friends not to invite him to parties. My boy also spent most of his recess alone. He have difficulties getting team mates in his class for teamwork. Teachers can’t see all these happening. It was only after I sent a message screenshot of what 1 classmate complained to her mum that it came out in the open.
I’ve submitted a couple of transfer applications but no schools are open about when they will review. It’s getting a little worrying… he will go to a different class next year whereas all the other students are staying in the same class as this year. We made the request to change class as my boy wanted it. He will surely be "questioned" by classmates… I told him he has to deal with it as his preference is to change class. I already feel stressful thinking of it… can’t imagine how it’s like for him. -
Hi, as a concerned parent of 2, I'm curious to know if (1) parents are aware of their child's activities online (2) if they know that their child is a victim of cyberbullying (3) would you pay for professional services to help victims?
Appreciate if parents here could help me with this quick survey https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/WMH2W6Q to gauge respondents' sentiments on this topic
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