Me Time!
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janet88:
Ya. DH & I kept waking to check if Hospital called. Guess partly coz of jetlag. We both woke up same time & felt hungry. Had a nite-cap & chat abt options for the one-mth recuperation stay.
don't resist...take one tablet and sleep.Estéema:
Agree, Janet.
Still holding back & resisting it. If I sleep soon, will not resort to it tmr nite.
it's not a permanent thing. you need a good night sleep. i guess you didn't sleep well yesterday since FIL had op.
take good care of yourself. -
lee_yl:
Yes. Alr hv in mind to get a helper for PIL. As our parents age, it's not easy to manage day-to-day, much as we want to be personable. Possibly taking over a new Mynmar girl fr a frd. She alr trained 9 mths so hopefully, get her to learn how to handle FIL. I'll be looking ard for a male helper, if can find coz there'll be need in future for bathing FIL moving fwd.
Ahh... need to insert a metal rod means his fall is quite serious and will need some time to recover.Estéema:
lee_yl,
FIL got the steel rod replacement too. His hip was fractured across, so no choice but put in rod to help support hip.
Now hv to grapple with more elderly health issues relating to diabetes & heart issues.
THANK YOU ALL, for taking your ME time to help reduce my learning curve. Also reduced every family's stress. :thankyou:
Back then, grandma had to depend on us to help her cut her toe nails as she couldn’t bend her legs due to the metal rod.
Do you intend to get a helper? Else, I don’t think your MIL can cope.
St Andrews suggest we put a helper there to learn how to take care of her, like how to change diapers, how to carry her onto the wheel chair and how to help her shower. My mum and dad supposed to be her main care givers but my parents are almost 70yo themselves. But grandma insists no maid for her.
I was at St Andrew’s in the afternoon, grandma just got transferred over this morning from hospital. The environment here is pretty suited for recuperation. The in-charge told us the max she could stay here is only 28 days.
Today FIL was good doing his physio & walking a bit. Was very surprised but comforted. Doc indicated that he shld hv no ambulant problem. -
Estéema:
FIL can get off the bed and walk already? that's amazing! he just had an op.
Yes. Alr hv in mind to get a helper for PIL. As our parents age, it's not easy to manage day-to-day, much as we want to be personable. Possibly taking over a new Mynmar girl fr a frd. She alr trained 9 mths so hopefully, get her to learn how to handle FIL. I'll be looking ard for a male helper, if can find coz there'll be need in future for bathing FIL moving fwd.
Today FIL was good doing his physio & walking a bit. Was very surprised but comforted. Doc indicated that he shld hv no ambulant problem.
when mum had knee replacement op, she couldn't walk until the 2nd day. -
janet88:
Actually no jet lag , Eu n here only 6 hrs different - not much to lag ...Estéema:
Once we get over our jet lag after long flight which was delayed @ Helsinki, will be getting kids haircut done. FIL op today. Woozy head, tired & rushing ard.
understand...jet lag is the hardest to recover. as the body immunity is low at this time, it's best for the kids to stay at home at least for these few days.
Tired due to Long haul flight of more than 12 hrs. I m bounce n back to normal today, only tired the day after I arrived, now is busy clearing emails n work stuff, photos, soiled clothes, thick jacket_boring stuff n chores etc
Esteems is Super woman- noticed u were still active daily in here although in far away land, holiday ;Long haul flights ; fil ops -so much to handle yet still sounds quite energied around . ... u drink powerful Korea red ginseng “) .? anyway eat well n rest well as u will be going rounds hospital caring fil . -
janet88:
FIL can get off the bed and walk already? that's amazing! he just had an op.Estéema:
Yes. Alr hv in mind to get a helper for PIL. As our parents age, it's not easy to manage day-to-day, much as we want to be personable. Possibly taking over a new Mynmar girl fr a frd. She alr trained 9 mths so hopefully, get her to learn how to handle FIL. I'll be looking ard for a male helper, if can find coz there'll be need in future for bathing FIL moving fwd.
Today FIL was good doing his physio & walking a bit. Was very surprised but comforted. Doc indicated that he shld hv no ambulant problem.
when mum had knee replacement op, she couldn't walk until the 2nd day.
I'm still not sleeping. So chat abit.
I suspect coz he was on painkillers, so no pain. The physiotherapist worked with him for 15 min in the morning, then came back afternn for ano 15 min. Will keep him active according to doc to get him adjusted & recover fast. -
MyPillow:
Actually no jet lag , Eu n here only 6 hrs different - not much to lag ...janet88:
[quote=\"Estéema\"]Once we get over our jet lag after long flight which was delayed @ Helsinki, will be getting kids haircut done. FIL op today. Woozy head, tired & rushing ard.
understand...jet lag is the hardest to recover. as the body immunity is low at this time, it's best for the kids to stay at home at least for these few days. Tired due to Long haul flight of more than 12 hrs. I m bounce n back to normal today, only tired the day after I arrived, now is busy clearing emails n work stuff, photos, soiled clothes, thick jacket_boring stuff n chores etc
Esteems is Super woman- noticed u were still active daily in here although in far away land, holiday ;Long haul flights ; fil ops -so much to handle yet still sounds quite energied around . ... u drink powerful Korea red ginseng “) .? anyway eat well n rest well as u will be going rounds hospital caring fil .[/quote]
Whole family still jet lag. Think we were hit badly coz we spent almost a month out since last week of May & then our flight was delayed & no proper place to sleep till next day's flight & then transit. We were all practically on seats & I wished they're considerate to switch-off or dim the lights & play soft music or non at all. But these Europeans were playing some jazz singing that's jarring to me ears (young men's voices cracking here & there). Then some young kids crying away till I saw her eyes all red when she surrender to tiredness.
On arrival MIL called to say FIL fell but I cldnt register fast enuf to respond till next day quickly got him to A&E. Felt so guilty when doc showed as scan of fractured hip - right across the entire hip plate. Errrh! Cld've got him operated earlier. -
Estéema:
Huh? Your FIL has started to walk a bit? His pain tolerance level must be very high! Actually for those elderly suffering from osteoporosis, such fall could be fatal.
Yes. Alr hv in mind to get a helper for PIL. As our parents age, it's not easy to manage day-to-day, much as we want to be personable. Possibly taking over a new Mynmar girl fr a frd. She alr trained 9 mths so hopefully, get her to learn how to handle FIL. I'll be looking ard for a male helper, if can find coz there'll be need in future for bathing FIL moving fwd.
Today FIL was good doing his physio & walking a bit. Was very surprised but comforted. Doc indicated that he shld hv no ambulant problem.
For the past two weeks, my grandma didn’t dare to come down from the hospital bed. Hers should be hairline crack, no op this time thou.
Can find a male helper? You want to try this? Engage a 3hr home care nurse to help him shower and do physio at home? I suspect after a few months when your FIL can use the U-shape walker and slowly walk to the bathroom on his own, he might not want some to shower for him.
https://www.homage.sg/en/home-care -
lee_yl:
lee_yl,
Huh? Your FIL has started to walk a bit? His pain tolerance level must be very high! Actually for those elderly suffering from osteoporosis, such fall could be fatal.Estéema:
Yes. Alr hv in mind to get a helper for PIL. As our parents age, it's not easy to manage day-to-day, much as we want to be personable. Possibly taking over a new Mynmar girl fr a frd. She alr trained 9 mths so hopefully, get her to learn how to handle FIL. I'll be looking ard for a male helper, if can find coz there'll be need in future for bathing FIL moving fwd.
Today FIL was good doing his physio & walking a bit. Was very surprised but comforted. Doc indicated that he shld hv no ambulant problem.
For the past two weeks, my grandma didn’t dare to come down from the hospital bed. Hers should be hairline crack, no op this time thou.
Can find a male helper? You want to try this? Engage a 3hr home care nurse to help him shower and do physio at home? I suspect after a few months when your FIL can use the U-shape walker and slowly walk to the bathroom on his own, he might not want some to shower for him.
https://www.homage.sg/en/home-care
You've given me a good option. Will toss the idea of care nurse to the extended family.
Actually, what happened this morning at the hospital was FIL find it diff to pee on bed-pan. He said can only do in toilet. The physiotherapist started him walking helped him to walk over the washroom to ease himself, after that physio guy encouraged him to walk ard the ward. So, both the painkiller & motivation to get himself out of embarrassment peeing on bed-pan were factors.
Doc said bcoz of his age, he'll not use a U-shaped walker but a walker support. Wanted to get the straight walker for him, but doc said he can use the ones in ward & community hospital hv them too. The idea is to get him to walk independently.
We'll modify the house & was thinking soft paddings ard the house. Just awhile ago, I was thinking of laying carpets for presentation, but this will definitely require getting extra work. -
My sis immediately got the bathrooms modified. You can apply online.
http://www10.hdb.gov.sg/eBook/EASE/html5/index.html?opf=tablet/EASELeaflet.xml&launchpage=http://www10.hdb.gov.sg/eBook/EASE/leaflet.html -
lee_yl,
PIL will not need the bathroom modification as they’ve the place renovated with the hand bars & non-slip tiles.
I’m thinkinng more of slopes btwn living & kitchen & bathrooms, so PIL won’t kick the ketbs & fall. Noticed as they age, they tend to shuffle their feet possibly coz of weak leg muscles. I had my own entire house reno with seamless slopes ard the house in anticipation for our aging & in case hv to care for PIL in the future, but their homes hv those kerbs esp bathrooms. Also, moving furnitures to corners of wall areas to create clear walking space, padding living room & bedroom floors, & add grab bars in the kitchen for MIL (do one time in case MIL need them too in future). Hope I’m not getting over the board.
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