How to get a child who always failed EL, MA n SCI to improve
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on methods to improve maybe other more experienced parents could help..just from other perspective..I maybe wrong..quite important to see if the kid has really benefitted from the tuitions also..which I just took noticed with my dd..she got lost mainly due to no revision on her part :sad: if after all methods tried and tested/exhausted ..and still the same..imo maybe let her be at her comfortable level else she will be very stressed up. yes agree, it is very sad to see the kid failing..just remind ourselves that the child is more important..
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jennytansc:
Sighh my gal is taking PSLE this year and she has been failing since primary 1. This SA she still fail quite badly for MA and Sci and EL. She is in the normal stream now and i dont hope that she goes into Norm Tech. She is already having 1-1 tuition. I am so horrified with the coming soon PSLE and i think i am the one depressed and wan to die liao
Please don’t be so worried. NT is not the end of the world. If your girl is more hands-on learner, she may actually feel happier there. Please ask the tutor what is the main issue, is it lack of understanding or lack of confidence or lack of motivation? Each needs different approach to solve.
If you are worried about the bad influences in NT, you can start sourcing for a girls-only secondary school near your house which has NT. Then there’s less chance to come into contact with the boys. -
jennytansc:
Sighh my gal is taking PSLE this year and she has been failing since primary 1. This SA she still fail quite badly for MA and Sci and EL. She is in the normal stream now and i dont hope that she goes into Norm Tech. She is already having 1-1 tuition. I am so horrified with the coming soon PSLE and i think i am the one depressed and wan to die liao
:hugs: does the tutor have a game plan? Please ask the tutor what her game plan is. For kids who are failing, the usual advice is to look at where the child can score. We don’t waste time on impossible sections or topics anymore, just zero down onto where the kids can score as many points as possible and skip questions that they cannot do. By doing what they can do carefully, and then trying their best for more difficult questions (get partial marks), they should be able to pass.
For languages, go for oral marks and maybe even compo marks. This is because the child can pre learn a set of vocabulary to adapt for compo, and this allow them to circumvent spelling errors that they will be marked down for in paper 2.
When the tutor goes through the paper, she should point out all the sections where marks can be scored and not the other way round. Tutor should also look out for misconceptions in the reading of the paper, especially for math.
We worry because we care about our children’s future. It can be very helpful to remember your child’s strengths and good points whenever you feel the fear. Remembering these can help assure you that she will be fine no matter what. It is very important to build on some destressing time for yourself too. I have seen people’s hair turning white over this type of prolonged stress. -
jennytansc:
Sighh my gal is taking PSLE this year and she has been failing since primary 1. This SA she still fail quite badly for MA and Sci and EL. She is in the normal stream now and i dont hope that she goes into Norm Tech. She is already having 1-1 tuition. I am so horrified with the coming soon PSLE and i think i am the one depressed and wan to die liao
In my personal opinion, first you have to let her like the subject (I am a firm believer that they will naturally do well if they like the subject). But saying that, it is just a few more months to PSLE.
Most tuition work mainly on drilling first vs understanding first (my opinion again). -
You mean "mainstream" and not "Normal"? There is no Normal stream in Pr school.
If she has been failing since P1, what do her teachers/tutors say about her? Has she been tested for any learning disabilities? If there is no cause that can be specifically addressed, you will have to accept that this is the child that you have and help do her best. Your acceptance of her abilities will help her accept herself; and conversely, if you are so upset, this will affect her as well.
NT is really not the end of the world. A girl in my church, a friend of my daughter’s, went to NT. She was also not a strong student academically, but her parents were very encouraging that she would eventually find a niche. She went on to take O levels at Sec 5, and is studying Nursing in a poly now. She is a kind-hearted girl and nursing suits her, and her parents are very happy that she’s found something that she finds satisfaction in. Try to find something for your daughter to look forward to as well. Look at her strengths, not just the PSLE exam subjects. -
abhcbl:
no offence, but sometimes a child really just doesn’t have the aptitude for a subject.jennytansc:
Sighh my gal is taking PSLE this year and she has been failing since primary 1. This SA she still fail quite badly for MA and Sci and EL. She is in the normal stream now and i dont hope that she goes into Norm Tech. She is already having 1-1 tuition. I am so horrified with the coming soon PSLE and i think i am the one depressed and wan to die liao
In my personal opinion, first you have to let her like the subject (I am a firm believer that they will naturally do well if they like the subject). But saying that, it is just a few more months to PSLE.
Most tuition work mainly on drilling first vs understanding first (my opinion again).
Our system has also been stretched to the upper end of developmental norm, that makes it hard for children who are average, and even harder for kids who are at the lower end of developmental range. When I say developmental range, I don’t mean IQ but Piaget’s theory of child development. They can get there and do just as well, but not within our sped up time table. -
ammonite:
no offence, but sometimes a child really just doesn’t have the aptitude for a subject.abhcbl:
[quote=\"jennytansc\"]Sighh my gal is taking PSLE this year and she has been failing since primary 1. This SA she still fail quite badly for MA and Sci and EL. She is in the normal stream now and i dont hope that she goes into Norm Tech. She is already having 1-1 tuition. I am so horrified with the coming soon PSLE and i think i am the one depressed and wan to die liao
In my personal opinion, first you have to let her like the subject (I am a firm believer that they will naturally do well if they like the subject). But saying that, it is just a few more months to PSLE.
Most tuition work mainly on drilling first vs understanding first (my opinion again).
Our system has also been stretched to the upper end of developmental norm, that makes it hard for children who are average, and even harder for kids who are at the lower end of developmental range. When I say developmental range, I don’t mean IQ but Piaget’s theory of child development. They can get there and do just as well, but not within our sped up time table.[/quote]To add to that, we parents have to accept that for some kids in some subjects, all the coaching, tuition, drilling, as well as time in the world, will not make them either love or be good at a subject. We can try while they are young, but there comes a time when we have to accept reality. For some reason, we (and I include myself in when my kids were younger) find it easier to accept that a child does not have a love or talent in music or sport, but not when it's maths or science. -
Like what one mummy mentioned, our child’s well being is the most important. If you are stressed, your child can sense it.
Sometimes, just have to accept that our child has done their best or not ready to do their best. But we won’t love them less.
Every child has a different learning pace, normal tech may be a pace that suits her. -
slmkhoo:
That's very true. I guess it is because our educational system makes math and science very important up till o levels. Being bad at these subjects mean having options closed off at a young age and it is really not easy to move back up the educational and wage ladder thereafter.
For some reason, we (and I include myself in when my kids were younger) find it easier to accept that a child does not have a love or talent in music or sport, but not when it's maths or science.
Not impossible, but not easy either and cultural capital, income level and networks really come in to act as a buffer.
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