All About Parenting Teenagers

[foosoomin]

Hi slmkhoo,




I just browse back this thread, saw your question.


He interested in playing basketball, badminton, gym, some swimming, play basketball game in smartphone


At home after finish his school work, he will normally play his smartphone, like broswing Youtube video, play basketball game through phone, occasionally browse TV program with family


We do spent some time with him though


However, noticed a problem with him

Last Saturday brought him for a tuition, when the female teacher spoke to him, he replied very softly, he seems very afraid, no confident at all

[sharonkhoo]

You have to figure out if there’s anything wrong - lack of confidence? lack of interest? too distracted by phone or something else? Not every child is very motivated in studies, but if you can link it to something he is interested in, or show him how it impacts his future, that might work. Or if there is some impediment, then you need to deal with that too.

[SamsonSun]

Hi all, I read this on today's Straits Times. What do you fellow parents think about this?


http://www.straitstimes.com/singapore/education/the-compelling-case-for-being-an-intentionally-lazy-parent

[zac's mum]

SamsonSun:

Hi all, I read this on today's Straits Times. What do you fellow parents think about this?


http://www.straitstimes.com/singapore/education/the-compelling-case-for-being-an-intentionally-lazy-parent

Sorry I’m unable to view the whole article because I’m too cheap to pay for it

Do u mind copying and pasting it here for “research” and discussion purposes? I was just thinking aloud about time management skills & their link to academic performance over at this thread:
https://www.kiasuparents.com/kiasu/forum/viewtopic.php?f=29&t=65396&start=140

[sharonkhoo]

When I read the article, I laughed because I had just said pretty much the same thing to an ex-colleague on Friday! I am a "lazy" parent, always trying to work myself out of the job. But it’s very hard work in the early years, and for some kids, it takes much longer than others. I have 1 child who has been pretty much on her own since Pr school and another who still needs coaching (in the executive function skills, not academics) at 21 (special needs).

[SamsonSun]

slmkhoo:

When I read the article, I laughed because I had just said pretty much the same thing to an ex-colleague on Friday! I am a \"lazy\" parent, always trying to work myself out of the job. But it's very hard work in the early years, and for some kids, it takes much longer than others. I have 1 child who has been pretty much on her own since Pr school and another who still needs coaching (in the executive function skills, not academics) at 21.

Thanks for sharing. :goodpost: I have a 16 year old girl but I think I spoilt her to a certain extent. Regretted quite a fair a bit on treating her like a princess since young. My younger boys (10, 14) are more independent.

[SamsonSun]

zac's mum:

SamsonSun:

Hi all, I read this on today's Straits Times. What do you fellow parents think about this?


http://www.straitstimes.com/singapore/education/the-compelling-case-for-being-an-intentionally-lazy-parent

Sorry I’m unable to view the whole article because I’m too cheap to pay for it

Do u mind copying and pasting it here for “research” and discussion purposes? I was just thinking aloud about time management skills & their link to academic performance over at this thread:
https://www.kiasuparents.com/kiasu/forum/viewtopic.php?f=29&t=65396&start=140

Hi! I read it on the hardcopy. It is an article about allowing young children do their planning and taking the initative instead of doing everything for them which will make them very dependent on their parents. Even though the term \"Lazy Parent\" is negative, it takes a lot of planning to reach that level of true \"laziness\" and it is actually much more beneficial for your children than doing everything for them! :imcool:

[foosoomin]

does any of you has a teenage son, weak in academy study, yet goes gym for training, even the next day is exam



If have, how you react ?

[ammonite]

My son will go swimming - does that count? I think it is all right - a good break, relaxes the mind and prepares it for learning, help with a good night’s sleep etc.


I will expect him to cut down on the amount of time nearer to exam UNLESS he has already done a couple of hours of intense work. Basically preparation should ideally have started a month ago, last minute work is quite useless (to me).

You have to gauge your child’s absorption rate. I don’t believe in studying all day. I think anything over 3-4 hours is probably negligible so you may as well do something else.

[foosoomin]

What makes children now not interested in studying ?



is it the good life ?